Kaffara #3 (GEO) Ali Ansari , Laiba Khan , Usman Peerzada - Page 43

Originally posted by: AAKMH2

Realy wish Salar told this truth her today. Wese to kbhi naa btata, gusse mein hi bol de sch. Realy realy hope..tired of this mu

It's not only about salar saying, but about Sitara willing to listen, which she doesn't seem to be. Aise hi salar bol dega toh thodi na believe karne lagegi. Pata nahi writer ke dimaag mein kya chal raha hai. 😂

Originally posted by: khamosshhh

It's not only about salar saying, but about Sitara willing to listen, which she doesn't seem to be. Aise hi salar bol dega toh thodi na believe karne lagegi. Pata nahi writer ke dimaag mein kya chal raha hai. 😂

Saba ya junaid hi option hai, ya phir Tahir?

But I want Salar angry , passionate declaration of love...sitara k jane ki baat wese hi use trigger kr deti hai..let see where all this lead to

So I have not watched yesterday's episode and I don't think I will be able to watch today's episode either. I will probably binge watch them on Monday. But I have been reading people's comments here, still not gone on X but here are my two cents.

I have said this even prior to this that I genuinely felt that Sitara needs space, peace and time to recover. She hadn't been mentally and emotionally alright since the entire fiasco began and I believe her engagement to Salman was the point where genuinely started to be pushed towards the edge mentally speaking. Quite frankly, Salar and Sitara should have never married this early or at this point in the story. I had hoped that Salar would have ensured that she is in a hostel (whether it is a university hostel or a working women's hostel), ensured her safety and higher education by leaving her in Junaid's or Saba's or Nani's protection, if required lodge an FIR against her family for trying to marry her off forcibly, ensure that she had a scholarship or a job and hopefully in LLB and give her space, time and support to ensure that she is on her own two feet while he himself builds up his career in Canada.

Unfortunately, the circumstances were such that Salar assumed that they definitely needed to get married as soon as possible. While there is some truth to that given how desperate and persistent Sitara's family was about marrying her off, the truth is that what Sitara and Salar needed was an engagement and not a marriage at this point. When the walima BTS pictures were out, I had hoped that it would be engagement pictures because I genuinely did not believe that a marriage at this point would help. Romantic it may sound, but the truth was neither of them had careers and Sitara especially was emotionally fragile. She had started to recover a bit after she accepted Salar's proposal but overhearing the deal thing was a huge hit. Even then she tried to logically explain that out to herself and was ready to reconcile before overhearing the zid thing. I had also felt that Sitara had been on the edge since the day of walima and I wrote that I had the apprehension that she will reach the tipping point soon (the tipping point being presumably the consummation of their marriage) and she might end up doing something drastic. I was frankly surprised that she scaled back on her badtameezi and was trying to adjust to the circumstances around her like being willing to learn from Mehreen but high society manners and accompany Salar socially or even clearly recognizing Salar's efforts to become financially independent and protecting him during the entire Sahiba molestation fiasco. I took it as a sign that perhaps my interpretation was wrong and Sitara was more resilient than I had originally thought.

Turns out that that is not the case. Sitara really was emotionally fragile and probably hanging on to shreds of sanity and was on the edge, and Nani's death is the tipping point. It is what Bips said regarding Sitara. That the writers should clearly show that she is mentally unwell right now and that is years of trauma building up. There have been hints here and there but it is needed to be spelt out clearly. This is not even PTSD at this point. This is a case of a nervous breakdown and complex PTSD and it would be good if writers address it. I am not condoning Sitara's misbehaviour towards Salar and I do not believe that any one else who is trying to understand the story line or Sitara's behaviour is doing that either. Frankly, Salar does not deserve this and while he should, for his own mental health's sake, distance himself from Sitara temporarily, I doubt he will. Salar's own reactions to anytime he thinks Sitara will leave him reeks of co-dependency and there are signs that Salar himself might fall apart if Sitara chooses to leave him. A lot of the fandom who want Salar to leave her do not understand this either. The idea that even Salar himself might not be emotionally alright and that did not start with Sitara's misbehaviour but long back in his neglected childhood is not very acceptable in the fandom nor is it very evident in the writing either but there have been hints here and there, that he was trouble sleeping thinking he will wake up to her gone and when he was panicking and almost on the verge of tears when she went to Nani's after the disastrous party. Unfortunately, I do not have high hopes that the writers will explain this properly and instead will at some point fudge it up.

Frankly, Tahir needs to step in here. A lot of the fandom wants Salar to leave Sitara for her badtameezi but the thing is unfortunately he is not going to leave her and is not willing to let her leave. Sitara really really needs space and time right. Tahir should ensure that Sitara moves into Nani's, ensures she is able to be move around to and back from university safely and maybe go and meet Sana and Saba-Junaid's at times (maybe arrange a car and driver for her exclusively), give her that internship under him so that she has an earning of her own and he is able to keep an eye on her, enroll her into therapy and ensure, most importantly, that Salar does not go anywhere near her, both for her own sake and Salar's sake. I believe that if Sitara leaves, Tahir's hardest task would be to keep Salar restrained because he will try to chase after Sitara. I also think Salar himself needs space to get his own bearings back.

My personal preference is that if this distance and living apart helps, Salar should be able to come clean to Sitara and explain away all the misunderstandings while Sitara herself owes one hell of an apology to Salar and a good solid and honest conversation with him. I want Sitara to miss Salar, to come to understand that she wants to be with Salar despite everything and then confesses her feelings to him. I do not want Sitara getting pregnant or Salar landing up in hospital and something as dramatic as that (but in all probability, that is what is going to happen).

Originally posted by: roopshas1

So I have not watched yesterday's episode and I don't think I will be able to watch today's episode either. I will probably binge watch them on Monday. But I have been reading people's comments here, still not gone on X but here are my two cents.

I have said this even prior to this that I genuinely felt that Sitara needs space, peace and time to recover. She hadn't been mentally and emotionally alright since the entire fiasco began and I believe her engagement to Salman was the point where genuinely started to be pushed towards the edge mentally speaking. Quite frankly, Salar and Sitara should have never married this early or at this point in the story. I had hoped that Salar would have ensured that she is in a hostel (whether it is a university hostel or a working women's hostel), ensured her safety and higher education by leaving her in Junaid's or Saba's or Nani's protection, if required lodge an FIR against her family for trying to marry her off forcibly, ensure that she had a scholarship or a job and hopefully in LLB and give her space, time and support to ensure that she is on her own two feet while he himself builds up his career in Canada.

Unfortunately, the circumstances were such that Salar assumed that they definitely needed to get married as soon as possible. While there is some truth to that given how desperate and persistent Sitara's family was about marrying her off, the truth is that what Sitara and Salar needed was an engagement and not a marriage at this point. When the walima BTS pictures were out, I had hoped that it would be engagement pictures because I genuinely did not believe that a marriage at this point would help. Romantic it may sound, but the truth was neither of them had careers and Sitara especially was emotionally fragile. She had started to recover a bit after she accepted Salar's proposal but overhearing the deal thing was a huge hit. Even then she tried to logically explain that out to herself and was ready to reconcile before overhearing the zid thing. I had also felt that Sitara had been on the edge since the day of walima and I wrote that I had the apprehension that she will reach the tipping point soon (the tipping point being presumably the consummation of their marriage) and she might end up doing something drastic. I was frankly surprised that she scaled back on her badtameezi and was trying to adjust to the circumstances around her like being willing to learn from Mehreen but high society manners and accompany Salar socially or even clearly recognizing Salar's efforts to become financially independent and protecting him during the entire Sahiba molestation fiasco. I took it as a sign that perhaps my interpretation was wrong and Sitara was more resilient than I had originally thought.

Turns out that that is not the case. Sitara really was emotionally fragile and probably hanging on to shreds of sanity and was on the edge, and Nani's death is the tipping point. It is what Bips said regarding Sitara. That the writers should clearly show that she is mentally unwell right now and that is years of trauma building up. There have been hints here and there but it is needed to be spelt out clearly. This is not even PTSD at this point. This is a case of a nervous breakdown and complex PTSD and it would be good if writers address it. I am not condoning Sitara's misbehaviour towards Salar and I do not believe that any one else who is trying to understand the story line or Sitara's behaviour is doing that either. Frankly, Salar does not deserve this and while he should, for his own mental health's sake, distance himself from Sitara temporarily, I doubt he will. Salar's own reactions to anytime he thinks Sitara will leave him reeks of co-dependency and there are signs that Salar himself might fall apart if Sitara chooses to leave him. A lot of the fandom who want Salar to leave her do not understand this either. The idea that even Salar himself might not be emotionally alright and that did not start with Sitara's misbehaviour but long back in his neglected childhood is not very acceptable in the fandom nor is it very evident in the writing either but there have been hints here and there, that he was trouble sleeping thinking he will wake up to her gone and when he was panicking and almost on the verge of tears when she went to Nani's after the disastrous party. Unfortunately, I do not have high hopes that the writers will explain this properly and instead will at some point fudge it up.

Frankly, Tahir needs to step in here. A lot of the fandom wants Salar to leave Sitara for her badtameezi but the thing is unfortunately he is not going to leave her and is not willing to let her leave. Sitara really really needs space and time right. Tahir should ensure that Sitara moves into Nani's, ensures she is able to be move around to and back from university safely and maybe go and meet Sana and Saba-Junaid's at times (maybe arrange a car and driver for her exclusively), give her that internship under him so that she has an earning of her own and he is able to keep an eye on her, enroll her into therapy and ensure, most importantly, that Salar does not go anywhere near her, both for her own sake and Salar's sake. I believe that if Sitara leaves, Tahir's hardest task would be to keep Salar restrained because he will try to chase after Sitara. I also think Salar himself needs space to get his own bearings back.

My personal preference is that if this distance and living apart helps, Salar should be able to come clean to Sitara and explain away all the misunderstandings while Sitara herself owes one hell of an apology to Salar and a good solid and honest conversation with him. I want Sitara to miss Salar, to come to understand that she wants to be with Salar despite everything and then confesses her feelings to him. I do not want Sitara getting pregnant or Salar landing up in hospital and something as dramatic as that (but in all probability, that is what is going to happen).

all this would have been avoided if salar had told everyone that it was nimmi who sent the .message and Sitara was innocent , marriage was not the only way to solve this fiasco ..

Originally posted by: Priyankaakdha

all this would have been avoided if salar had told everyone that it was nimmi who sent the .message and Sitara was innocent , marriage was not the only way to solve this fiasco ..

When did Salar come to know about Nimi's messages? I can't remember. Was it after the public humiliation because all I can remember is that Qasim confirming to Salar that Nimi was involved. Frankly, if it was after the public humiliation, only a marriage could have saved her.

Originally posted by: roopshas1

When did Salar come to know about Nimi's messages? I can't remember. Was it after the public humiliation because all I can remember is that Qasim confirming to Salar that Nimi was involved. Frankly, if it was after the public humiliation, only a marriage could have saved her.

but it would make a difference ... i mean here to marry sitara , he gave money to salman , but if he had told everybody that sitara was innocent and it was all preplanned by nimmi , after that had asked her hand for marriage , toh it would have been a better approach ..

Originally posted by: Priyankaakdha

until and unless someone will tell her the entire story , this MU will never end ... and i don't want to come this from Salar's mouth ...

i think Saba is the right person for this task

No. I think it should come from Salar's own mouth. Not now or immediately but some time in future once these two have had some space. Otherwise their communication has huge gaps since they got married. They need to learn to communicate. These straightforward misunderstandings and can be cleared if Sitara just has the time to calm down. Like you said, she reacts horribly at first but then she calms down.

Originally posted by: roopshas1

When did Salar come to know about Nimi's messages? I can't remember. Was it after the public humiliation because all I can remember is that Qasim confirming to Salar that Nimi was involved. Frankly, if it was after the public humiliation, only a marriage could have saved her.

It was when Qasim met Salar after Sitara got engaged to Qasim. Salar asked Qasim if he had lower his standards to get engaged to Sitara n that is when Qasim reveals it was nimmi who had messaged him. And goes on to tell him that he wouldn't let anyone know the truth as that wld keep Sitara n her family indebted to him.

It would have been better if they wld hv shown Salar making efforts to clear Sitara. Instead they show him spending an entire night at his beach house feeling bad for Sitara n then decides to fix things for her by ensuring she doesn't marry qasim. 🤦‍♀️

Originally posted by: Priyankaakdha

Qasim told him on shore ...

but it would make a difference ... i mean here to marry sitara , he gave money to salman , but if he had told everybody that sitara was innocent and it was all preplanned by nimmi , after that had asked her hand for marriage , toh it would have been a better approach ..

Exactly. Frankly, he had the opportunity to do so at her second wedding. Nimi ko agar dho dalta wahin to koi problem hi na khadi hoti. Aur khud Kiran ko bhi expose kar dalti wo. Baad mein romance wagera apna inka chalta rehta, dikhte ki family ka reputation ab bohut kharab ho chuka hai lekin Sitara innocent bhi hai to usko hostel ya dur kahin bhej de rahein hain aur family fir bhi nafrat kar rahi hai, aur time skip karte to track sahi rehta.