Gaurav's Fault in all this?

I feel really bad for him. He was big hearted enough to not hold Divya's past against her. Moreover, he has been very level-headed and matured in the way he has handled Divya's slip of tongue or her tears for Raj.

Originally posted by: ruchisahay

I feel really bad for him. He was big hearted enough to not hold Divya's past against her. Moreover, he has been very level-headed and matured in the way he has handled Divya's slip of tongue or her tears for Raj.

Today the way Divya dumped him on the altar before the entire city crowd (maybe media people as well, as she is a celebrity) - that defies logic and is very cruel to him. I just don't get it - why do leads behave as if they completely lack common sense. Divya is not a bad person - to the contrary she has been shown to be very responsible and generous. How can she do that to a person who has been so nice and accommodating. If she doesn't want to marry him for her own or Sarita's sake, that's fine. But why subject him to public ridicule? What has he ever done to deserve this?

Does this mean one should never ever fall for any person who has a past? Sarita has suffered for 10 years and it's Gaurav's turn next? Does having suffered a failed relationship (for whatever reasons) automatically entitles one to become so self-centered that they can't see the obvious?

Liked your post , i was also thinking the same . it does not go with Divya,s character that she will dump a person without giving any explanations , left all of them to face the insults . All of a sudden her character was changed to callous person , one who was responsible , honest and caring . I liked gaurav,s character who is honest , caring , and trusted in Divya,s trust ..You never know Hindi shows , TRP rules and so brings illogical turns .

Originally posted by: Neerjaa

Liked your post , i was also thinking the same . it does not go with Divya,s character that she will dump a person without giving any explanations , left all of them to face the insults . All of a sudden her character was changed to callous person , one who was responsible , honest and caring . I liked gaurav,s character who is honest , caring , and trusted in Divya,s trust ..You never know Hindi shows , TRP rules and so brings illogical turns .

Ruchi,

ME TOO IF SHE WANT TO HELP SARITA WHY SHE HAVE TO MARRIED SHE CAN TELL GAURAV SHE DONT WANT TO MARRIED I DONT NO WHY SHE FILL GUILTY FOR SARITA NOW I NO MAY BE GAURAV WILL BE NEGATIV BECAUSE HE SAY HE LOVE DIVYA THE FRIST TIME HE SAW HER AND DIVYA DUMP HIS SO LET SEE WHAT IS NEXT

I have not watched this episode so my response is only based on what is written in the update. Gaurav deciding to go ahead with the marriage despite knowing about Divya's past and Divya dumping him on the alter are two different issues and I will be writing on them separately.

I have a slightly different view on Gaurav wanting to marry Divya despite knowing her past. Divya was very open to him about her past and she did give him the choice to decide whether he wants toget into a relationship with her. It was also very clear from Divya's reactions that her past is part of her present and she has not got over her past. Gaurav is not a teenager or a very young person. He has been projected as a very level headed and mature person. So based on his maturity it would have been better if he had not rushed into this marriage and he could have told Divya that he is taking a step back and giving her time to sor herself out first. He could have also told her that he is doing this not because he does not want to get married to her and not also because he does not love her. It is actually his love and respect for her that is making him do this. He is there for her as a friend and will wait for her decision. He could have also convinced his mother that he does want to get married to Divya but not now. But unfortunately his love for Divya and the direct presence of Raj in their relationship has most probaly made him insecure and maybe that is the reason why he is still going for the marriage. I am interested to see that if Divya explains her position will he be strong and mature enough to take a step back. So for me the choice regarding marrying Divya was his and he went ahead with his eyes wide open so he should also be ready to face whatever happens as a consequence of his choice.

Regarding Divya dumping him in the alter...I am not saying that what she did was right. She did wrong and she should have explained to Gaurav. Infact what I have written regarding Gaurav also holds true for Divya. She should also have not gone for this marriage. Divya is getting married because her family want her to get married.She could have told her siblings that at this point she does not want to get married because she has got some unresolved issues regarding her past. Her siblings have been projected as understanding people, so I don't see why they couldn't have accepted her POV. Anyway both Divya and Gaurav are human and they got caught up in their emotions and have let their emotions control their decisions. Unfortunately now both might have to face the repurcussions of their individual decisions.

As for marrying people with the past...based on my POV there is no harm in marrying someone with a past. Infact realistically majority of people do have a past. But it is always prudent to marry someone whose past belongs where it should be...that is in the past and not in the present. In the same way a person with a past should also deal with their past and make peace with it before entering any new relationship.

agrees with u view

Originally posted by: Angie12

Ruchi,

This is one trait of sacrificing people (mahaan ones) especially in Hindi soaps. They choose one person for whom they do sacrifices after sacrifices. Usually, it is not the hero, but hero's mother or one's family if the main lead is adopted. Here Divya has picked up Sarita whom she has given assurance that she would never break her trust. So it is going to be one test after another. If some are sacrificed on the alter for this, then so be it.

On a serious note, Gaurav is the one who deserves the maximum sympathy. But he made a mistake of getting married (so soon) even after knowing that Divya still has not gotten over Raj. He needed to wait to see if this relationship is going to work when other person's heart is not in it. Unfortunately, he is so infatuated with Divya that he wants to make her his. So he is bound to get hurt. I do hope that Divya is given a reality check by both Raj and Gaurav when they find out her intentions. At this time, she is wallowing in so much self-guilt induced by Sarita that she is not thinking straight. It is not her fault that Raj and Sarita are married to each other. She was in Raj's life prior to Sarita. She can feel responsible for Raj's condition where she didn't realize the hurt she caused him. Her fault was not in keeping touch with him. So she needs to provide him some closure. But it is not her responsibility to fix someone's marriage. Of course since her decision to leave this marriage is for Sarita, she is doing wrong to so many people - Gaurav and his family and to some extent even her siblings who are bewildered at her behavior. She should been upfront about this from the very beginning.

I don't feel that sad for Gaurav's mother because for her, Divya is just an object to be shown off. She rarely calls her Divya. It is always CB. But Gaurav is the big loser in all this mess. Of course, he is going into this relationship with open eyes. But still there has to be a limit to somethings.

agree with u angie di

Originally posted by: Angie12

Ruchi,

This is one trait of sacrificing people (mahaan ones) especially in Hindi soaps. They choose one person for whom they do sacrifices after sacrifices. Usually, it is not the hero, but hero's mother or one's family if the main lead is adopted. Here Divya has picked up Sarita whom she has given assurance that she would never break her trust. So it is going to be one test after another. If some are sacrificed on the alter for this, then so be it.

On a serious note, Gaurav is the one who deserves the maximum sympathy. But he made a mistake of getting married (so soon) even after knowing that Divya still has not gotten over Raj. He needed to wait to see if this relationship is going to work when other person's heart is not in it. Unfortunately, he is so infatuated with Divya that he wants to make her his. So he is bound to get hurt. I do hope that Divya is given a reality check by both Raj and Gaurav when they find out her intentions. At this time, she is wallowing in so much self-guilt induced by Sarita that she is not thinking straight. It is not her fault that Raj and Sarita are married to each other. She was in Raj's life prior to Sarita. She can feel responsible for Raj's condition where she didn't realize the hurt she caused him. Her fault was not in keeping touch with him. So she needs to provide him some closure. But it is not her responsibility to fix someone's marriage. Of course since her decision to leave this marriage is for Sarita, she is doing wrong to so many people - Gaurav and his family and to some extent even her siblings who are bewildered at her behavior. She should been upfront about this from the very beginning.

I don't feel that sad for Gaurav's mother because for her, Divya is just an object to be shown off. She rarely calls her Divya. It is always CB. But Gaurav is the big loser in all this mess. Of course, he is going into this relationship with open eyes. But still there has to be a limit to somethings.

Great post Angie.

Originally posted by: seema12345

am waiting to see gaurav reaction to divya dumping him like this in front of everyone --and wont be surprised that he forgives divya again wich would be soo unrealistic

Me too. Well the whole premise is unrealistic - now Gaurav truly belongs to the mix. 😊