Posted:
Well I think everyone waited for it for a long time! It came today and several celebrated.
But, I have a simple question -- will this lead to "creation of passion" between the two? Will this lead to the kind of feelings that want the person to get close? My Verdict -- NOPE! It fell way short of the mark.
I just want to do a comparative analysis between 2 apologies:
First -- the one in the gazebo after he yells at her at the death anniversary of his parents. What did they show:
1. He cared about her "tears".
2. He understood that he was WRONG.
3. He expressed his thoughts/feelings to a mirror in order to make sure he apologizes right.
4. He waited for her to come home that day -- but she didnt so he started inquiring about her arrival home.
5. He found out that she was going to a party with Lavanya
6. He went to the party location -- got into an argument with her. But calmed himself down to get himself to understand that he was on a mission.
7. He went to the gazebo -- found her there. He had trouble saying the words but did.
8. The way he said them showed the most important thing -- he meant the apology.
What happened here -- the length this apology lasted kind of made us realize that he felt the "guilt". He wanted to apologize desperately since he knew he was wrong. The important part was the fact that he "realized all those mistakes". And the final act of saying "sorry" was just the final manifestation of that whole thinking.
Now let us see what happened this time:
1. He sees bruises from the slap.
2. That makes him think that she is hurt because of him -- we dont know if that was a trigger or if he has been thinking that he was wrong all along!
3. He goes to the backyard and plays back a few scenes in his head and takes off.
4. Goes to Khushi, flirts with her and then says "sorry for anything I did, with or without realizing that I hurt you"!!!
So, what is missing -- he did not really recount what was totally wrong in each of the incidents. So, if he apologizes for something without really knowing what he apologizing for, how can that count for an apology???? How will it have an impact?? When the whole thing lasts say about 10 mins, how will it be an apology for the crap he did?
Now if you look at the number of times people watched that scene and that episode, you will see the impact the first gazebo apology had. What is the impact here??
Why is it important -- well simple psychology -- Passion, anger, hatred, love ... are all very strong emotions. The intensity of these emotions is determined by how much time you spent to "feel" them. The passion required to create a strong sexual relationship originates in several things including lust and these feelings. The passion one feels for another person are rooted in strong emotions.
If they make this really strong emotional scene this feeble and so damn soft, how can they show the passion between this couple?? where will it come from?
The focus seems to be more on these crappy past things rather than on making sure that these guys recover and get close to each other.
If they had let these two recover the passion and then brought the Dadi into the equation for the "remarriage" they would have achieved all goals. This hap-hazard writing is showing why we are not jumping up and down more!
Cheers.
Hui Ghum Yaadein
