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Originally posted by: canapoem

Khushi in her musings..does think Shyam is a hypocrite pretending to be understanding. She just has not said it aloud. Fits with her characterization.

A fair point that her work in an NGO does give her more information than others how vile human beings can be

Originally posted by: SwatStar_Arshi

Again a fabulous chapter! It gets better and better!

Mahesh telling Arnav “Not everyone had your foresight to keep their priorities in order, Arnav. I should have thought of my family more often. I should have learned something from you too.” sounds weird, when Arnav's divorce is out in open and it shows Arnav too is not perfect in handling family and business together.

Arnav is missing a bigger point here and needs to do a solid introspection as to why he is not ok with Khushi immediately moving on to marry someone else after divorce was already filed when he himself had moved on to end up cheating and sleeping with another woman! After all they both were drifted apart but he had moved on way before.. Her behavior considering her family into the picture is just reaction to his action of divorce!

Shyam and his mother, exact same that I had anticipated, self-centred hypocrites! They both should be in jail for his first wife’s murder and not arranging his second marriage!

I love this Payal for speaking thetruth and cornering Arnav the best. She call Arnav dimwit and curses - “If she does get married, I hope he turns out better than you. God knows she deserves it!” So true, Khushi deserves so much better!

I disagree that Arnav talking to Khushi would have changed anything, knowing Khushi she would have still chosen his happiness with the other woman and walked out with her head held high leaving Arnav with the same restlessness! He did not wish her on the anniversery, what can be a bigger hint than that? She might have heard his conversation with Lavanya and decided to isolate herself to save from further heartbreak.. She left his mother’s bangles, the pride of Raizada bahu, a clear indication that she lost hope to salvage the relationship.

Arnav is truly dimwit if he needed Payal’s smart brains to explain his own relationship with his wife or an actual love note to understand he meant the universe for Khushi! He was her everything, period. Her loyalty, love, adjustments while smiling and sacrifices were never in question, his behavior was and is!

I still believe one fact, Arnav did love Khushi and he knows it's improssible for anyone not to fall in love with her! But he took her for granted, his control freak nature, his way or highway decisions, establish business and earn money at any cost had made him compromise on ethics. Khushi being too much in love with him, starstruck by his persona, initially obliged by the marriage, and mainly being submissive by nature does not help here either.. He is a shrewd businessman who knew he could get away with ignorance or not valuing relationship as much as she did! But he went too far with his infidelity!

Still my gut feel says he finally realized his grave mistake after sleeping with Lavanya (I am assuming it's one time and not an affair but I could be wrong) that he wronged Khushi and went for divorce, righteous decion for Khushi. This was trigger point apart from not wanting to have a baby issue. Khushi being Khushi walked out feeling his happiness now lies not with her but with the other woman assuming she heard him! The letter made me cry but I will write about it later!

I will be the harshest on Arnav for sure and there is a reason! I will share once you reveal his relationship with Lavanya! The Arnav you have depicted here is so accurate and I have seen one in real life! Trust me when I say this, the Arnav is more dangerous for naive Khushi than the Shyams out there!

Arpita, you are gifted writer is a given! Your story has been on my mind all the time, especially when I figured why I was so repulsive towards this Arnav! An emotinal roller coaster ride that you have brought is amazing! We need all your stories that you wrote but never published, every single dribble!

Looking forward to the next update!

Swati

Originally posted by: tashi26

I agree with almost all the things you have said and the points about his infidelity is so true. Even it was once or full fledged affair(which I don’t think happened), he had moved on. And may be that’s the reason he was sure there was no point in continuing the marriage. The talk will not change anything but will may be give both of them a closure. And so true about Arnav like this is more dangerous than the Shyam’s. But just that weren’t those footsteps of Aman or may be I might have missed out something. Will read again.

No no you missed nothing, arnav first heard footsteps and then turning around saw aman coming through the door. But for a fleeting second he felt shivers thinking what if, it was khushi's but then told himself, "if anything the upcoming conversation would have become easier if she overheard him just now." ( At that point he was THAT insensitive towards khushi.)

But people here (including me) think that may be khushi did heard that conversation as now in the last chapter we found such a elaborate note from her in the morning but then agreeing for ending the marriage without even a single word of opposition or trying.

Until the arnav and L suspense clears out I am not going to find peace. It keeps on playing in my mind like a broken record.

Ps- I have this mad urge of replying to everyone's comment like everyone, and it takes everything in me to control that.

Originally posted by: shyamidutt

Your replies to all the comments and little insights into what is coming is the highlight of reading this story for me. I never read comments much before and now I realize what I might have missed. Another plus in your favor is the lengthy updates. They are so satisfying because you answer everything that belongs in that chapter and don’t leave anything out. A complete chapter - am I making sense?

I think in the beginning when you are young most situations in a marriage are viewed as black and white. You need to be there more than a decade to start seeing the grey areas and seeing them for what they are. I have a close friend who fell in love with someone else 23 years into her marriage. But good sense prevailed and nothing happened. Lot of factors and complications, her children and his children and her career etc etc but her husband knew and the immediate family knew. Now everything is back to normal but is it? Is actually having a physical relationship only indefinitely?? I think the emotional one is much worse and more difficult to reconcile. But I wouldn’t have thought this way even 5 years ago. Living in a country where it is common to have multiple partners and seeing the youngsters around and the second generation Indian Americans sometimes you are like what is really right? Like Khushi how far have we come from our roots that we are able to see the opposite and also not be horrified by it? Exposure changes our perspective I guess and that’s the difference between Khushi and her parent’s perspective. You are brilliant as a writer that you are able to convey these emotions and perspectives so effectively and effortlessly.
Some of the things that are drilled into us all our life is so difficult to get over. As women a lot more is expected of us and change is coming but not fast enough.

Having said all this it’s still not surprising that Khushi parents want her married. I see it happen even now. I have a cousin in California and I found out her daughter married for 5 years is getting divorced (it’s not done yet) when I saw her profile pop up in a matrimonial site. Sigh. Sometimes the world moves backwards?? But then I do understand her Babujis point of view also. My older will be 33 this year and she is doing well in her career, I don’t push her at all to get married but nowadays I worry that she might end up alone. As capable as she is still as a mother I worry. So it might not be all about society for Khushi parents too and if I remember right in one of the previous chapters her babuji said as much that since he won’t be around for long to take care of her he wants her married right?

Also one of the time lines said April 2016 but looks like we are still in March 2016 of the story. A typo maybe ? Sorry for the long rambling.

Initially when I replied to comments, I had only wished to express my gratitude to anyone who was taking the time out to write such lovely things. Even I didn’t realise when it became a whole discussion thing which I very much look forward to. As a writer you know the whole story, so sometimes you can miss the clarity that is needed for a reader. The comments and discussions and what people are taking away from each chapter are like my own personal milestones.

The fact that people read each other's comments too, it just overwhelmes me. Hard to believe something I wrote is being taken thus seriously by some people. I have been like you. I skipped comments. Even when u write before. I have never experienced a response quite like this. Earlier there were much more likes and many comments, but resurgence has these long, heartfelt, emotional comments that I know I’m just going to forever cherish. I don’t ever read back my chapters but there are a few comments which I’ve read multiple times. ♥️

Your point about long chapters and the way they feel complete, is very similar to how I think. Yes, you are making sense to me. :) I had initially planned to end this chapter with Khushi’s accident. That seemed like a good stopping point. But it just nagged me that this is where Arnav needed to learn about the letter and what Khushi had actually done for his happiness. It just…fit in a sense. I think that’s why I will probably always have these lengthy updates. Unless I learn to silence this nagging voice. It gets too much sometimes. Writing so much tends to take a toll once in a while.

Thanks for sharing your dilemma as a parent. I’m so glad your daughter has the freedom to live life c the way she pleases. But your worries are also not baseless. Khushi’s parents, are in no way, a villain here. What they’re doing is wrong, but I can understand where they’re coming from. The heart is in the right place. When I was younger, I would’ve been so pissed on them. But as I’m growing up, I have started to realize that life’s never going to be black and white. One has to start appreciating the grey at one point. Otherwise, we’ll always be angry at each other!

Originally posted by: Pujakrishna

No no you missed nothing, arnav first heard footsteps and then turning around saw aman coming through the door. But for a fleeting second he felt shivers thinking what if, it was khushi's but then told himself, "if anything the upcoming conversation would have become easier if she overheard him just now." ( At that point he was THAT insensitive towards khushi.)

But people here (including me) think that may be khushi did heard that conversation as now in the last chapter we found such a elaborate from her in the morning but then agreeing for ending the marriage with even a single word of opposition or trying.

Until the arnav and L suspense clears out I am not going to find peace. It keeps on playing in my mind like a broken record.

Ps- I have this made urge of replying to everyone's comment like everyone, and it takes everything in me to control that.

BollyBabe - Love your name by the way!

Absolutely, the control freak Arnav here was thrown off by not so expected reaction from Khushi! It makes me think, is he saddist to expect Khushi to cry, beg him to stay in the marriage while he planned to use Lavanya as excuse to convince her for divorce! Gives me jitters to even think..

I am still giving Arnav a benefit of doubt not knowing extent of his involvement with Lavanya, he might have remembered Khushi's reaction when he disclosed his relationship with Anamika, her thoughts about the marriage and it's sanctity and mainly her love and devotion towards him.. Arnav assumed Khushi would never want to break the marriage which is true until she knows he cheated on her! Of course he is used to making all decision including not have kids, divorce and list goes on!

He might have felt sleeping with Lavanya was nail in the coffin for their marriage! But if he had full fledged affair with Lavanya, he is a lost cause. And come to think of it the way he was talking to Lavanya and Manali, maybe he did have an affair with Lavanya and he was prepared for the outcome of leaving Khushi. He was more focused on hiding the pics for his image and not thinking about Khushi will feel. He decided not to tell her when she easily agreed for the divorce.

You are so right, if Arnav had got his opportunity to explain /manipulate Khushi how divorce is the right decision, he would have used it for himself to get closure! His restlessnes is more to do with his control freak nature and Khushi not abiding by his rules and expectations anymore..

And I also like the new Khushi, still submissive but is reading things through the facade people put out there... She is reading Shyam extremely well and hope takes the right decision for herself... I hope she reads through Arnav as well one day that how much ever she loved him, he is not worth her anymore if he has cheated on her..

Khushi should use exact same tactics of deserting him without talks when he admits to his affair in front of Khushi... But our brilliant writer will surprise all of us, I have no doubt...

Originally posted by: tashi26

Can I again say same here sister 🙈. I am not a silent reader, I used to comment but they would be like really small, though I did improve with time plus my interaction with forum members was limited but with this story I just need to read all comments and share my opinion. I can be wrong but when Arnav asked Aman where Khushi was she was ready for the party and stylists had left. But when Khushi had spoken to Aman then she was crying and stylists had just come.

❤❤

Confusion hi confusion hai solution kuch pata nahi, solution jo mila toh sala question kya thaa pataa nahi.

(Imagine all of us readers with those expressions in the song and writerji smirking from other side of the screen)😝

Originally posted by: canapoem

Every chapter leaves a lump in my throat and tears for Khushi.

Your writing is beautiful Arpita.

What Mahesh told Arnav was right. One has to make time and space for family life. Else at the end, one is just left alone with no one to call their own.

If you see history, most of the famous personalities who have achieved profoundly in their professional lives, have had very bad personal lives.

Can people make conscious choices in the long run? Have no idea.

But can Arnav pause now and reflect on what he has lost? He can, but what use would it make now? He has lost the most precious soul he had in his life, unfortunately.

Anjali's life's happening surely has made a huge impact on Arnav's life and decisions is what I am guessing. The loan taken for her wedding, Arnav is still repaying it. And Anjali refers to her husband as "HE", not even taking his name and feels almost grateful that he was there when the daughter was born.

Something happened with the elevator right. I wonder what impact it had one their lives next.

Coming to Shyam and his mother, medical negligence on Shyam's part killed Mamtha right. And I am sure his mother must have supported him in whatever decision he made or she must have encouraged him to take the decision. Shyam has not changed at all and frankly it did not surprise

What Khushi's parents are not realising that trauma that Khushi has endured during her teen years cannot be just forgotten or erased. It will stay with her forever. And Shyam's reaction to her asking time to proceed with the physical aspect of the marriage shows further what kind of a man he is.

Will this incident make Khushi stand up for herself and tell her parents that second marriage is not what she is looking for now. If not Shyam, her parents will look for someone else who will be like another Shyam.

I hope this pushes Khushi to say NO to her parents.

The letter in the end just broke my heart. And Payal telling Arnav the truth, what will Arnav do next?

I can only say that with time Arnav will move on, and in all probability find love again. But he will never find a girl like Khushi who will love him unconditionally.

Also while Khushi is asking him a straw to hold onto to make this marriage not drown, Arnav has already slept outside of the marriage.

Even if this letter had reached Arnav on their wedding anniversary day, not sure how much of a difference it would have made from Arnav's perspective.

Thanks a lot 😍♥️♥️

Greatness does demand a lot of sacrifices. If you’re trying to make something of yourself out of nothing, it’s going to cost you everything. At one point, you’re fighting for survival, and you have no choice but to swim upwards, even if it means leaving a treasure you can’t carry with yourself, to drown behind you.

I’ve seen people in the start up sphere. It has cost them nearly everything. Health, family, relationships and peace. I’ve seen them at a point of a nervous breakdown. Feeling so lonely that they got depressed. And the truth of the matter is, it’s as emotionally exhausting as a personal relationship cracking.

But once you get stability and success, like Arnav has at this point, you NEED to pause and reflect. You now have the luxury to choose what’s important. How has Arnav achieved all this, what was Khushi’s role in all of it and how has he treated her in the duration is yet to be covered in the story. But your other point is right. At present, he may have taken her for granted. Anjali and Arnav’s equation and his family bonds also need some light in the upcoming chapters.

As I said to another reader, Mamta’s character and what happened to her is open for speculation. For Khushi in the story, Mamta has served the purpose of making her a bit more suspicious of jha family.

The kind of character Arnav has in the story till this point, the way he’s still able to operate despite severely missing Khushi, Akash musing that he will be fine in sometime, all indicate that your point may be true. Arnav may just be able to move on. This is also what Arnav had thought initially. So let’s just wait and see if that’s really the case :)

Like bakwas_serial stated, Khushi does have the means to make a choice and live by it. She does not need to stand by helplessly and let things be decided for her. She has gone through enough experiences in the last 10 years that she can see the wrong for what it is. She knows Shyam is not right for her. She will never be happy in that house. She asked her father if being a mother was supposed to be everything for a woman? Add to that if being a wife is everything? She can have an identity other than a mother and wife if neither works out for her. She can have the financial means at her disposal in no time. She wants nothing from Arnav at this point, but that alimony is her right. She helped make him what he is today even if she doesn't think so. Her support mattered. She should take just the money she needs to settle herself down into a new life. By the way, what was her plan for that little settlement?

Originally posted by: coderlady

That letter says everything. She was willing to let go of her desire to have kids. She was willing to attend those parties she didn't like. All for him. But I like that she also wanted him to see her world too. The one she liked. Thats what a true marriage is. Both seeing and accommodating the other's world.

What did she feel she had to learn to be part of his world? I wish she realizes that she can do that without compromising her principles. She was feeling insecure in those gatherings. Did Arnav and Payal not realize that?

Yes, Khushi was not plainly being submissive to Arnav. She wanted him to come to her world too. Be involved in her own life. She was really serious about not only saving her marriage, but going back to the old days, where she and Arnav were at peace, in love. Thanks for pointing it out :)