Originally posted by: awida
I am happy that you keep pointing at the positivities in this show. Salar and Junaid's convo, he was hit by realisation that Sitara is trusting the wrong ppl. He couldn't go to the field before checking if Sitara is safe. He tried to threat Salman. But Salman knows that he is out of Salar's reach. 
Thank you. 
I try my best to ignore the family scenes, although I don't skip them, but the truth is that they give huge insights into the overarching story. Salman is going to so get his ass kicked once Salar returns. He is unnecessarily provoking a person who is perfectly capable to being, as Sitara rightly puts it, jahil and has no qualms behaving that way.
Originally posted by: awida
When Sana mentioned to Sitara that if Junaid tried to misbehave with her Salman was there to stop him.. and Sitara said: Salman isn't Salar. Salar won't let any guy look at me, he would've pulled his colar . Sana was stunned. And when she asked her about it.. Sitara said : Salar is badtameez ,ignorant.. Whom does Sitara fool? She is thinking of him whenever she faces any problem with her family members. But what can she do when her own brother who claimed to be protecting her is going to betray her. 
Zohaib is an unfortunate product of his own environment. He knows his position in that household is not only secure but also crucial because of the immensely patriarchal and misogynist societal structure he is in. Add to this that he was much younger than Sitara when he lost his parents and began being raised by his uncle and aunt further influencing his value system in their favour. Further add to this, his aunt's behaviour where she misbehaves with Sitara mostly behind Zohaib's back but pampers him, and what you have is a cocktail of a young adult who has imbibed the orthodox mentality of his family. He has begun identifying more with his uncle and aunt and slowly has become detached with his sister. Remember how Sitara was left behind in Hyderabad even by Zohaib while everyone went for shopping. Thanks to his society and environment, his positive view of his elder sister is thus dependent on his perception of her virtue. This is particularly so because he projects his own capability to perform misdeeds onto Sitara and her tarnished reputation. He genuinely believes that Sitara is lying and was sneaking around with men, and she only got caught with Salar. That is why he calls the possible relationship between Sitara and Salar as "chakkar" literally translating to an affair or a fling, not "rishta" which means a relationship, that would accord a sense of dignity and responsibility between Sitara and Salar. One thing to notice is that he never asks Sitara about whether she likes Salar, whether she loves him or not, whether she feels safe with him or not, how they became so close, whether she prefers Qasim or not. He became very aggressive with her once Qasim claimed that they were in love without even trying to crosscheck things with Sitara and ask her whether or not she truly loves Qasim and was in a relationship. Since then, he has dehumanised her wants, needs, desires, dignity and now unfortunately her life. Unfortunately, for the society he is in, men believe that the ability to exercise control over the women of their family, especially on their sexuality, is a symbol of their masculinity and any breach of that perception of control becomes a case of supposedly tarnishing the familial honour. You can see that Zohaib is being cruel with Sitara. He has lied to her, misled her, is making the decisions for her life not only without her input or consent but against it, and this is not just the case with Salman-Sitara alliance. This is a guy that had no problems marrying his sister off to a middle aged man with two grown up kids, essentially throwing her out of the family and abandoning her at the mercy of near absolute strangers in a foreign land. Not once did he insist on waiting for Qasim, talking to Qasim's mother, or insist on finding another groom, younger albeit widowed or divorced, while taking responsibility of the situation. He could have done that easily by setting his foot down. He could have said that while it is certain that Sitara needs to be married off as soon as possible because of her tarnished reputation, they should wait for a more suitable groom. Yes, one can say that they felt like they were out of options but as we can now see, they were perfectly decent options - Salman and Zoya's brother. The fact that Zohaib insisted on doing nothing and was instead making threatening faces at Sitara at the wedding made me sick. I hope that Zohaib really gets a kick in the shins in the story and gets some sense knocked into his head by Salarand maybe Junaid (I think that he is still a young adult who just needs a more sensible and positive male role model than the ones he has around him).
Originally posted by: awida
Shahida is very dangerous and full of haterd. She wishes the worst for Najma and her family.. she wants Nimi to stay single forever. What kind of a person she is!
Lol. 
Najma-Shahida beef is the best thing in the story. It is so common in joint families that it is like watching the most typical family drama from your own neighbourhood coming to life on TV. Yes, Shahida is being vicious but I assure you given how she complains about her marital family in genuine pain, I am pretty sure even Najma must have pulled some shit on her. Absolutely terrible people. May these two destroy each other.
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