I feel its baseless to pity with Sarita - Page 2

I totally agree with each and every point u have mentioned

I can only say divya was victim of circumstances the most then Raj and at last Sarita.

Hi,

Thats what I am saying too...

your right i dont feel pity for Sarita either, i too feel she didnt need to live this miserable life for ten years. if she was hoping to change Raj she ended up changing herself. she should have left him long time back when she found out he was in love with someone else. why live another 8 years of her life with a man who does not notice her. why cheepen herself in her own eyes and then blame him or divya.

I believe that everyone is paying for their own choices. Its the choices you make, shapes ones life and these 3 characters made some choices in their life...may be due to family pressure, compulsions, dreams, responsibilities etc. and that's what made them reach here at this point! Thus nobody can blame nobody here. Everybody made some wrong decisions, which seemed right to them at that point...and may be they never had an option!

For example...Divya didn't have an option but to shoulder responsibilities of her family and hence had to take the choice of leaving Raj.

Sarita, may be didn't have an option of going away from the marriage mandap at the final moment and decided to give this marriage a chance with a hope that she may reform Raj.

Raj, again was forced in to this marriage by giving him some 'dhamki'.

I wouldn't say its baseless to pity with Sarita...because i myself feel sorry for her. Yes, she took a wrong decision of marrying a man who could never love her. However, she didn't have an option! In a small town like this, girls don't leave the mandap at the end moment! When she came in to his house, as she said, she too was a sweet tongued, loving person who may have given all love, care, respect to elders and Raj...but got none in return. I agree she need not have stayed in this marriage...but in a small town, its not that easy to walk off from a marriage. Her father may be rich and all...but in small towns, people do make thousand talks when a girl leaves her marital home and returns. Perhaps she didn't leave this house only because she knew that life may get even more worse than this, after leaving Raj. Yes, i feel pity for Sarita because she is stuck from all corners. Unloving husband, Cruel in laws and the worse of all that she cannot break free herself of this marriage!! She would have wanted to go back to her home, but it would not be so easy you see...i would say its easier said than done. Its destiny that's forcing her to live in this house...and hence she is craving for Raj's love...because she knows that she doesn't have another way out!

Coming to Divya, again, she didn't have much options. She had to choose between her family and her love. She selflessly gave up on her love and chose her family, wishing that he would wait for her when she returns. Again destiny. She got everything that she may have never craved for -- money, fame, riches...and the one thing she craved from the bottom of her heart -- raj, was lost in this process. She blamed Sarita for making him a Raddiwala, that he is not the creative person anymore. Why didn't she think once, that it could be because she left him? Why just blame Sarita? Because Sarita has her Raj? Well, she needed that truth from Sarita and understood that it was her decision that made Raj like this! I pity Divya too because she too was stuck in a crossroad where she was in a losing position whichever route she took! If she chose family, Raj would be shattered and if she chose Raj...her family would be! She just became a pawn in the game of destiny.

And finally, Raj -- I feel pity for him as well. He lost out so much. He lost the girl he loved, gave up on his career and deep inside his mind, he knows that he is responsible for ruining Sarita's life! But what can he do? He is stuck from all corners as well. He never wanted to marry and ruin Sarita's life...but his family wanted him to marry this girl and he did so.

Last but not the least, i even feel pity for Gaurav now...because he will be the one who will come in between these characters and for the choices they made!!

I hope they show that Sarita gets to break herself free of this marriage...because that's what she really needs now. I don't think she loves Raj because he has never done anything for her to love him. Rather she just thinks that its her duty to be with him because she got married to him...that she needs his love, care, respect because she wants this marriage to survive...or else she doesn't have any option. May be her breaking off from this marriage and Raj-Divya getting second chances along with Sarita too would be the bold theme of the show!

il admit i liked diferent characterisation of bahu, sarita is spitfire n retorts back to her inlaws as they do to her! it refreshing not seeing another docile bahu who dsnt stand up for herself!

but same time, i feel sarita's desire of raj n marriage isnt for right reasons, i cant say she truely loves raj coz he hasnt done anythg for her to make her fall in love with him! rather like said above she wants her "husband" back simply coz its who she married!
there is a bigger world out there sarita can live!

That is true she bame divya for that she ive in this house for 10years she did not do nothing nw she want divya to make raj love for 10yeaes nothing nw what will happen why she live wit a guy dont love her not 1day 10years I dont like the story I like sarita I watch her in cbshe is good I dont want sarita fans get mad but her way no good she have to try to win her husband love sorry if I hurt some one Er

@Goolab ^^^ u are right! no offense to sarita fans, but sarita is blinded by her so called 10yrs of frustration!

d point is love can not be forced, it either happens or it dsnt! fact remains Sarita for starters dsnt even know what love is, how it happens n she hasnt been in love! and thats normal, alot of ppl fall in love just with the word love, but dont actually know what it is until they experience it! marriage dsnt always equate to love, but love can equate to marriage! sarita falls in d 1st category!

I agree with all the folks mentioning that it was idiotic for Sarita to be in this baseless relationship for 10 long years.
But this is a very very theoretical approach in a country like India and a city like Bhopal.
I don't really think the ones blaming Sarita for continuing this for 10 years know how the small town society actually behaves with a divorcee woman especially the one who took the initiative for the same.
(No offence for the ones who have never faced such a situation)


Remember Raj's mother's reaction when Raj and Sarita spilled the beans before the entire family. That Sarita was not good enough at seducing her husband!!!!
Yes the wife is always held responsible for not being able to keep her marriage intact, to keep in-laws happy, to give children a good upbringing, and if the husband is ever feeling like leaving her, its the wife's mistake.

Obviously Raj cares the least about whether he is married in papers and before the society or not! He didn't try to avoid the marriage, nor did he try to attempt a divorce, though he was the one who needed it.

We still don't have a very good picture on how Sarita's parents or family members are or their approach to their daughter getting a divorce, so we can't really blame her for not initiating a divorce.

Her crude ways of reacting to her MIL and SIL's taunts are obviously a way to vent out her frustration as she can't opt for the major step of a marriage walk out and she doesn't want herself to be proven wrong in everyone's eyes either.

I find her behaviour quite practical, instead of the female protagonists usually portrayed as doormats who keep tolerating and never speak a word.

No complaints with Divya though, her only mistake was leaving Raj, but she had reasons for it.
Raj needs to understand that no one can have it all and doing to Sarita what was done to him won't give him any peace.