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Completely agreed with you. At the end of the day, Arnav cheated Khushi and that is unforgivable..not only he cheated but he also have no remorse about that affair..

But I am waiting how author Handel the matter, waiting for her to Penn down.

He could have simply sat down and discussed with her why he didn't want a baby, he broke the communication and any effort by her to mend this relationship! he could have offered to separate right then saying I can't give you a baby, period! He would have simply vented out in anger that she need to marry someone else for a baby and walked away; she would have got the essage loud and clear!

He knew she treated marriage is for 7 lives and also she had cried when Arnav told her about his physical relationship with Anamika even before he was married to Anamika; Khushi was not even in the picture but felt hurt... So what did he do in return, rewarded her divorce and slept with other woman knowing that would break her completely... All he needed to do was tell her he is done with her, separate and move on; of course Khushi would be upset but will understand eventually.. He ultimately did what he wanted to do, gave her divorce but maybe like original IPKKND, he wanted to do things in reverse chronological order... Behave as if she doesn't exist, ill-treat her, Have an affair and sex with other woman first, hide it, discuss divorce with friends, secretary and lawyer first and wait until your wife find it out (he forgot his wife reads him well & had her own ways to figure things out) and he turned so selfish to reduce his guilt by offering alimony or explain to get himself closure!

It's so oadd for me to believe that being the righeous man he claimed to be, he chose infidelity over every other option available out there. Then when she left and he got to know about Shyam,instead of calling her and asking or involving Payal to communicate, this man has audacity to reenter her life unannounced, bring her back without her will and expect her to forget and forgive! He was control freak and dominating is an understatement, he has taken her for a ride in last few months and has been a manupulative jerk! Anamika was lucky, she got saved!

Oh, by the way he was supposed to tell her the truth but the timing was off, bavo! About the divorce he was preparing for months..

I am lost as to how and why he changed so suddenly?? Was he just bored of his typical life and wife, was doing drugs and liked what Bollywood women like Lavanya offered? Why not choose simple path to handle things in 21st century??

Totally agreed..

Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi

Arpita, there is a lot of bias towards Arnav in some of your response, so I couldn't help but point! I understand hard working and responsible towards family etc. but close observations through the story clearly indicates he was selfish, demanding in a polite way and control freak who worked towards the goals that he assume were right! Being astute businessman, he read people well to use them to his advantage charmingly!

Example, you gave explanation about Anamika throwing his family past on his face during fight that broke them apart and we all agreed. But who started this? Agreed, Arnav informed Anamika about his family and financial conitions in advance but everytime she expected him to do something in the relationship, didn't he throw "I told you my situation so adjust/compromise" in her face? Have you ever give this a thought? Even if Anamika and he would have sorted their differences back then, they would landed at the same spot sonner than before since he never knew to compromise!

Even with Khushi he knew she had lowest expectations from him owing to her background and she woud adjust. When she spent 5000 to redo the house and bring it to livable condition, his first reaction is “This kind of splurge on comfort is not for people like us Khushi. Family comes first" Arnav said as guilt began to bubble in his chest. This money could have gone to the loan, to his dad’s store. He could have bought something nice for his mother or Anjali." So he is ok to buy nice things for his mom and sis while expecting his wife to adjust in a run down apartment??

He has always been the man of conditions with high handed decision making! Also you indicated ASR being arrogant and cocky in recent years! He had shown sign of narcissism right from the beginning but it got covered by Khushi's adjustments, unconditional love and compromises and the marriage worked for 10 years but the first time Khushi was adament about her desires, look what he did!

This ASR changes colors like a chameleon and becomes ultra traditional expecting his wife /gf to adjust for his responsibilties towards his family & support / compromise but modern enought to refuse baby for the traditional wife from a village hen this expectation was set by his own mother even before the marriage!

Also, he hasn't treated La well but she deserves it and I don't give a damn about her no matter how deep their affair was, that vile bitch is not worth talking for now at least!

I would rather stick to my original analysis of this ASR.. This guy is toxic and big time hypocrite too....

Ari - My purpose to reply you was to show Arnav had certain personality traits that reflect throughout including his aloofness, run away from the situation as his father mentioned, block communication, adamancy and control freak, decision making style expecting others to abide by.. And disrespecting their marriage, ill treating Khushi and affair was icing on the cake y Arnav!

Still Khushi made it work by her poised nature, simplicity and straight forward thiking, fresh and positive personality and adjusting with a smile and in return he was positive and nice to her too most times.. Khushi here has definitely done more compromise to make relationship work, being a house wife, village girl doesn't take it away from her! Men would die to get such a wonderful girl in their life!

You can continue to support Arnav, that's your choice and we completely respect that... You don't need to stop yourself from expressing, this is mature group and we all respect each other, my love for you girl!

Hey Ari means enemy!!!! sure we are not that!!!!

I understand your pov . But I have supported Arnav because i don't think he had ill treated Khushi . They drifted apart because their priorities were different. My problem is putting all the blame on his door. Their relationship was already broken . If Arnav was selfish then khushi too was really selfish!!!

She could sense the trauma he is going through, still carried on the charade of trying for a baby!! How long it takes to assure him that darling nothing is worth putting you through so much trauma. He gave in to her wish for a baby, he was happy to go through something that was really traumatic for him. She didn't stop the pill ,why not tell him!!!! What was she thinking!!! They have been married for too long to sort priorities. I am sure that whole episode combined with their fights previously pushed him to edge and he called quits. He genuinely believed the only thing that can keep her happy was if he gives in to her demands of patching up with the family and having a baby. Both of the things he was finding himself incapable of. So he started pulling himself off....It takes a lot for a man who has taken responsibilities from very young age and tried his best to keep everyone happy but still seeing himself as a failure because he couldn't give in to their demands. He felt guilty , because he would have heard how selfish he is to do that from his parents ,friends and saw how his wife got detached and unhappy . So he tried to be aloof and started avoiding her ,only because he thought she is unhappy. Only thing he couldn't calculate was the whole Lavanya episode, i still believe he turned to lavanya because she offered non-judgmental friendship and he had few hours of peace in her company ,we don't know lavanya's role in this yet. He might have already contemplating divorce but his pride got hurt when he crossed the boundaries . My speculation is that he felt extremely guilty , that's the very reason he started the divorce process in haste and stayed aloof from khushi before the anniversary party because he coudn't meet her eyes. Also it is very easy to say he should have divorced first, but life doesn't give you time to sort things, by the time you come to realise , otherwise divorces will never be messy. I strongly believe had he not slipped the very thing that has galvanised the process, he would have conducted the divorce properly. The whole khushi finding out about divorce the way she did(oh!! my heart goes for her) was not his design.

He had always been a person of progressive thoughts , if khushi didn't expect anything from him so did he. He never initiated physical relationship until she assured him , he never expected her to wait for him till late night. He never expected her to get up early and make breakfast for him, had been supportive to whatever she wanted to do, even encouraged her to be independent. Took care of her parents. Even after realising that his life is empty without khushi he never went back to bring her back, because Khushi said the man she is intending to marry has a child,for i am sure he knew her parents would have packed her back to him the moment he wanted. He only went to her place ,when he got to know how she was spoiling her life giving in to her parents and marring Shyam . She did carry on with that ba....d even after he ratted her out to his mother!!!! If he kept on the charade of a gentleman ,she would carry on to the suicide mission!!!! That she lived she dreamworld even after all that was not his fault. She was waiting for the parents to come and fix her marriage !!!! she didn't know where her husband is and was still staying in lucknow with parents, why we are still waiting to know . Even after they had fought many times after these very trips!! It beats me as to why that is not considered her taking him granted. To me up until the anniversary her priorities were family and baby .

We are still to see what efforts khushi made to communicate , because their conversation for anniversary party suggests that she was asking for it because the parents wanted to come . Fear is a very sensitive topic , and to me it's very close to my heart . My son is special needs and fears babies!!! anytime we are around babies he gets really stressed but being the sweetie he tries to endure. We now avoid everything that can bring him in close contact of babies for a longer time . The things Arpita described knuckles turning white , whole body going stiff are the very signs of the trauma . Arnav understood khushi only genuinely smiled holding Leher and he gave in, she understood he is going through trauma but failed to assure him I still think she not stopping pill counts . Her idea of getting him back this way was absurd. Think about a person having tomophobia has to go through an plastic surgery .

Phew !!!!! thats all are my deductions from whatever I read . This story is effecting me quite hard, i blame Arpita's pen !!!!!

Lovely chatting to u and everyone else xxxx

I have send my entry to Arpita, thanks for your idea!!!

Originally posted by: Arilip

Hey Ari means enemy!!!! sure we are not that!!!!

I understand your pov . But I have supported Arnav because i don't think he had ill treated Khushi . They drifted apart because their priorities were different. My problem is putting all the blame on his door. Their relationship was already broken . If Arnav was selfish then khushi too was really selfish!!!

She could sense the trauma he is going through, still carried on the charade of trying for a baby!! How long it takes to assure him that darling nothing is worth putting you through so much trauma. He gave in to her wish for a baby, he was happy to go through something that was really traumatic for him. She didn't stop the pill ,why not tell him!!!! What was she thinking!!! They have been married for too long to sort priorities. I am sure that whole episode combined with their fights previously pushed him to edge and he called quits. He genuinely believed the only thing that can keep her happy was if he gives in to her demands of patching up with the family and having a baby. Both of the things he was finding himself incapable of. So he started pulling himself off....It takes a lot for a man who has taken responsibilities from very young age and tried his best to keep everyone happy but still seeing himself as a failure because he couldn't give in to their demands. He felt guilty , because he would have heard how selfish he is to do that from his parents ,friends and saw how his wife got detached and unhappy . So he tried to be aloof and started avoiding her ,only because he thought she is unhappy. Only thing he couldn't calculate was the whole Lavanya episode, i still believe he turned to lavanya because she offered non-judgmental friendship and he had few hours of peace in her company ,we don't know lavanya's role in this yet. He might have already contemplating divorce but his pride got hurt when he crossed the boundaries . My speculation is that he felt extremely guilty , that's the very reason he started the divorce process in haste and stayed aloof from khushi before the anniversary party because he coudn't meet her eyes. He had always been a person of progressive thoughts , if khushi didn't expect anything from him so did he. He never initiated physical relationship until she assured him , he never expected her to wait for him till late night. He never expected her to get up early and make breakfast for him, had been supportive to whatever she wanted o do. Took care of her parents. Even after realising that his life is empty without khushi he never went back to bring her back, because Khushi said the man she is intending to marry has a child,for i am sure he knew her parents would have packed her back to him the moment he wanted. He only went to her place ,when he got to know how she was spoiling her life giving in to her parents and marring Shyam . She did carry on with that ba....d even after he ratted her out to his mother!!!! If he kept on the charade of a gentleman ,she would carry on to the suicide mission!!!!

We are still to see what efforts khushi made to communicate , because their conversation for anniversary party suggests that she was asking for it because the parents wanted to come . And since arnav Fear is a very sensitive topic , and to me it's very close to my heart . My son is special needs and fears babies!!! anytime we are around babies he gets really stressed but being the sweetie he tries to endure. We now avoid everything that can bring him in close contact of babies for a longer time . The things Arpita described knuckles turning white , whole body going stiff are the very signs of the trauma . Arnav understood khushi only genuinely smiled holding Leher and he gave in, she understood he is going through trauma but failed to assure him I still think she not stopping pill counts.

Phew !!!!! thats all are my deductions from whatever I read . This story is effecting me quite hard, i blame Arpita's pen !!!!!

Lovely chatting to u and everyone else xxxx

Hi Ari,

Some great insights in the comment. Arnav is clearly freaking out about babies and yes, his response is not normal 😊.

The important point is, prior to this i have always mentioned Arnav's anger. He had always gotten angry about the topic. The maximum he has said is that 'even thinking about a child makes him...' . that is all. Only after he agreed to have a baby, is when he had freaked out to this degree which did not go unnoticed by Khushi. You are right about his response being extreme though.

She was right in her deduction. he did not want this.

I have defended the young Arnav in a very detailed comment. I will defend my Khushi too now 😃

I think that is needed because i may have missed to get my point across in the story itself. A lot of things do not have detailed paragraphs, but only a subtle hint and one liners for readers to get the gist. i may have been wrong there.

So here is my analysis and thoughts behind the points you listed. Please bear with me because this is going to be long too. I hope I can answer some of your doubts. This is purely because I think I missed to get my point across :)

- The problems that you listed out in their relationship. About communication and running away. It is totally true and correct. The breakdown has happened. it is no longer smaller fights or disagreements. It is two people literally living away from each other in the same house. In any case, it is not a normal thing. But the truth is, the distance is also driving the weird behavior of Khushi and Arnav both. By no means have they acted like perfect humans and have made mistakes. But both of them have accepted already where they went wrong in the previous chapters.

- About Khushi stopping pills.

I am not sure how many of you missed it, but within the first 3-4 chapters i had listed out that Khushi had grown up with the taunts about not being able to bear babies because she has been thin and week all her life. As much as i want to talk about fat shaming in at least one of my fics, to have someone in family grow up with same taunts and insecurities about being too thin has made me a bit aware of the issue.

The episode had happened right after Arnav nearly ghosted her and she was terrified out of her mind about this. She says so herself. She mused that. That she had steered clear of the topic after their last discussion after which Arnav started keeping away for longer and longer time. Its her who thinks that the topic at this point had become a taboo for them. They are anyway not being normal.

She is ready to believe Arnav in an instant when he says he wants a kid, she wanted it that badly!!!!. Again we are forgetting her upbringing. She has been brought up with the belief that this is a woman's duty. There is a reason Khushi's background is what it is in this fic. This was pretty much the ONLY thing she has wanted for long and yet she was the one who refrained from talking about it when instead of fighting/discussing, Arnav started choosing to go away.

She still tried to talk in the car. Arnav was the one who shut the discussion down. He was the one who was lying, and Khushi had to deduce his true stance by his behavior. He wasn't being entirely truthful either. And she could have grabbed that loophole. After all he agreed. she could be a mother.

And in an ideal scenario, she would have pressed on and forced him to discuss, but his recent responses have been choosing to go away instead of talking. A husband gone for a week and not talking for the first time in 10 years is a big deal! prior to this, She repeatedly asked him to come back to the room and he kept denying. And all this while, she is also trying to soothe herself that it was a real possibility that she may never be a mother.

But maybe i should have written in more detail what Khushi's thought process was. Trying for a kid meant they were living together again. as i said in a previous comment, I don't think Arnav is shallow enough to still be closed off in his study or his room and then go to Khushi when it was time for sex. She was trying to get things normal (living properly together again) and maybe then speak to him about it. One day at a time. The pill was never a permanent plan. That was just her saving Arnav from a pregnancy that he so didn't want, and she was unable to talk to an estranged husband who wanted no discussion on the matter at all.

But Khushi agreed to you in the last chapter. It was a spectacularly rubbish plan that backfired in the worst way possible. and the reason had already been mentioned from Arnav's POV. Arnav was RELIEVED when Khushi did not get pregnant. It was his guilt then, about feeling good about this whole thing that drove him away.

Which is precisely when Payal told Arnav about the pills, he was guilty instead of being angry. he knew he was the one deceiving and Khushi had understood him. Just that he did not give her a chance to talk to him.

You are right. Ideally Khushi should have told him that she didn't want a kid this way. But ideally, she should also have a husband who is not constantly shutting her out. She refrained from the baby topic, and he still kept pulling away.

Also, I am no expert on the topic which is why i wont go there, but a woman desperately wanting to be a mother and being unable to do so has been proven to lead to great mental disorders as well as depression. It is not as easy to just get up and tell the husband that she doesn't want a kid because she definitely does want one.

And she does realize that finally and it could not have been easy for her by any means.

What you wanted Khushi to do (Reaching out to Arnav , being more involved in his world and telling him that he is more important that a kid) is exactly what she wrote in her letter.

The things went south in the last year and a half alone. She is his wife. Of course, she is going to fight for her desires for a time being before choosing Arnav again.

About Khushi Going to Lucknow so many times

Apart from Khusi's insecurity to stay away from Arnav's glamorous life, we have not yet adressed this issue :)

I hope i was able to get the point across. I am agreeing to your point here. Hiding about pills was a bad idea. Its just that the circumstances did not lead to a proper discussion. I am just making you understand Khushi's POV. She did not act out of selfishness.

You are right. had they acted perfectly, we would not have a fic to read 😃. The things that i wrote here are purely to make you understand Khushi's plea and POV which i believed was missed out :)

edit- I also wanted to wish you and your son all the luck in the world!! mothers truly are warriors. All my love to you and your little one. Thanks a lot for sharing!!! ❤️❤️

Originally posted by: Arilip

Hey Ari means enemy!!!! sure we are not that!!!!

I understand your pov . But I have supported Arnav because i don't think he had ill treated Khushi . They drifted apart because their priorities were different. My problem is putting all the blame on his door. Their relationship was already broken . If Arnav was selfish then khushi too was really selfish!!!

She could sense the trauma he is going through, still carried on the charade of trying for a baby!! How long it takes to assure him that darling nothing is worth putting you through so much trauma. He gave in to her wish for a baby, he was happy to go through something that was really traumatic for him. She didn't stop the pill ,why not tell him!!!! What was she thinking!!! They have been married for too long to sort priorities. I am sure that whole episode combined with their fights previously pushed him to edge and he called quits. He genuinely believed the only thing that can keep her happy was if he gives in to her demands of patching up with the family and having a baby. Both of the things he was finding himself incapable of. So he started pulling himself off....It takes a lot for a man who has taken responsibilities from very young age and tried his best to keep everyone happy but still seeing himself as a failure because he couldn't give in to their demands. He felt guilty , because he would have heard how selfish he is to do that from his parents ,friends and saw how his wife got detached and unhappy . So he tried to be aloof and started avoiding her ,only because he thought she is unhappy. Only thing he couldn't calculate was the whole Lavanya episode, i still believe he turned to lavanya because she offered non-judgmental friendship and he had few hours of peace in her company ,we don't know lavanya's role in this yet. He might have already contemplating divorce but his pride got hurt when he crossed the boundaries . My speculation is that he felt extremely guilty , that's the very reason he started the divorce process in haste and stayed aloof from khushi before the anniversary party because he coudn't meet her eyes. Also it is very easy to say he should have divorced first, but life doesn't give you time to sort things, by the time you come to realise , otherwise divorces will never be messy. I strongly believe had he not slipped the very thing that has galvanised the process, he would have conducted the divorce properly. The whole khushi finding out about divorce the way she did(oh!! my heart goes for her) was not his design.

He had always been a person of progressive thoughts , if khushi didn't expect anything from him so did he. He never initiated physical relationship until she assured him , he never expected her to wait for him till late night. He never expected her to get up early and make breakfast for him, had been supportive to whatever she wanted to do, even encouraged her to be independent. Took care of her parents. Even after realising that his life is empty without khushi he never went back to bring her back, because Khushi said the man she is intending to marry has a child,for i am sure he knew her parents would have packed her back to him the moment he wanted. He only went to her place ,when he got to know how she was spoiling her life giving in to her parents and marring Shyam . She did carry on with that ba....d even after he ratted her out to his mother!!!! If he kept on the charade of a gentleman ,she would carry on to the suicide mission!!!! That she lived she dreamworld even after all that was not his fault. She was waiting for the parents to come and fix her marriage !!!! she didn't know where her husband is and was still staying in lucknow with parents, why we are still waiting to know . Even after they had fought many times after these very trips!! It beats me as to why that is not considered her taking him granted. To me up until the anniversary her priorities were family and baby .

We are still to see what efforts khushi made to communicate , because their conversation for anniversary party suggests that she was asking for it because the parents wanted to come . Fear is a very sensitive topic , and to me it's very close to my heart . My son is special needs and fears babies!!! anytime we are around babies he gets really stressed but being the sweetie he tries to endure. We now avoid everything that can bring him in close contact of babies for a longer time . The things Arpita described knuckles turning white , whole body going stiff are the very signs of the trauma . Arnav understood khushi only genuinely smiled holding Leher and he gave in, she understood he is going through trauma but failed to assure him I still think she not stopping pill counts . Her idea of getting him back this way was absurd. Think about a person having tomophobia has to go through an plastic surgery .

Phew !!!!! thats all are my deductions from whatever I read . This story is effecting me quite hard, i blame Arpita's pen !!!!!

Lovely chatting to u and everyone else xxxx

I have send my entry to Arpita, thanks for your idea!!!

Also, Loved the response and the end you send. It is unique in the sense of what you want for Arshi as a couple :) :)

Quoting this post again because I missed to highlight this point in my rambling to defend Khushi's wonderfully failing Pill Idea, you are right about one more thing.

Arnav did think that she wanted a kid desperately. He was not wrong either. Khushi did want a kid desperately. It's just that their communication and timings were both quite shitty 😃.

Arpita, in chapter 8, March, 2015 it does say that they had been away from each other for weeks. They had frenzied love making and then when she was in the bathroom he got up and left the room. This must have also been so sad for Khushi. Even being away from each other he was checking out on the physical part of the relationship because there seemed to be little love and tenderness involved with him and it was stated that the attempts at trying for a child were half hearted and unsatisfactory in later months until it stopped. So there does seem to be some shallowness on his part. Also, if I’m not mistaken wasn’t he sleeping in the room next to his study with increasing frequency before this happened.

I am giving Arnav the benefit of the doubt but I don’t believe he kept sleeping with Khushi while sleeping with Lavenya. That would be even more awful. But, as he grew closer to Lavenya his love and affection for Khushi was diminished, mixed with his baby guilt and now infidelity guilt. As many readers pointed out infidelity isn’t just physical but can be emotional too. Sex became even more of a chore and then stopped once he crossed the physical line and continued on with Lavenya.

I once wrote I didn’t think he had an emotional relationship with Lavenya but it was more physical although I never thought it was just for pure sex. I just don’t think he is that kind of man. But now I realize there was an emotional involvement with her. Maybe not the deep kind like he had with Khushi earlier and Anamika before Khushi, but it was there.

And I am still haunted by Lavenya talking about grief and Manali talking about his availability to Lavenya. Something big must have happened to make him break with Lavenya. Arpita, I can’t tell you all of the heartbreaking crazy ideas I have in my head what this can mean. So I do think, there was shallowness, dishonesty and cowardness in his behavior.

I had resolved to put the story behind me till next week but here I am again after a good night’s sleep, at it again.

I always like a happy ending. But what is a happy ending in this case? For me it would be a happy ending if Khushi develops self esteem, makes a life for herself, finds happiness within herself without depending on someone else to do it. I want her to travel, go on those trips she never went to.

But at the same time, I think somewhere deep down, she will not be happy without him. I would not want her to choose him out of compulsion. She should only choose him if she really wants to. For that to happen, Arnav has his work cut out for him. He needs to come clean about everything, treat her as a person he can share his feelings with. Share what bothers him, scares him, and what makes him happy. Treat her as an equal partner, not a responsibility. Travel with her. See the world through her eyes.

While Arnav deserves more blame, Khushi dropped the ball too. If she had a bit more confidence, she would have held him by the collar and pushed him to talk. She knew he just agreed to have the baby without really wanting one. Staying on the pills was fine, but this was the time to push for an answer and for giving him reassurance that she would not do this without him being fully on board. Don't let him walk away without talking.

If she was insecure about attending the events, why didn't she seek Payal's help like she did early on? She missed too many shared experiences with him. He was going his way and she was going her way. For the marriage to stay together, they need to participate in things together. Otherwise the distance keeps growing. She didn't have to start wearing revealing clothes or drinking to fit in. The biggest asset would have been her own confidence in who she was. If anyone dared to show her down, show them they don't hold that power and hold her head high. If they have any future together even now, she will have to get there.

The biggest stumbling block will be his cheating. Can he convince her of his love? Convince her that she matters more than any Lavanya?

The one thing I can add to Swati’s request for us to add our own ending is: Please let Khushi be happy with herself and her decision. And, under no circumstances does Arnav end up with Lavenya. In my mind it would be validating his adultery.

Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi

Sorry, I really don’t want to fight!!!

I never supported infidelity !!! I strongly believe that they never had an affair, until Arpita proves me wrong. That he turned to lavanya I wrote again and again, for he found it easy to be with her as a friend as aakash and payal had their own issues after laher. He slipped that made him withdraw from her .This thing has taken a huge toll on him and he tried to cover it with anger and aloofness . Shutting his wife, I believed he did because khushi wanted baby he didn’t that can be a sore point. He felt guilty and angry at himself, because that's what everyone made him feel, unfortunately even khushi !!!! That's the very reason he wasn't angry when payal told him that ,wasn't payal also thinking khushi to be mahan to do so(to me that counted cheating , removal of condom durning consensual sex is a rape )....he was anyway broken by then. Having a child is a norm ,he was the one different.

He just couldn't dream up that khushi broke up with shyam, he tried to find out if her suitor is a genuine person .
Being “normal” , every one has some or other autistic characters . Fear can be there in anyone for anything.

I myself have huge fear hugging any man(luckily not the husband ;0 ) i have been told it's silly ,ppl got offended . And under pressure it can go worse ,I have to brace myself before we go to those groups,if we have to!!! And he was under a lot of pressure friends ,family and spouse even anyone who would listen to him will find him guilty. If you read what Arpita replied to me ,khushi did want the child really bad and hid her trauma from him. These things are really hard . They both had their flaws and failed to communicate. My problem is khushi is also flawed ,not the extreme goodness !!!! had it not been shyam ,she was doing the same mistake in her anger that Arnav already did cutting communication turning to another man .

The thing that killed the relationship was not infidelity ,they both failed the marriage was over because they refused to talk about their issues to their spouse. It's not that one fine day Arnav got up and started sleeping with Lavanya(we still don't know what really happened) . Yes ,Arnav did the worst in the marriage but the world is not ideal, divorces are messy. Because emotions are involved , it takes a lot even for a man to break a relationship . Had Lavanya never happened , they would have gotten some counseling or maybe khushi's letter would have helped . But as i mentioned in my second comment in this ff " bit by bit they both built the coffin of their relationship and arnav put the lid too tight "

Thanks for your wishes for my son !!! He is my joy!!

Also as you mentioned earlier this is mature forum and we all are free to have our own opinion . Can we please stop victimising each other !!! I am again sorry if I hurt you in anyway ,or if I triggered it !!!!

Bollybabe all these days i was thinking that the grief is because arnav said his divorce has nothing to do with her and he is never going to marry her or anyone else, and he also told "i can't be more explicit than this" which also can mean that they had this conversation before and he said the same thing previously too, but as this time it was the most explicit, in his words...may be that is why she was grieving...she may have thought after divorce with khushi, if she pushes a little they can have a real relation (as mentioned by her in the new yr party also).

But now i am having second thoughts after your words and it is making me afraid. You could be right.

Was she pregnant or something??? GOOOOOD what did i even say.