The hypocrisy in the treatment of Ruhi versus Armaan

Before anyone calls me a Ruhi fan, I've already mentioned a hundred times that she is a villain and I am a casual viewer. There are so many hypocrisies in the treatment of Ruhi vs Armaan and I really wanted to point it out. Feel free to add on:

1. Abhir deserves to take revenge on Ruhi because Ruhi was one of the reasons his family had to separate and had to live alone with his parents. Let's cheer him on as he takes revenge on Ruhi. No one bothered to clarify that Akshara did not kill her mother, including Akshara herself. But yes, she is the most evil person for treating Abhira horribly. Armaan stole her baby. No she doesn't get to take revenge and the baby should stay with the best set of parents which includes Armaan.

2. Ruhi's trauma does not excuse her from the way she is behaving towards Abhira. She deserves to be jailed/killed. Yet, Armaan's trauma and sufferings at the hand of his family prior justify him stealing the baby. The best part is his trauma excuses him from not going to jail for his crime.

3. Ruhi is so evil for attempting to kidnap Armaan on his wedding day. She is the most evil person who deserves to suffer (the best part is she is portrayed as the villain in the show). But Armaan who stole the baby is so innocent (and he is the ML).

4. Ruhi is the worst wife for lusting after another man and hiding the truth from her husband regarding the kidnapping incident. Rohit should divorce and send her to jail. But Armaan is not a terrible husband for hiding the truth of the miscarriage from his wife and emotionally cheating her. Given that Abhira is bonding with the baby and will suffer more when the truth comes out later, Armaan is not a bad person and should help her move on. No Armaan, does not deserve to go to jail.

5. Ruhi is 30 years old and should be treated as an adult. She knows better and should not behave the way she is behaving. Armaan's is 30+ but is allowed to be easily manipulated by his brother. His brother is the sole culprit- how dare he brainwash innocent Armaan?

6. Ruhi deserves to be bashed for everything she does. But Armaan who took part in one of the biggest crime does not deserve to be bashed at all. Anyone who bashes him is a hater.

7. Ruhi is rightfully portrayed as a villain for her actions but Armaan is still the postive ML despite his actions. And his crime does not get emphasized but writers attempt to gloss over it by making Ruhi the villain more terrible. Yet Ruhi is the one who is whitewashed by the writers?

8. Ruhi is immoral for conducting an emotional affair with her brother-in-law when she was married. Rohit should divorce her ASAP. But No, Armaan is not wrong for conducting an emotional affair with his sister-in-law and he is the best husband. Abhira should never divorce him.

9. Ruhi’s commits vile acts one after the other- her character is being degraded. Armaan, after making mistakes and apologising (including leading Ruhi on at the start), proceeds to commit a crime knowing it would hurt and make Ruhi more vengeful and hate Abhira and him more- he is a flawed character who is growing and learning from his mistakes.

10. Ruhi can be called all sorts of names according to her wrong-doings but Armaan cannot be labelled as a kidnapper despite the legalities.

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Exactly 🙂 i am not a regular viewer of this show but the way armaan gets defended with different excuses but ruhi gets bashed even if she mourns for her baby. Ruhi moved on from and she may be the worst person on earth. But why does armaan want that person's baby after all the things happened between them.

Now ruhi has her own family and armaan has his own family. Rohith may not know every detail but armaan knows a-z kaunsi ummeed lekar he stole her baby. Even after knowing she lost everyone, he had a past with her , she hates ab and most importantly as a lawyer he knows it's a crime. But he did all to just make one person happy who had no trauma, who has potential to easily move on considering she has forgotten that her mom was murdered and poddars cursed and humiliated her and most importantly she hardly cares about her mumma who is a killer as per ruhi 🙃 where as ruhi has shown symptoms of finding it hard to move on
As she is unable to forget her mummy's murderer. She can not forget her first love after all the humiliation. Now her baby is taken away from her.

I agree- what is the difference between kidnapping a man and stealing a baby? Ruhi gets bashed for her actions while Armaan's actions get defended. You know what is real whitewashing- ML does something extremely bad but writers do not point it out, but brush over it by making the villain more terrible. And he is still the ML. Whereas Ruhi gets portrayed as a villain for her action, but people claim she is whitewashed by the writers? I should add this hypocrisy onto my list.

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

Exactly 🙂 i am not a regular viewer of this show but the way armaan gets defended with different excuses but ruhi gets bashed even if she mourns for her baby. Ruhi moved on from and she may be the worst person on earth. But why does armaan want that person's baby after all the things happened between them.

Now ruhi has her own family and armaan has his own family. Rohith may not know every detail but armaan knows a-z kaunsi ummeed lekar he stole her baby. Even after knowing she lost everyone, he had a past with her , she hates ab and most importantly as a lawyer he knows it's a crime. But he did all to just make one person happy who had no trauma, who has potential to easily move on considering she has forgotten that her mom was murdered and poddars cursed and humiliated her and most importantly she hardly cares about her mumma who is a killer as per ruhi 🙃 where as ruhi has shown symptoms of finding it hard to move on
As she is unable to forget her mummy's murderer. She can not forget her first love after all the humiliation. Now her baby is taken away from her.

Ruhi is so evil for attempting to kidnap Armaan on his wedding day

@bold I laugh at this narrative

Imagine ruhi kidnapping 30+year old man. She manipulated (fav word of many) him to come to her by threatening suicide, if he has brain, he would have informed about this to her husband then and there instead of leaving his own wedding mandap to stop his ex's suicide.

He became unlikable to me the moment he got ready to write shiv shakti with other woman despite being married. The way he entertained ruhi's advances, played victim till the end. Telling I never loved her after leading on a girl for months is redemption for some.

During his wedding with ruhi, vidya clearly asks him if he is happy with the marriage or not, he was silent at that time, reacted only at mandap after giving a girl hopes of future together for months. Instead of coming clean infront of his wife, he shamelessly played victim by saying he never loved ruhi as if he never led her on.

Oops how can I forget lol . But how dare you blame innocent Armaan. He is a 6 month old baby who can be easily manipulated by anyone. He is very decisive and never plays with anyone's feelings. Only Ruhi does and she is the villain.

Originally posted by: Sparkle232

Ruhi is so evil for attempting to kidnap Armaan on his wedding day

@bold I laugh at this narrative

Imagine ruhi kidnapping 30+year old man. She manipulated (fav word of many) him to come to her by threatening suicide, if he has brain, he would have informed about this to her husband then and there instead of leaving his own wedding mandap to stop his ex's suicide.

He became unlikable to me the moment he got ready to write shiv shakti with other woman despite being married. The way he entertained ruhi's advances, played victim till the end. Telling I never loved her after leading on a girl for months is redemption for some.

During his wedding with ruhi, vidya clearly asks him if he is happy with the marriage or not, he was silent at that time, reacted only at mandap after giving a girl hopes of future together for months. Instead of coming clean infront of his wife, he shamelessly played victim by saying he never loved ruhi as if he never led her on.

Originally posted by: LiveLifeHonest

I agree- what is the difference between kidnapping a man and stealing a baby? Ruhi gets bashed for her actions while Armaan's actions get defended. You know what is real whitewashing- ML does something extremely bad but writers do not point it out, but brush over it by making the villain more terrible. And he is still the ML. Whereas Ruhi gets portrayed as a villain for her action, but people claim she is whitewashed by the writers? I should add this hypocrisy onto my list.

True and armaan can easily expose ruhi. He had so many opportunities but he chose to stay mute and now when ruhi has moved and no longer to keep any thing with him or his wife. He stole new born baby and enjoying with it. 🙃 baccha nahi jaise khilona ho. Even ruhi ne bhi armaan ke choice ko dekh kar she stopped obsessing over him post his marriage. Lekin just born bacche ka pehla choice uski maa hi hothi hai. Bacche kr liye maa maa hai. Na hi lusty hai , na immoral , na criminal. Like how abhira ke liye uske maa killer ka ilzaam sunne ke baad bhi abhira uski mummy ko nahi chodthi waise hi ruhi ko apne bacche ke saath rehne ka haq hai

Good post 👏 👏 👏

And funny thing is just to defend "why ruhi deserve everything bad" her past mistake is bought up, from which all the four parties effected abhira Arman ruhi and Rohit moved on. If they have moved on, it has no impact on current story lol. Why use that to defend Arman Rohit's action or twist the narrative that ruhi is a bad mother lmao

Just for argument sake - who is a bad mother? One who goes out driving 9 months pregnant and by bad luck accident happens leading to coma?

Or

Knowing you might not survive. Or your kid might die. You put yourself through bad pregnancy, risking your life, not taking husband's concern into thought. In worst case, you set up your kid future as motherless child.

If this is the criteria to define a 'bad mom', then Abhira and Ruhi are equally bad.

And the biggest irony is that if the baby kidnapping track was reversed and Abhira's baby was given to Rohit and Ruhi, even then Rohit and Ruhi would be bashed the most.

Originally posted by: Phir_Mohabbat

Good post 👏 👏 👏

And funny thing is just to defend "why ruhi deserve everything bad" her past mistake is bought up, from which all the four parties effected abhira Arman ruhi and Rohit moved on. If they have moved on, it has no impact on current story lol. Why use that to defend Arman Rohit's action or twist the narrative that ruhi is a bad mother lmao

Just for argument sake - who is a bad mother? One who goes out driving 9 months pregnant and by bad luck accident happens leading to coma?

Or

Knowing you might not survive. Or your kid might die. You put yourself through bad pregnancy, risking your life, not taking husband's concern into thought. In worst case, you set up your kid future as motherless child.

Okay I need to understand something. I was told that people like characters & root for them coz they connect the most with them, despite understanding that their actions are not to be condoned.

In Armaan's case let's go through what he has been accused of:

1. Writing Shiv Shakti with another woman while still being married to Abhira - agreed, he should be bashed. But the guy actually didn't write anything coz kismat didn't want him to do something that wrong - I will take that as a sign that sometimes when you are going in a very wrong direction, gid helps you and pushes you in the right one, despite your otherwise stupid tendencies.

2. During Ar & Ab's wedding day, Ruhi threatened to off herself. At that point had he done anything apart from try to save her, anyone & everyone would have called him inhumane for not having basic humanity to save someone. Hume chodo, even Abhira understood & supported him there. And he did not call Rohit coz at that point Armaan's main concern was getting back to Abhira & as many people have said, stress main aadmi ka dimaag normally function nahi kar sakta (like how Ruhi was given a free pass for driving to a Tantrik to know the gender of her kid in her 9th month close to her due date, due to stress)

3. In the current kaand, no one is supporting Armaan. We are calling him all sorts of names & agree that he deserves punishment. But he is not the only one who should be punished. Rohit is an equal of not more of an offender in this case. They have wronged both Abhira & Ruhi & kal jaakar agar dono ne in bhaiyon pe case karkar unhe jail bhejna chaha, then even we as Abhimaan Stans will support. Armaan is in guilt & is trying his level best to function in a way that his family stays together, but even he & we know that this situation will not last. His house of cards will fall & people will get hurt. But that doesn't make him a villian - just a flawed himan being.

Also I am willing to accept Ruhi also to be a flawed human - of after all this, she is willing to apologise for all the vile and awful things she said & did while she assumed the kid was Abhira's . Let her apologise. Let her show remorse. Then maybe we will also consider that she is not that bad.

Originally posted by: LiveLifeHonest

If this is the criteria to define a 'bad mom', then Abhira and Ruhi are equally bad.

And the biggest irony is that if the baby kidnapping track was reversed and Abhira's baby was given to Rohit and Ruhi, even then Rohit and Ruhi would be bashed the most.

You do realise that in the above mentioned situation, Abhira would never behave with a child the way Ruhi is currently acting with a kid she assumes is Abhira's. Our contention is that her trauma doesn't give her a free pass to be vile towards a baby who did absolutely nothing wrong except be born.

But then I realise that this is the same set of people.who support Ruhi for punishing Abhira for her mother's apparent crimes that happened when Ab was a foetus in her mother's stomach