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Sarah

@Crazy_1001

Dazzler

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Posted: 13 years ago

#61

I wanted to throw in my opinion.

So Im a only 19 so marriage hopefully is a couple of years away I hope, Im living in Canada and I have seen many a married couple living unhappily.

What most of these dramas do is create unrealistically high expectations in girls mind of what their future husband should be like.

Basically saying that he should follow your every command, give in too all your wants or needs, always stand up for you against his family, and all that stuff. Now that would be the ideal husband.

But as we all know thats never really the case in a marriage, sure the husband may do that occasionally but more often than not, the husband doesn't really say anything to support the wife if it means going against his family. He may not say anything bad about her but he may not say anything good about her either.

Its our culture really the "wife" is treated as an outcast in families, and the in-laws think that she is going to take their son away from them and brainwash him and what not. Thats not the case though but thats how it is, and Indian dramas keep reiterating these facts.

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AADHIDEV

@AADHIDEV

Navigator

Posted: 13 years ago

#62

I am a married women ( Malayali) settled in Bangalore. Ours luv cm arranged marriage

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bhagyathara

@bhagyathara

Inactive

Posted: 13 years ago

#63

married for 16 years , living in kuwait and ofcourse indian

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tajygl

@tajygl

Navigator

Posted: 13 years ago

#64

Hi,

I agree with you, even I am surprised sometimes the ay these people write, I asked one lady her age sometime back , she is 15 year school kid in UK. What the f**** ill she ever understand about the social conditions in India and something like marriage.

My sister who is married for the last 20 years has to inform my brother in law when she has to travel ro visit friends. I doen't mean she doesnot have freedom to do hat she wishes. But there are so many things she manages at home that her absence can put everybody schedule into a tai tai fis.

Kushi has understood Arnav's needs as a human being, but will take time to understand him as her her husband, what his needs are. Thats elders in the family give that private to newly weds to understand each other, unfortunately Khushi didn't get that time due to Shyam's fiasco. Slowly she will get to that point where she can understand him completely.

People are tuned to western way fo living that there are forgetting the basics of Indian culture.

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GodhuliLogon

@GodhuliLogon

Inactive

+ 5

Posted: 13 years ago

#65

I read almost all the comments .. its different.. loved the interactions..

many of u already said so many hard truths.. some shared their good lucks and wisdom.. loved it all..

although this post was for only india... im being from BD (as we kind of share same type of basic things)..I want to put down from my side.. :)
whatever i am seeing from my cousins and my friends.. things are quite a lot changing.. specially husbands or man.. if they really wanna work on the marriage they give full support to their wives.. no matter what other issues.. only those marriages are working out now a dayz.. BD is not that much conservative , ppl here r really very open minded..

I am just talking about my generations and later ones..
My bro left my parents home to start his new home after 4 yrs of marriage.. and it was a very mutual decision as he was d only son he stayed.. but my father is now half paralysed but still they moved on.. and we sisters support them fully.. because we thought that is good for them.. and all of us now happy .. coming on weekends and all.. but what i saw my bro stood by her wife all along I liked his stance he balanced both my parents and his wife.. and it worked.. my friend whoever has a supporting husband their marriages is only working without any so much complaints.. I am telling this..because that is the base line- support or defend or be there for ur wife .. is the one quality which will straighten the marriage.. thats why we want ASR to be there for her on every single bad phase be it one nasty comment ..

and If i can make a MID now I would have told my miserable life story about an ASR ... but cant tell here now .. :)
No offense to anyone..

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Megha

@mango-frost

Stunner

+ 2

Posted: 13 years ago

#66

not married but have a loving boyfriend, who i wish to marry...i consider him as my hubby...and we both live in canada..

i do compare him with arnav many times...he is very much like arnav personality wise...but he doesnt have that much anger, thankfully..haha...but hes as loving and caring and trustworthy as arnav is towards khushi 😃

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Princy

@Rickronson

Explorer

Posted: 13 years ago

#67

I am married and have two sons of 5 n 3 years of age. An Indian live in Dubai. I am totally agree with u and ur thoughts. But its okay dear friend; I think may be the bashers and criticizers belong to the other group ( unmarried) who are still not aware of the reality of the Indian married couples state. Let them criticize and expect whatever they like. Once they go through the real life situations, they also get to know it.