A Note From A Reader To Writer - Edited - Page 5

I agree that while writing stories on sexual assault, they have to be dealt with extreme sensitivity. No amount of glorification of the male lead after the assault will justify his deeds. Hence there is no question of the victim "falling in love" with the culprit.

I am with you Shruti when you say that stories shouldn't affirm that a heinous crime like rape can be justified. If the plot of such stories isn't rational, it will give a wrong message to the readers.

Originally posted by: Shruti21

zehra di-
i made this post few months back.. and that time i have asked the MODs.. they replied stories on rape is not allowed..

i dnt know why people are thinking i am demanding or dictating or forcing the writers.. no i am not this post was only on the humanitrian ground.. because not even in their wildest dream a writer cn feel the pain of such victims.. if you cant do justice to such issues why to even try thn..

I saw the PM exchange you had put up. In my experience, Resham has never been a very active MOD. And it is better to follow the particular forum DT ie Angel.Jot. As it is Resham is no longer a MOD.

Secondly, I know your post is meant in a good sense. But none of us are perfect either here or in the real world. But we try, don't we? We can't do justice to so many things but we still do it. For eg: I have never been romantically in love with anyone! But still I try to write about the same from my observations and readings. Similarly authors over here try to write about rape, they have suffered from it or not!

If an author is going wrong, tell him/her. But I don't think so we should even request people to not write on such topics because its what they wish to write. If we don't like what they write we shouldn't read it. If we don't agree with them, discuss it. If they cross the forum rules, report it.

A fact - Marital Rape - It is very common across the whole world. Do you know, most wives don't even lodge a complaint or utter even a word against their husbands be it the wives from the 'ultra modern' US or a simple girl from some small village in India?

So, in my eyes if an author writes that the wife continued to stay with her husband, despite of the tortures he did upon her, her/him writing about that is not wrong. Because he/she has stated a fact of the world! But if she had shown a stronger wife who went against her husband and put him behind the bars, she would have shown a progressive story which is a reality as well. But its a rarity.

So, according to me writing about both is not incorrect because these are FACTS!

But, writing that the victim enjoys being raped is incorrect because no person either man or woman enjoys to be raped because if they enjoy it, it won't be rape any more, it will be making love :)

I hope I have put across my points well!


P.S. In no way I am supporting the act of rape!

There is a difference between accepting a fact and accepting the act!

I am accepting a fact over here!

Rape is rape is rape

Originally posted by: lazyleaves

I saw the PM exchange you had put up. In my experience, Resham has never been a very active MOD. And it is better to follow the particular forum DT ie Angel.Jot. As it is Resham is no longer a MOD.

Secondly, I know your post is meant in a good sense. But none of us are perfect either here or in the real world. But we try, don't we? We can't do justice to so many things but we still do it. For eg: I have never been romantically in love with anyone! But still I try to write about the same from my observations and readings. Similarly authors over here try to write about rape, they have suffered from it or not!

If an author is going wrong, tell him/her. But I don't think so we should even request people to not write on such topics because its what they wish to write. If we don't like what they write we shouldn't read it. If we don't agree with them, discuss it. If they cross the forum rules, report it.

A fact - Marital Rape - It is very common across the whole world. Do you know, most wives don't even lodge a complaint or utter even a word against their husbands be it the wives from the 'ultra modern' US or a simple girl from some small village in India?

So, in my eyes if an author writes that the wife continued to stay with her husband, despite of the tortures he did upon her, her/him writing about that is not wrong. Because he/she has stated a fact of the world! But if she had shown a stronger wife who went against her husband and put him behind the bars, she would have shown a progressive story which is a reality as well. But its a rarity.

So, according to me writing about both is not incorrect because these are FACTS!

But, writing that the victim enjoys being raped is incorrect because no person either man or woman enjoys to be raped because if they enjoy it, it won't be rape any more, it will be making love :)

I hope I have put across my points well!


P.S. In no way I am supporting the act of rape!

There is a difference between accepting a fact and accepting the act!

I am accepting a fact over here!

i so very much agree wd u here zehra di...dis is one truth dat no woman is unaware off...i know many couples who belong to very modern part of the country nd yet suffer it...wdout a word...
marital rape is nt just in terms of physical aspect...but dere sumthng called verbal rape...dat almost evy married woman in India suffer...no m nt talking abt slangs used on the ladies...bt wen u disrespect her decision wen a lady's wishes...desires are nt taken into consideration...wen she is xpected to respect her in-laws nd oblige by evythng her husband says...but wen it comes to her ...her mother father brother family is disrespected/insulted if not in a direct way...den in indirect way...her words are nt taken into account...her feelings are nt considered as feelings... ...yet again her inner self is raped...destroyed..

neways i do agree dat stories are many a times a reflection of reality...nd reality is nethng but beautiful...its brutal...its unfair...its vicious... bt my point here was dat thngs could be written in a much subtle manner...dere are writers who get into egregious details of physical harassment...we really dont need dat...if stories like dis are to be written...i believe dat now is the time wen the writers should step forward showing dat by no means a woman is weak...by no means she is dirty or impure...through such stories...

Much needed post

I see your point! Such stories are encouraging heinous acts like rape! Its outright immoral, and unethical. Rape is a rape, and it does not change if the rapist is your lover, husband or a stranger. It all boils down to one message--endure the crime. Very saddening.