What is wrong with Akshara's POV - Page 3

Originally posted by: chaipaani

This exactly this. I mean what is expectations that he is reacting this way. Or were Navra expecting Abhir ans Abhimanyu to be distant instead.

I mean my parents would want me to be happy no matter where that's what I know so may Navra wants Abhir to be happy only with them

Yes! That's what I have been saying continuously. They don't want Abhir happy, irrespective of what they keep saying, they want him happy ONLY with them. And that's what's making them bad parents for me, not the whole khoon ka rishta and crap.

Pati ji ko rights nahi toh patni ji palan karrahi hi gusse ka mulya. Betu Raja bhi Kum nahi hi gusse Raja hi bahut cute cute gussa dikhaya. Kya haq dikhaya dada tie set Karo. Super kid.

Originally posted by: Siasia2014

But even if AB isn’t alive she would blame him. Here tho he just wasn’t around.

I am surprised she hasn't blamed him for Sirat not being Akshara's birth mother.

For someone who remembers her birth mother, who she doesn't remember meeting, far more than her "paalnewali" mother, she is over contradictory anyways.

She is just jealous her child is happy without her. She would have preferred Abhir crying and screaming, who cares about his mental health and happiness!

Wonder what they are going to show when it’s the weekend and Abhir has to visit them.

Originally posted by: Siasia2014

Wonder what they are going to show when it’s the weekend and Abhir has to visit them.

The way Abhir is feeling at the moment, he might say no initially, and Abhimanyu who still is looking at this as co parenting, will explain and send him. Where Akshara and Abhinav would still do their DDP in their head and just smile seeing him enjoy with Goenkas, if he enjoys, because then Abhir is smiling because of them and their family, they don't mind him happy as long as it's with them after all, it is just without them that they get jealous.

I don't understand why Abhimanyu is being portrayed as the victim when he was the one who abandoned a woman going through the toughest situation in her life. While Abhimanyu lost the twins, Akshara suffered a greater loss of trust and love when her own husband refused to support her during a difficult time, which included the loss of her brother Neil and her baby. She was in a vulnerable state, and when Abhimanyu reappeared in her life, she was taken aback because she never expected the man who ignored her calls and disregarded her side of the story to return.

During the six years Abhimanyu was experiencing loss, Akshara was struggling to settle into a new, unknown life while dealing with loss and trust issues. Now that he has suddenly come back, how are they going to explain the story to little Abhir? Do they tell him that his dad abandoned his mom when she needed him the most in her vulnerable state?

Abhinav is adjusting to the situation of accepting that Abhir sees Abhimanyu as his father, but it's normal for him to feel a bit hurt since they have been together for the past six years.

I don't understand why Abhimanyu is being portrayed as the victim when he was the one who abandoned a woman going through the toughest situation in her life. While Abhimanyu lost the twins, Akshara suffered a greater loss of trust and love when her own husband refused to support her during a difficult time, which included the loss of her brother Neil and her baby.

How can we quantity that loss was greater for AK than it was for Abhimanyu? Just like AK, Abhimanyu lost a brother, his kids and trust on his wife. So it was exactly the same for him. Why we say it was more for AK? If time was hard for AK it was same for Abhimanyu too. He too was dealing with tons of emotional turmoil of loosing so many people at the same time.

She was in a vulnerable state, and when Abhimanyu reappeared in her life, she was taken aback because she never expected the man who ignored her calls and disregarded her side of the story to return.

How was she is a vulnerable state? She moved on and got married without as much as looking back. She was happily settled with a husband who never disagrees with her. She got a man of her dreams so how was she in a vulnerable state?

During the six years Abhimanyu was experiencing loss, Akshara was struggling to settle into a new, unknown life while dealing with loss and trust issues. Now that he has suddenly come back, how are they going to explain the story to little Abhir? Do they tell him that his dad abandoned his mom when she needed him the most in her vulnerable state?

So if we say Abhimanyu lost 6 years of Abhir's life due to his own deeds, wouldn't it be fair to say that AK had trust issues due to her own deeds?if they choose to tell Abhir the truth then it has to be "the truth". NOT AK's twisted version of the events. And frankly, seeing AK's character graph that is the most unrealistic expectation from her. She is too selfish to be truthful even to her son

Abhinav is adjusting to the situation of accepting that Abhir sees Abhimanyu as his father, but it's normal for him to feel a bit hurt since they have been together for the past six years.

On this I agree with you. I feel for him. He did love the kid but if he truly loves this child, he should respect the fact that Abhir has a right to love Abhimanyu equally

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Originally posted by: Sukriti4u

I don't understand why Abhimanyu is being portrayed as the victim when he was the one who abandoned a woman going through the toughest situation in her life. While Abhimanyu lost the twins, Akshara suffered a greater loss of trust and love when her own husband refused to support her during a difficult time, which included the loss of her brother Neil and her baby. She was in a vulnerable state, and when Abhimanyu reappeared in her life, she was taken aback because she never expected the man who ignored her calls and disregarded her side of the story to return.

During the six years Abhimanyu was experiencing loss, Akshara was struggling to settle into a new, unknown life while dealing with loss and trust issues. Now that he has suddenly come back, how are they going to explain the story to little Abhir? Do they tell him that his dad abandoned his mom when she needed him the most in her vulnerable state?

Abhinav is adjusting to the situation of accepting that Abhir sees Abhimanyu as his father, but it's normal for him to feel a bit hurt since they have been together for the past six years.

So few things when Abhimanyu abandoned her I won't exactly say abandoned but broke up with her he too was not in a good shape. His brother died and she indirectly was involved in his death. And then she didn't even stay in room to let others mourn. She also didn't say sorry but kept justifying herself. Not saying Abhimanyu did was right but it was a two way doing.

Coming up to explaining Abhir and adjustment of Abhinav.

They have had like months now since they reconnected. A few months since AbhiM knows the truth so i believe Abhinav should have adjusted now considering he was the one who said bta dena chahiye but apparently he is not even handling Abhir calling Abhimanyu dad.

Second when she can chill with AbhiM, dance, have fun banters then her only being rude to him when it comes to Abhir doesn't make sense.

If we look at the scenario AbhiM still have said sorry to her, he has monologues accepting he did wrong and that's why he is no longer blaming her for the missing 6 years it's just that he wants to be a part of his son's life.

Telling Abhir i think either tell him the whole truth while accepting her role in the case and telling how Abhimanyu behaved or just tell a kid we had a fight we moved on. But now he is back. It's not like Abhir is anyway asking at the moment any more questions he just asked ap ki katti hogyi thi so.

Originally posted by: Sukriti4u

I don't understand why Abhimanyu is being portrayed as the victim when he was the one who abandoned a woman going through the toughest situation in her life. While Abhimanyu lost the twins, Akshara suffered a greater loss of trust and love when her own husband refused to support her during a difficult time, which included the loss of her brother Neil and her baby. She was in a vulnerable state, and when Abhimanyu reappeared in her life, she was taken aback because she never expected the man who ignored her calls and disregarded her side of the story to return.

During the six years Abhimanyu was experiencing loss, Akshara was struggling to settle into a new, unknown life while dealing with loss and trust issues. Now that he has suddenly come back, how are they going to explain the story to little Abhir? Do they tell him that his dad abandoned his mom when she needed him the most in her vulnerable state?

Abhinav is adjusting to the situation of accepting that Abhir sees Abhimanyu as his father, but it's normal for him to feel a bit hurt since they have been together for the past six years.

One more thing I don't see this post to be exactly portraying Abhimanyu as victim.

It's simply on Ak's pov today don't you find it odf that as a mother more than her son being okay with her and loving her she wants him to accept Abhinav.

As if she is okay to push her own son and hurt him as long as the father's position in Abhir's eyes is only Abhinav and not Abhimanyu not even both.

Maybe coz she knew there's no one to challenge her position. So she is okay to take even her son for granted

While it's true that Abhimanyu went through a difficult time after his brother's death, it doesn't excuse his abandonment of Akshara during her own vulnerable state. His grief doesn't justify his actions towards her. Akshara was dealing with multiple losses, including the death of her brother and their unborn child. She needed support and understanding from her husband, but instead, he chose to distance himself with resentment.

Regarding the adjustment of Abhinav, it's important to remember that healing and acceptance take time. Just because a few months have passed since they reconnected doesn't mean that Abhinav should be completely adjusted by now. Emotions are complex, and it's natural for him to feel hurt and conflicted after being with Akshara,Abhir for six years and then seeing Abhir bond with Abhimanyu and would feel he is loosing some degree of importance.

As for Akshara's behavior, it's understandable that she may have moments of anger or frustration when it comes to Abhir's relationship with Abhimanyu. She has been trying to move forward and create a new life for herself and her son. People can have fun banter and still struggle with unresolved emotions and trust issues.

While Abhimanyu may have had some monologues and accepted his own mistakes, it's important for him to genuinely apologize to Akshara and take responsibility for his actions. It's not just about wanting to be a part of his son's life; it's about acknowledging the pain he caused Akshara and actively working towards rebuilding trust.

While the option of simplifying the truth for Abhir by saying they had a fight and moved on may seem appealing, it's important to consider the long-term consequences. Children can sense when something is being hidden, and discovering the truth later on may lead to feelings of betrayal. By telling Abhir the whole truth in an age-appropriate manner, it allows him to understand relationships, promotes honesty, and models healthy communication. Addressing the truth proactively creates a supportive environment and fosters stronger family bonds.

In short I would say, while everyone involved may have experienced pain and loss, it's important to recognize that Abhimanyu's abandonment of Akshara during her vulnerable state was a significant betrayal.