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OK first off let me say I am not trying to defend Ahem, his actions or his attitude, I just want to give alittle insight in to his way of thinking and situation he is in.
I can say and do this because i was forced into a marriage, not at gun point but with emotional blackmail. I was taken back to my parent's native land and was given an intence treatment of emotional pressure to marry a man, uneducated, of their choice. Now I was not very young, I was 20 and mature for my age, I believed that whatever my parents were doing was proberly for my wellbeing, cause they loved me. I talked myself into commiting to this marriage for the famililes honor. But like Ahem I could not physically, emotionally, commit to this sham. Everyday and night I felt claustrophobic, physically sick. Ahem's contempt, his rudeness, his refusal to accept Gopi comes from the ashes of his broken dream's, the life he had dreamt, expected to have. Growing up I had dream's of being a good daughter, wife, mother, and when it shatters, you spend every waking moment walking on those shard's. It does not help matters when the reason for that, is walking, talking around you. Having to be pushed into situation's were you have to pretend to be close or to touch is agony, I secretly cried, Ahem is not so sensitive. No matter what I love my family, its the way I was brought up, to respect my elders. but let me say right now that they dont always make the best decisions for you. Ahem is not a cowered, he just as deep respect for the elder women in his family, but just because your mind tell's you one thing, your heart doesnt have to follow.
Gopi is no way like the perverted jerk the was forced opon me, she is another innocent like Ahem, except she thinks differently. Without a single meeting, just believeing that your married doesnt automatically mean your partner will love you, Ahem and Gopi are still stranger, though no fault of their own. I've never met a person like Gopi so cant really comment on her, but if she was my friend, Id definantly give her a slap to wake her up then be her guardian shadow and, like a puppet instruct her to act around her family. Cause thats what she really is a puppet, a ragdoll that takes all the damage but never argues. Even naive people learn from the mistakes and wise up, Gopi doesnt have that, Ahem is the kind of man that needs that. With a domineering mother and grandmother, I doubt he will be satisfied with a servant wife. Ahem needs an equal or above.I dont Know how CT are going to make a jodi out of Ahem and Gopi, but they cant do it leaving Gopi completely innocent, Ahem is a mothers boy he needs a wife like his mother, Gopi can still be good and kind and at the same time not take abuse like candy. With this loop de loop storyline, Ahem will never mellow but only get harder and make a stronger shell, I did!
Sorry if my comments offended anyone, I like many others do want this jodi, its just that with all the Ahem bashing, I wanted people to be in his situation as well, we all like Gopi, but Ahem is human to, if he showed the tiniest bit of sympathy or kindness to Gopi, she like everyone else will starting believeing it is something more, which threatens him more and is more cruelty to Gopi.
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