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Missesha

@Missesha

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 13 years ago

#31

Honestly, these people don't deserve to be friends. Friends don't talk like this and it was going over the board.

I don't really appreciate J , but sometimes I do feel sorry for him. I probably would have behaved in a similar way that J did, if people came to my house and insulted me. I may not have thrown the table but would have given back in some manner.

In fact I faced a similar issue once, where someone (friend) was constantly trying to judge me and questioning my efforts. I let it go about 2 times, and then when I couldn't take it anymore I told him ' I don't need your advise and you can keep out of my personal life'

Yes, that distanced our friendship. But it's better to have no friends than to have friends who constantly discourage you and give you negative energy.

I have now come out of my difficulty and happy with my life.

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menusingh

@menusingh

Inactive

Posted: 13 years ago

#32

Originally posted by: Missesha
Honestly, these people don't deserve to be friends. Friends don't talk like this and it was going over the board.

I don't really appreciate J , but sometimes I do feel sorry for him. I probably would have behaved in a similar way that J did, if people came to my house and insulted me. I may not have thrown the table but would have given back in some manner.

In fact I faced a similar issue once, where someone (friend) was constantly trying to judge me and questioning my efforts. I let it go about 2 times, and then when I couldn't take it anymore I told him ' I don't need your advise and you can keep out of my personal life'
Yes, that distanced our friendship. But it's better to have no friends than to have friends who constantly discourage you and give you negative energy.

I have now come out of my difficulty and happy with my life.

👍🏼 very well said...

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Nazneen

@SiriuslySujal

Dazzler

Posted: 13 years ago

#33

I was wondering this too! I even said to my mum, "What kind of friends does this guy have?". I remember in school people used to behave that way with me, and if I got annoyed they'd be like, "We're only teasing!". But that was in SCHOOL. When I grew up and went to university, I got myself some better friends who like me for me and can make pleasant conversation without needing to resort to teasing and so-called "masti". This bunch were still acting like drunk highschoolers. o_O And if they're supposed to be Jagat's friends, they should know that he has a fragile ego and try and be supportive and tactful and respectful and stuff (I mean, they're in his and Gauri's house... even with my oldest friends, I would never make such tactless comments if I was in their house, or indeed wherever we were o_O). Friends indeed...!

That said, Jagat's behaviour irked me a lot too. YOU'VE thrown a party, my man. Your wife is doing as much, if not more, work during the day as you. You could have at least ASKED her beforehand (when will these two ever learn to actually DISCUSS things with each other like mature people!?) when would be a good day that week to have a party instead of insisting on one on an inconvenient day and then not lifting a finger to help with any of the cooking (and then throwing the food on the floor like a spoilt brat without any respect for the effort that's gone into making it). And if your wife gets a phone call and asks you to hold the plate she's holding while she answers it... well, is that so bad? I think that's a pretty natural thing to ask. o_O How much of a patriarchal MCP is this so-called "city boy" if he thinks holding a plate or actually helping his wife to host a party HE'S thrown is somehow demeaning? I remember in college if we had a dinner party, guys and girls alike would all pitch in to help with cooking and clearing up, and nobody saw it as a big deal. Jagat and friends don't have half the maturity they should given that they're now working graduates with prestigious jobs!!!

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NoOne12

@NoOne12

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Posted: 13 years ago

#34

Originally posted by: Missesha
Honestly, these people don't deserve to be friends. Friends don't talk like this and it was going over the board.

I don't really appreciate J , but sometimes I do feel sorry for him. I probably would have behaved in a similar way that J did, if people came to my house and insulted me. I may not have thrown the table but would have given back in some manner.

In fact I faced a similar issue once, where someone (friend) was constantly trying to judge me and questioning my efforts. I let it go about 2 times, and then when I couldn't take it anymore I told him ' I don't need your advise and you can keep out of my personal life'

Yes, that distanced our friendship. But it's better to have no friends than to have friends who constantly discourage you and give you negative energy.

I have now come out of my difficulty and happy with my life.

Yes I can understand your viewpoint. Even I went through something similar. Some friends believe they know everything about life and can guide you on it. The way they do is not by standing with you, but giving you lectures or shouting at your mistakes. I was going through a difficult time and I was not aware of govt offices' procedures, so some of my documents were not with me. It was not a big mistake, but I was bit scared. And look at my friend, she had the nerve to scold me! Here I am scared, if you can't say anything positive atleast don't talk. More than you I want my life to come in order.

😲

I also obseved another thing, these people don't let you think positive about life. At first I thought it was her nature. She will talk so negative about her life, this won't happen that won't happen!! But she even started predicting similar about me. Why are you trying it, it won't happen. That was enough. I began distancing myself from her. I would say a friendly hi, but would refuse to hang out with her. At first she resisted, but gradually accepted the truth. As tinoo said in one of the post, with friends like these who needs enemies.

Good you broke off with your friend! There is no need for such people ⭐️

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NoOne12

@NoOne12

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Posted: 13 years ago

#35

Originally posted by: SiriuslySujal
I was wondering this too! I even said to my mum, "What kind of friends does this guy have?". I remember in school people used to behave that way with me, and if I got annoyed they'd be like, "We're only teasing!". But that was in SCHOOL. When I grew up and went to university, I got myself some better friends who like me for me and can make pleasant conversation without needing to resort to teasing and so-called "masti". This bunch were still acting like drunk highschoolers. o_O And if they're supposed to be Jagat's friends, they should know that he has a fragile ego and try and be supportive and tactful and respectful and stuff (I mean, they're in his and Gauri's house... even with my oldest friends, I would never make such tactless comments if I was in their house, or indeed wherever we were o_O). Friends indeed...!

That said, Jagat's behaviour irked me a lot too. YOU'VE thrown a party, my man. Your wife is doing as much, if not more, work during the day as you. You could have at least ASKED her beforehand (when will these two ever learn to actually DISCUSS things with each other like mature people!?) when would be a good day that week to have a party instead of insisting on one on an inconvenient day and then not lifting a finger to help with any of the cooking (and then throwing the food on the floor like a spoilt brat without any respect for the effort that's gone into making it). And if your wife gets a phone call and asks you to hold the plate she's holding while she answers it... well, is that so bad? I think that's a pretty natural thing to ask. o_O How much of a patriarchal MCP is this so-called "city boy" if he thinks holding a plate or actually helping his wife to host a party HE'S thrown is somehow demeaning? I remember in college if we had a dinner party, guys and girls alike would all pitch in to help with cooking and clearing up, and nobody saw it as a big deal. Jagat and friends don't have half the maturity they should given that they're now working graduates with prestigious jobs!!!

Imagine in the party he was telling Gauri we have to live in the society and meet its social obligations🤣 ROFL

. Even though i symphatize with him I cannot consider it to be the best way to deal with the ghosts. They will return!

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NoOne12

@NoOne12

Navigator

Posted: 13 years ago

#36

Originally posted by: shalluuu

What sort of compromises? Detail it more...

stop feeling inferior to others and don"t get jealous from other sucess...agar aaj koi sarpanch and ms h to unka dimag hai...they dont have brain like jagya jo kbhi jaitser bhagta h kabhi mumbai...even in their difficulties they are stand,,,,

so jagya needs to compromise with himself first that i dont feel inferior to anyone...

I think at times we need a counselling of a mature person in this. I think Gauri is not mature enough to motivate him. She is insensitive to his needs. So if she had not distanced him from his family it would have done lot of good. I know Anandi would have motivated him properly, made him see things.

But what about gauri's mistakes? How come a woman is not aware of empty rations in the house, especially when she cooks. 😲. Why can't she trust her husband and his capabilities? He cannot do MS soon, she could be patient. "Go and talk to dean, think of your MS and blah blah." Everything has a time. From J's interview, the HR noted he has a good knowledge but just because he doesn't have the certificate he cannot get the same post as Gauri. I am not supporting Jagiya. I know he has to behave properly, i am tired too of his ego. But I cannot be blind to Gauri's mishandling of the relationship

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ankit111

@ankit111

Rocker

Posted: 13 years ago

#37

😆I think joke of good tatste and bad taste depends on, how u r taking it or how much u r close to the person joking with. I dont think tht Jogia friends were making any vulger jokes or doing character assasination thru there jokes. Jokes abt bossy nature of wives or jori ke gulam, is very common in Real life and we very frequently use it. Jogia cant digest it, becoz he is suffering from inferior complex and somehow he himself feel tht her great wife is bossy, which hurt it. So even joke abt such things, rub salt on his wound😆 his friends, might not know his this nature, so i cant blame thm much. As we

Do such jokes everyday with our friends. For example, if anyone want to leave the company early and hurry to home, we all say him, go go nahin to bibi ke dande padenge😆 and tht person can easily say tht afcourse mujhe bibi ki mar nahin khani hai😆 so no hard feeling . I hv never seen anyone being offended by such jokes, but ofcourse if anyone regularly get dande from his bibi, it can rub salt on his wound and he can take the joke seriously. 😆So disagreeing with most of the comment here, i wd not much blame to his friend, becoz they were unaware abt his feeling, but knowing his TRUE LOVE real nature and also how he is being offended with such jokes, atleast Pizza madam, sd hv take care of and not show her commanding nature before his freinds by ordering him in front of thm😆 she cd easyily call him in private and explain the situation. I know Jogia wd hv anyway create scene, but atleast she sd hv try from her side😆 anyway as both deserve each other, i avoid discussing who is rit or wrong, becoz both r wrong and i just enjoy whn they making each other life hell. This is the real punishment of these losers, atleast they cant blame others and feel good for each other, putting all blame on other😆 so keep torturing each other and i will appreciate if their friends also contribute in the torture session. 😆

Edited by ankit111 - 13 years ago

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tinoo

@tinoo

Rocker

Posted: 13 years ago

#38

Originally posted by: ankit111
😆I . I hv never seen anyone being offended by such jokes, but ofcourse if anyone regularly get dande from his bibi, it can rub salt on his wound and he can take the joke seriously. 😆 😆

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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aparnauma

@GoodDoc_2105

Trailblazer

+ 4

Posted: 13 years ago

#39

Probably a man would not mind those jokes.But a pig masquerading as a man would be offended.. Anyways Jagya and his friends deserve each other.They all are equally obnoxious.

Edited by apjk - 13 years ago