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Seems these days people are pretty much only seeing one side of the coin, so let me bring about the other. Just like to say that my personal stance on this issue is ever changing so whatever is in this post may or may not be what I feel about the issue at hand.
What is the ONE thing that binds Inder, Beeji, Khadhaberi, Madan, Dadaji, Swamini, Pinky and Vanshika together in comparison to Viren and Jeevika? They are from a completely different generation with completely different ways of thinking and processing life's difficulties.
Conservatism is woven through our elders (desi ones at that) and they hold what we call 'old-fashioned' ideals to heart. And conservatism is inextricably linked with certain lines and limits within society; some we may agree with or some we don't.
Abortions is one of them: there is a huge divide between the pro choice and pro life groups not just on IF, but every corner of the world you go. It's a highly contentious topic, and this divide is more or less evident between the generation gap too.
For many of them, abortions - legal abortions, legal abortions with proper healthcare has only been in existence for only a portion of their lives. Their beliefs and values point towards the aborting of a child to akin with murder, and murder, despite in whichever tongue it is spoken with still has the same connotations of evil and wrong doing.
And todays epi was not at all surprising; what else could we expect from the older generation? They've lived their lives a different way to us, so of course their stand point on issues are going to be completely different to ours. (This example is in no way in comparison to what the Vadhera's and Choudhary's are saying because in that issue there is no right and wrong, but this whole generation gap reminds me of some of my white friends grandparents who's ideals and beliefs are still ones which in this day and age will have no importance - the belief that race is crucial to a persons standing in the world, and that no other colour can ever be superior than their own.)
And along with that, how can you expect the same people to embrace the radical and revolutionary (in their ears) ideas within a few seconds, despite whatever circumstances they're in? The generations which has kept on striving for their goals, never stopping and reaching for the end goal through their personal struggles - how can they take the 'easy' way out, especially if that 'easy' way has damning consequences?
You've got two completely different lines of thought at play here and to convert one from the other will take TIME. And time is seemingly of the essence which just heightens the tensions within the family. There's no right or wrong answer here. And the same goes for Manvi; for someone who has JUST heard of this, it would sound shake the body to the core.
In times of anxiety and heart break, people don't think, they don't want to think towards the bigger picture because all they can see is what is staring them in the face and it's not pretty at all. Everyone is right in their place with regards to the way they feel; at the end of the day, you can't just spring something as huge as an abortion and then think it will be plain sailing the rest of the way.
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