Gaurav's Fault in all this? - Page 2

Hm well written..agreed with u..

I like your post and completely agree. It does seem like they lack common sense at times..if she wasn't ready to move on she should have told him its not like he dragged her there to get married.

Originally posted by: misti73

I have not watched this episode so my response is only based on what is written in the update. Gaurav deciding to go ahead with the marriage despite knowing about Divya's past and Divya dumping him on the alter are two different issues and I will be writing on them separately.

I have a slightly different view on Gaurav wanting to marry Divya despite knowing her past. Divya was very open to him about her past and she did give him the choice to decide whether he wants toget into a relationship with her. It was also very clear from Divya's reactions that her past is part of her present and she has not got over her past. Gaurav is not a teenager or a very young person. He has been projected as a very level headed and mature person. So based on his maturity it would have been better if he had not rushed into this marriage and he could have told Divya that he is taking a step back and giving her time to sor herself out first. He could have also told her that he is doing this not because he does not want to get married to her and not also because he does not love her. It is actually his love and respect for her that is making him do this. He is there for her as a friend and will wait for her decision. He could have also convinced his mother that he does want to get married to Divya but not now. But unfortunately his love for Divya and the direct presence of Raj in their relationship has most probaly made him insecure and maybe that is the reason why he is still going for the marriage. I am interested to see that if Divya explains her position will he be strong and mature enough to take a step back. So for me the choice regarding marrying Divya was his and he went ahead with his eyes wide open so he should also be ready to face whatever happens as a consequence of his choice.

Regarding Divya dumping him in the alter...I am not saying that what she did was right. She did wrong and she should have explained to Gaurav. Infact what I have written regarding Gaurav also holds true for Divya. She should also have not gone for this marriage. Divya is getting married because her family want her to get married.She could have told her siblings that at this point she does not want to get married because she has got some unresolved issues regarding her past. Her siblings have been projected as understanding people, so I don't see why they couldn't have accepted her POV. Anyway both Divya and Gaurav are human and they got caught up in their emotions and have let their emotions control their decisions. Unfortunately now both might have to face the repurcussions of their individual decisions.

As for marrying people with the past...based on my POV there is no harm in marrying someone with a past. Infact realistically majority of people do have a past. But it is always prudent to marry someone whose past belongs where it should be...that is in the past and not in the present. In the same way a person with a past should also deal with their past and make peace with it before entering any new relationship.

Why she was getting married in the first place when all the time she was waiting for Sarita,s call . Now turning quite unrealistic . Was it Gaurav,s fault ,he wanted to marry her . why did not she told Gaurav what happened between her and Sarita and she wants to postpone the marriage . Gaurav is shown mature , understanding , he would surely had agreed . As for Gaurav,s mother , to be happy to have CB as her DIL is not big thing . In real life , have seen people liking the mute DIL and wanting someone like her as their DIL. In Angie,s words Sacrificial Lamb. But here i do not find any fault of Gaurav marrying Divya , who is still stuck in her past . He already said when he says yes and tell Divya that its your honesty 50% and 50% my love for you . The way story is moving , viewers will loose the interest and Divya,s character has been changed .
If Sarita had rang after sometime , then marriage would have completed . Just binging illogical twist . One more thing , where was Raj , could not he has contacted Divya as was in Mumbai not in some other country , was not this his responsibility to tell the girl , whom he was marrying under pressure that he will not accept her . Why did she went through hell in this madhouse , treated as maid . where Raj knew whats happening still did not paid any attention . He also treated her like rag .

Hmm, i am not sorry for Gaurav, the man. knew what he's getting himself into..he is mature enough..way too mature from my pov for divya...he wants something, let him suffer, its not like life is only milk and honey...yeah,. divya its at fault too, and i see her responsible enough to appologize to gaurav saying she needs more time to think before marriage, he will understand and thats it.