Is parents approval necessary - Page 7

Originally posted by: intruderfast

well to each his own, this is a very sensitive issue, many ppl have gone against their parents, wishes and some have surrendered to their parents wishes, in the end u r an individual,and decisions like marriages r such where u can object, if u listen to ur parents and marry someone of their own choice and love someone else, what good it would do, u will not be happy , ur spouse will never be happy too, u would always suffer from inside,

u have to spend life with a unknown person , not ur parents

u have a right to make ur own decisions, u can always try to convince them, but if they dont understand , then fine do waht u like

if one is honest in his approach, then its ok

i am lucky i have got such understanding parents, but many ppl dont have , sometimes parents r at fault too, they put too much pressure on children want to control their children fully, many children give up their dreams just for the sake of their parents and in turn suffer themselves

imp decisions like marriage, carrer choices, i beleive parents should not interfere, fine they can give advice , give opinion,make u understand but the final say should be with u

Kind note: plzz read this post at ur own risk…the opinions expressed here are simply my POV abt this subject …n some of u may get a headache so plzz b prepared to deal with ittt…..😛

Ankit hats off👏👏👏 for such an amazing post👍🏼. Undoubtedly this decision is a individualistic choice. I honestly am really touched 🤗to see many travelling in the same boat as I am🤔. I wont repeat my story as few of u r already aware😳, but in a gist I decided to give my parents the decision to find a right life partner for me😃.

Why I feel parents will be right😊:

Our parents who were right to give birth to uss😳, who were right in raising us 😊incl staying awake all night when we were unwell😭, who were right to give us the strength and moral support n encourage us⭐️👏⭐️ be it when when u were a child just learning to walk😛, yaa face examinations in our lives😳,

our parents who were right in making us independent in our lives by giving us the best of education⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️👏👏⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️, and other right amentities needed🤗, cannot be wrong when it's a question of finding a right life partner for to share the rest of our lives.

It is a different matter that it cannot be guaranteed how successful that marriage will be, but same goes the case with love marriage too😊. A successful happy marriage is dependent on how much u can adapt and adjust in life and not if it is a love yaa arranged marriage.

My personal feeling a person who shares a healthy relationship with their parents, who more likely has a happy childhood and adulthood😃, will never have a difficulty in choosing parents who have been with them since their birth over a person who recently entered their lives😊.

We are able 2 define so many things in life but No one has been able to give a correct standard definition for love…

A person can fall in love gg by ur good education given the secure future n financial security😉, he can fall in love based on ur beauty😛, can fall in love with u just based on a glimpse of ur good nature just based on a one yaa few life situations😳, which means that this love can be shaken from its very basic foundation🤢 once u cease to have a secure personal life yaa once ur beauty vanishes yaaa u have a diffent pov reg a diff situation🤢🤢….

I can write at lengths on this subject😛 but just wish to finish with this statement. Our parents have already won n lost many a battle in their lifetime to raise us ❤️and make us what we are😎, they deserve to have happiness and peace of mind😃 now that we are young🥳, with a scarless heart😃, capable of facing the battles of life with a smile....

A person who loves his family and parents will definitely be someone u can possibly guarantee is a good person who will love u 😊and take good care of u too😳, but the same cannot be said of a person who does not hesitate to give pain to their own parents and abandon their parents 🤢who have been their well wishers all their life🤢, how can it be guaranteed that this person truly loves u and will definitely take good care of u and not abandon u just like the way they have abandoned their parents…

Originally posted by: intruderfast

hmm , when veer took that decision , it was named smart move, i also said that, i supported that, infact no family members knew abt that marriege , still i never saw any objection there😊
oh j is a cheater, but he told abt his decision of marrying g, , his parents did not like it though he tried to convince them , so he gave up, simple, u think he did wrong, i dont ,
he had to choose between gauri and his parents, he choose gauri, uski marzi
he had broken his relationship with a and then tied the knot with gauri,so i dont think he commited a blunder here
reg the aashirwaad business, they r trying , they r perfectly aweare that family memebers might not accept,so ok they willk go back if they dont approve, dadisa has asked them to stay there, thats why they r staying , zabardasti nahin reh rahe hain koshish karne mein koi buraai nahin,

Originally posted by: fast trak

hi shivani how r u?

ankit why do ppl have to feel that topics can be dedicated to them or hinting at them? ek simple sa genuine sa topic banaya hai aapne about parental love aur usme bhi copyright chahiye? 😆

Originally posted by: KyunkiImafan

Anmol, this is the first post of yours that I clicked "liked" 😛 Socha I should tell that 😆 And I do agree with all you said.

Originally posted by: fast trak

hi shivani how r u?

ankit why do ppl have to feel that topics can be dedicated to them or hinting at them? ek simple sa genuine sa topic banaya hai aapne about parental love aur usme bhi copyright chahiye? 😆

Originally posted by: ankit111

Hi dhanya, how r u. I think I hd clarified in beginning, tht I m talking in Jogia context, becoz I know only his situation and not anyones in this forum. So I can't judge anyone, without knowing it and even if I knew I can't be judgmental of their personal life. The motive of my post is just to express my view tht we sd respect our parents even if our thought not match. There r otherway to be disagree and do whatever better and not just revolt as I m seeing in jogia case. I don't find him respecting his parents. The way he talked with thm, the way he ignore their wishes. For me its not acceptable but I can't force anyone to agree with me. For me this issue is very sensitive. U can't just revolt just by saying tht this is my life so parents don't hv rit to interfere. Thn wht abt their life, which was interfered by u whn u were child and whn they hd to do so much sacrifices for u. Is it not ur duty to atleast try to understand thm? I M AGAIN SAYING ITS NOT NECESSARY TO ACCEPT THEIR WISHES BLINDLY. For me parents (particularly wht I hd) r above all, although I didn't hv chance to sacrifice for thm anything but only they did for me and this one thing which will be missing in my life. I wish I cd get chance to do this.

Originally posted by: intruderfast

well to each his own, this is a very sensitive issue, many ppl have gone against their parents, wishes and some have surrendered to their parents wishes, in the end u r an individual,and decisions like marriages r such where u can object, if u listen to ur parents and marry someone of their own choice and love someone else, what good it would do, u will not be happy , ur spouse will never be happy too, u would always suffer from inside,

u have to spend life with a unknown person , not ur parents

u have a right to make ur own decisions, u can always try to convince them, but if they dont understand , then fine do waht u like

if one is honest in his approach, then its ok

i am lucky i have got such understanding parents, but many ppl dont have , sometimes parents r at fault too, they put too much pressure on children want to control their children fully, many children give up their dreams just for the sake of their parents and in turn suffer themselves

imp decisions like marriage, carrer choices, i beleive parents should not interfere, fine they can give advice , give opinion,make u understand but the final say should be with u