Few years ago I had this conversation with my friend whose name could be let's say A.
A: Congratulations on your baby!
Me: Thank you
A: How's life after the baby? I am sure you must be dying to go back to work.
Me: No, I quit my job.
A (shocked): Why? Why did you quit your job?
Me: I want to focus on my baby for the next few years....
A: Are you mad? How can you leave your career for your baby? Just leave it in daycare. The baby will be fine.
Me: I don't want to leave my baby in daycare. I would rather take care of it myself.
A: Did your husband or in-laws force you to quit your job?
Me: It was completely my decision.
A: Are you mad? Your life without career will be incomplete. You will lose your financial independence. You have to be dependent on your husband for everything now. Your parents didn't spend so much money in your education just for you to sit at home doing nothing...
This was actually a true conversation with one of my friends. In fact there were few others friends of mine too who were against me quitting my job and they too had told the same thing, a woman's life without her career has zero value/a homemaker loses her identity in her family.
I know career for women is very important but it's more about Career woman vs Homemaker. It's really sad to know that some women themselves look down upon homemakers. If a woman wants to become a homemaker whether it's for few years or forever, why should her decision be questioned? I know financial independence is very important in a woman's life but if a woman chooses to be a homemaker, her decision should be respected. After all homemakers 'do not sit at home doing nothing'. Nor are they completely dependent on their husband for everything. I feel people need to stop looking down upon homemakers. After all, their value in their family is NOT zero.
What's your take on this?
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