NO SUCH RASM IN BENGALI CULTURE

rumi2004 thumbnail
17th Anniversary Thumbnail Navigator Thumbnail
Posted: 16 years ago
#1
Well I'm myself a bengali and there is no such rasam as DOIBHAAT or DOHIBHAAT (as they r calling it).. yes no doubt fish is considered shubh in our culture but there isnt such a rasm neway.... there are many bengalis who are vegetarians and there are many many rasams which are conducted in a sacred manner and has nothing to do with eating fish..
Infact in our culture the dulha and dulhan keep fast on their marriage day..

They cant just show stupid stuffs like this to sell th stupid melodrama...
😡🤢
😡😡

Created

Last reply

Replies

10

Views

1.7k

Users

9

Likes

39

Frequent Posters

Eksie thumbnail
19th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail + 3
Posted: 16 years ago
#2

Thanks for letting us know Rumi ..

But .. I doubt the makers/creative's would do something like this without any research 😕 I mean .. all that they have shown so far, has been quite authentic (from what I have heard).
Could it be possible that there are different sects within the Bengali's who do some rasm's .. while some are not followed? It happens in Sindhi's (which I am) .. where some communities follow one ritual which the others within Sindhi's don't.
Ankita_88 thumbnail
19th Anniversary Thumbnail Rocker Thumbnail + 5
Posted: 16 years ago
#3

Originally posted by: rumi2004

Well I'm myself a bengali and there is no such rasam as DOIBHAAT or DOHIBHAAT (as they r calling it).. yes no doubt fish is considered shubh in our culture but there isnt such a rasm neway.... there are many bengalis who are vegetarians and there are many many rasams which are conducted in a sacred manner and has nothing to do with eating fish..
Infact in our culture the dulha and dulhan keep fast on their marriage day..

They cant just show stupid stuffs like this to sell th stupid melodrama...
😡🤢
😡😡



darling me toooooo bengali.there is a rasam named dodhimangal ...it is dodhibhaat.....in tht case, d groom is given bhat(rice),machh(fish),doi(curd or dahi) and mishti (sweets).so this thing happens in our culture dear........so u can say tht this rasm takes place....and yeah there are many bengalis who r veg.and of course this happens in sacred manner...and after having tht one has 2 fast during d whole day.....
jyoti06 thumbnail
19th Anniversary Thumbnail Master Thumbnail + 8
Posted: 16 years ago
#4
First of all can u plss cool down dear😳..ok firstly majority of bengalis r non-veg.,.even the brahmans..I m a brahman bengali..so I know about it😳..there r few who take "diksha" according to which they don't eat non-veg but otherwise mostly all r non-veg..but those who r veg for them its done in a very sacred manner😳
then like jhinki said we do hv "Dodhimangal" or "Doibhaat" rasam.//.its not there in all bengali rituals..like we brahmans don't hv it but many do it😳..so they din't show anything wrong here😊
Edited by jyoti06 - 16 years ago
hinz thumbnail
20th Anniversary Thumbnail Trailblazer Thumbnail + 9
Posted: 16 years ago
#5

thanks for enlightening us Jhinki and Jyots ,there's so much about our Indian culture that I dont know ,uptil now I didnt know that Bengalis have a brahman sect.
well as for the topic maker,like Ekta said every place and caste has its own set of rituals and customs and they may vary depending upon the smaller communities within the same caste,some may follow certain rituals and some may not .this happens quite often everywhere!

thanks for the clarification guys


Hina
Nani_Godzilla thumbnail
18th Anniversary Thumbnail Voyager Thumbnail
Posted: 16 years ago
#6

Gals, I am a bengali myself and that too a married one ... When my marriage took place, as per ritual, in Dodhi Mangal, I had fish, rice, curd & chirwa at the dawn of my wedding day .. So this ritual is there in our Bengali culture ...

But......
In YPNHK, the CVs did one mistake of showing Madhav having the food from Rashmi's mum .. Its bride's or groom's mum & other family members who do the rasam in their respective families .. I dont understand why Rashmi's mum was feeding Madhav [ her son in law ] rather than her own daughter as per ritual ..
Rashmi's mum could have fed Rashmi instead of Madhav as per the ritual ..
--Kesh-- thumbnail
19th Anniversary Thumbnail Voyager Thumbnail + 2
Posted: 16 years ago
#7
I am a Gujarati Vaishnav; my family is pure vegetarian and I am married to a Bengali who are, if i may say, pure non-vegetarian. There is definately a rasam called doohibhat which takes place at the dawn of the wedding day. And fish does form a very important part of some of the Bengali traditoinal and religious customs.
The best part about our wedding was that we took the most important customs and traditions of both the cultures and followed it. Though the wedding ceremony itself was mainly Gujarati tradtional we also did a small Bengali traditional wedding. We even had two preists one from each side. The preists got along so well. It was just brilliant. I even had 2 bidayis cos in my gujarati custom the girl is sent to her in-laws straight after the wedding but in my husband's tradition the the day after the wedding the grooms uncle and sister come to take the bride from her parents home. So after the bidayi post wedding, instead of going to my husband's home we went to a hotel. Then went to my home in the morning and 2nd bidayi. I have to say I cried more during the 2nd one cos it was from home.
You know the best part was that during the reception and the ceremonies after the wedding which were manily bengali way and having non-vegetarian is very auspicious, to cater to my family they had a seperate vegetarian food area.
It was just brilliant. Both our families enjoyed it a lot.
When i see this serial and the way Madhav's family is behaving I feel so lucky that my husband's family were so accomodating. But I do know families that behave like Madhav's and such people make me really angry. Madhav's parents are the worse kind of hypocrites.
Eksie thumbnail
19th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail + 3
Posted: 16 years ago
#8
@ Moumi & Kesha - Thanks for sharing your own experiences with us .. enlightens us further on how the rituals take place. Its quite fascinating to know these details .. especially to those of us who have not known any of these 😊
@ Moumi - I would never have imagined that you are married! 😳
hinz thumbnail
20th Anniversary Thumbnail Trailblazer Thumbnail + 9
Posted: 16 years ago
#9

yep,thanks for sharing your experiences and info abt different cultures within similar castes

and yeh even I'm surprised to see so many married girls on this forum and I kept thinking I was the only one 😆

Hina

AngelTeen thumbnail
20th Anniversary Thumbnail Stunner Thumbnail + 8
Posted: 16 years ago
#10
ummm...my aunt got married in a bengali family and there was some rasam involving a fish...i was very small then so cannot remember clearly...

Related Topics

Top

Stay Connected with IndiaForums!

Be the first to know about the latest news, updates, and exclusive content.

Add to Home Screen!

Install this web app on your iPhone for the best experience. It's easy, just tap and then "Add to Home Screen".