Aur ab kya bole? - Page 6

She was informed by someone that her son seems stressed and curious. She didn't even bother to find out if that's true, she just assumed that since it's Abhimanyu saying it, he is projecting his feelings on the child, while she herself is doing the same thing of projecting her feelings of being ok without him knowing the truth on her child. There is nothing wrong with her being worried about her husband and caring for him, the wrong is her complete disregard to her child's feelings in the entire narrative.

Originally posted by: India_TV

aree...normal families mein har waqt kya parents bacchon ke peeche ghoomte rahte hain??

isnt it insane to expect that?

shaadi ka ghar hai/...family and abhi manjari jaise mehmaan ghar per hain...to ?

I dont think v have anything to discuss here.....au have agreed abhir has been very well brought up.....

its is a family.....har ghar mein hota hai....kabhi kisi ko care ki zaroorat hai kabhi kisi ko....and family ka kaam hai us waqt support karna...and sharma family is doing it very well....

only families that do not care about ecah other, ko aisa ajeeb lagta hoga......

A family cares about each other. So when someone comes and tells you there is something wrong with one of them, you check. Irrespective of anything happening around, you go and check on that person to be sure they are OK. The way Akshara felt Abhinav wasn't and went to check, the way Arohi pointed to Akshara so she went to check on Abhinav, but when Abhimanyu pointed to Abhir being stressed, she scolded him and didn't bother to check on her son.

But maybe you are right, I have been taught upbringing doesn't end with instilling good values but also with ensuring good mental health throughout life and you check on family if there is even 1% doubt there can be something wrong. That's my family, so yes mujhe ajeeb laga bahut that care ends when there is a marriage in home with guests. Maybe like you said, we don't care about each other enough to wrap each other's emotions up in boxes when marriage is happening because keeping guests happy and entertained isn't our priority when it comes to family, it is us, and I like it that ways, so clearly something wrong with me.

Once she found out that Abhir knows the truth, she had a conversation about the issue and promised to tell him when he grows up. This just doesn’t relate to who Abhir’s RWP is but also why the latter left them even before he was born and as such Ak’s response was mature and to the the point.

After that Abhir ceased efforts to find his RWP and behaved normally. The reason Abhimanyu had sudden urge to reveal the truth was Abhir telling him that he loved him. And after that he projected his thoughts as Abhir’s and successfully manipulated Ak into his conversation not being impulsive.

Originally posted by: cutepigs

A family cares about each other. So when someone comes and tells you there is something wrong with one of them, you check. Irrespective of anything happening around, you go and check on that person to be sure they are OK. The way Akshara felt Abhinav wasn't and went to check, the way Arohi pointed to Akshara so she went to check on Abhinav, but when Abhimanyu pointed to Abhir being stressed, she scolded him and didn't bother to check on her son.

But maybe you are right, I have been taught upbringing doesn't end with instilling good values but also with ensuring good mental health throughout life and you check on family if there is even 1% doubt there can be something wrong. That's my family, so yes mujhe ajeeb laga bahut that care ends when there is a marriage in home with guests. Maybe like you said, we don't care about each other enough to wrap each other's emotions up in boxes when marriage is happening because keeping guests happy and entertained isn't our priority when it comes to family, it is us, and I like it that ways, so clearly something wrong with me.

I think the last 6 years has been enough proof to show how capable parents sharmas r...

akshu ne abhir se baat ki hai....and je was okay with it....he is not shown hairaan parshaan in the shaadi? or is he? I saw him enoying the shaadi...

but abhinav was defo parshaan...thanks to abhi's mom....and then knowing the truth that abhir knows the truth....

so talking to abhinav was more important than talking to abhir...

yeh mental issues kuch ghanton mein nahi ho jaate hain...abhir was shown to b enjoying the shaadi....

I feel it was more of seeing Abhir's trust in him. When Akshara would tell him why, it would hurt his relationship with Abhir only, not anyone else's since Abhir is normal even after knowing Abhinav isn't his real father. For me, the trust stood out, the absolute blind faith Abhir has on Abhimanyu, that is now wrecking Abhimanyu every time he lies to his son.

Akshara has gone through a similar trauma, so if she also cannot understand her child, it is worse. And it's not about the few hours or Abhinav shown heraan and Abhir not, it is about someone mentioning to her that her child is upset and instead of even once thinking of checking, she dismissed it. Not even once did she try to think what if there is truth to the statement. And the happy child has shown he is capable of pretending to not bother his parents when he got sick.

They are capable parents, being husband and wife is new to them. Nobody has called them out on being horrible parents so I don't understand why they are capable parents is a way to say Abhimanyu isn't or he is the villain. Akshara is being a wife first is also ok, nothing wrong with that, but dismissing her child's POSSIBLE emotional distress because husband's emotions would get hurt is not ok. I am not saying Abhir is definitely under trauma or distressed, am saying someone told Akshara her child is, and she does not want to check and solve that because her husband's emotions would get hurt, and that for me, makes her a bad mother. That's my definition of family, you check up on everyone, not focus on 1 person when there is a possibility other could be hurting top.

Originally posted by: cutepigs

Akshara has gone through a similar trauma, so if she also cannot understand her child, it is worse. And it's not about the few hours or Abhinav shown heraan and Abhir not, it is about someone mentioning to her that her child is upset and instead of even once thinking of checking, she dismissed it. Not even once did she try to think what if there is truth to the statement. And the happy child has shown he is capable of pretending to not bother his parents when he got sick.

They are capable parents, being husband and wife is new to them. Nobody has called them out on being horrible parents so I don't understand why they are capable parents is a way to say Abhimanyu isn't or he is the villain. Akshara is being a wife first is also ok, nothing wrong with that, but dismissing her child's POSSIBLE emotional distress because husband's emotions would get hurt is not ok. I am not saying Abhir is definitely under trauma or distressed, am saying someone told Akshara her child is, and she does not want to check and solve that because her husband's emotions would get hurt, and that for me, makes her a bad mother. That's my definition of family, you check up on everyone, not focus on 1 person when there is a possibility other could be hurting top.

i can't see abhir in emotional distress at all......he is shown as enjoying the shaadi functions.....

may b by seeing abhinav and akshu as a couple, many may be in emotional distress......

for me, I am a fan of neither...and i m invested in story and characters....so i m seeing the drama as makers are showing......

Originally posted by: India_TV

i can't see abhir in emotional distress at all......he is shown as enjoying the shaadi functions.....

may b by seeing abhinav and akshu as a couple, many may be in emotional distress......

for me, I am a fan of neither...and i m invested in story and characters....so i m seeing the drama as makers are showing......

Agreed. As a neutral viewer I watch it as a drama & not being a fan of particular actor helps me to understand every character. I understand Akshara, Abhimanyu & Abhinav 's pain.

Abhir is not in emotional distress at all now. He is just curious to know who is his real father.

Being a particular actor or character's fan make one not understanding other characters emotions. That's what happening.