Dysfunctional family dynamics - Page 2

I am expecting from this 6 year old ruhi ki woh samje and uski maa usko samjaye ki uske poppy sirf uske akele ke bann kar pura life nahi reh sakte hai so agar usko poppy chahiye toh poppy ka pyar share karna sikhna padega. 6 years is not any late age to understand and accept.

Agar aarohi dusri shaddi karna chahti hai toh jaise Abhimanyu uski beti ko accept kar ke dusri ahaddi kar raha hai waise aarohi ko bhi iss dusri shaddi mai Abhimanyu ka baccha accept kar ke aage badhna hoga otherwise na badhe and koi aise admi se shaddi kare jiska koi baccha na ho.

In Ruhi s mind, Abhir is her Aunt s son. Her cousin. Not her sibling. Ruhi is not aware that Abhir is Abhimanyu s son.

If a six-year-old sees her dad give more importance to her cousin. She is bound to feel insecure.

Also, Abhimanyu made all sorts of promises to Aarohi and Ruhi.He encouraged Ruhi s dream of happy family

Originally posted by: NoraSM

They are forcing him to choose one between Ruhi and Abhir, using Ruhi's insecurity for their personal gains. If it was about Ruhi's happiness, I would understand it but here, it is more about Arohi's insecurity regarding Akshara than Ruhi's insecurity with Abhir because kids fight and get back together in 2 hours, it doesn't take a lot to change their minds

None would let go of one child for another and none should be forced to do it.

Abhimanyu has to correct many things, first being breaking this engagement because there's no point keeping Arohi and himself in a loveless marriage for a 6 year's old

I guess it was in the past..today arohi clearly said "I" am not fine with it" so therez nothing which abhim can do except break the engagement n let arohi ruhi go or let go off abhir..he can also try to reason out with arohi n try to convince her but I don't think she will agree..today arohi leveled out everything n now she's not using ruhi but exercising her own right as abhimanyus fiance.

Arohis insecurity abt akshara is totally justified . abhimanyu can't force abhir on arohi . It's unfair to both.

Why aren't you understand dear the problem with this arrangement? If ruhi and arohi agree even then it's a problem ...arohi ki happy family ya ruhi ke happy family nai , mummy bete ki happy family is possible only in dreams.

Originally posted by: Agni_Jytsona

In Ruhi s mind, Abhir is her Aunt s son. Her cousin. Not her sibling. Ruhi is not aware that Abhir is Abhimanyu s son.

If a six-year-old sees her dad give more importance to her cousin. She is bound to feel insecure.

Also, Abhimanyu made all sorts of promises to Aarohi and Ruhi.He encouraged Ruhi s dream of happy family

Ruhi doesn't know the truth therefore none is blaming her, she is a child and like every other kid, she is acting her age. Problem is with adults who are saying that Ruhi's insecurity is justified and the answer to that is Abhimanyu leaving Abhir for Ruhi instead of talking to Ruhi and making her understand that her father is with her, he is not leaving her or giving her place to someone, he is just giving Abhir's place to him

Didn't Abhir understand it? He told Arohi that he is not taking away Ruhi's father from her, when that child can understand it, why not an adult like Arohi?

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

Yes true, as a mother she could have tried telling roohi to accept abhir. When abhimanyu can accept a child which is not bilogically related to him. Arohi also had an option to accept abhir who is not biologically related to her.

She herself knows her husband whom she claimed as she loved him was also a step son of manjari and irrespective of what manjari did she loved neil. Even she has a example of sirath loving kairav too. But here both sisters want to ignore those examples and pretend as if they are blind to the world. And think abhi is not a good dad and he will ignore roohi for abhir and she Don't want to accept abhir not for roohi but because if accepts abhir she will be called as second wife in his life. As first wife ka son is standing infront of her and the guy whom she is marrying still loves his ex which she want to ignore and accept this marriage.

Abhimanyu's is Ruhi's uncle and Arohi is Abhir's aunt, their relationship with both kids is the same. It is just that Abhimanyu loved Ruhi's father and Arohi hates Abhir's mother

It is not fair to force Abhir on Arohi, Abhimanyu has to break this relationship, that's on him

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

I am expecting from this 6 year old ruhi ki woh samje and uski maa usko samjaye ki uske poppy sirf uske akele ke bann kar pura life nahi reh sakte hai so agar usko poppy chahiye toh poppy ka pyar share karna sikhna padega. 6 years is not any late age to understand and accept.

Agar aarohi dusri shaddi karna chahti hai toh jaise Abhimanyu uski beti ko accept kar ke dusri ahaddi kar raha hai waise aarohi ko bhi iss dusri shaddi mai Abhimanyu ka baccha accept kar ke aage badhna hoga otherwise na badhe and koi aise admi se shaddi kare jiska koi baccha na ho.

I agree if Arohi can't accept his son then she should end this relationship, she can't force him to leave his son and same goes for Abhimanyu

Originally posted by: Krinya

I guess it was in the past..today arohi clearly said "I" am not fine with it" so therez nothing which abhim can do except break the engagement n let arohi ruhi go or let go off abhir..he can also try to reason out with arohi n try to convince her but I don't think she will agree..today arohi leveled out everything n now she's not using ruhi but exercising her own right as abhimanyus fiance.

Arohis insecurity abt akshara is totally justified . abhimanyu can't force abhir on arohi . It's unfair to both.

Why aren't you understand dear the problem with this arrangement? If ruhi and arohi agree even then it's a problem ...arohi ki happy family ya ruhi ke happy family nai , mummy bete ki happy family is possible only in dreams.

I already said Abhimanyu has to end this relationship, that's about Abhimanyu's character

Arohi is using Ruhi's insecurity that was the base of this confrontation, she never spoke to Ruhi about accepting Abhir, not as Abhimanyu's son but as her sister's son but she can't do it because of her insecurities, is it justified? I don't think so because it has been 6 years Akshara was away from them

Originally posted by: NoraSM

Ruhi doesn't know the truth therefore none is blaming her, she is a child and like every other kid, she is acting her age. Problem is with adults who are saying that Ruhi's insecurity is justified and the answer to that is Abhimanyu leaving Abhir for Ruhi instead of talking to Ruhi and making her understand that her father is with her, he is not leaving her or giving her place to someone, he is just giving Abhir's place to him

Didn't Abhir understand it? He told Arohi that he is not taking away Ruhi's father from her, when that child can understand it, why not an adult like Arohi?

The difference is in upbringing. Abhir has been brought up in a balanced environment. Akshnav taught him to share, be kind at the same time take a stand for yourself

They did not fulfill his every impractical demand. Unlike Abhir, Ruhi has been spoiled by Aarohi, Abhimanyu, and Manjari.

"Poppy dances to your tunes" "Ruhi is poppy s heart" etc. Abhimanyu filled all this nonsense in her head.

Originally posted by: Agni_Jytsona

The difference is in upbringing. Abhir has been brought up in a balanced environment. Akshnav taught him to share, be kind at the same time take a stand for yourself

They did not fulfill his every impractical demand. Unlike Abhir, Ruhi has been spoiled by Aarohi, Abhimanyu, and Manjari.

"Poppy dances to your tunes" "Ruhi is poppy s heart" etc. Abhimanyu filled all this nonsense in her head.

So we understand that Ruhi's conduct is not correct and should be rectified by adults around her like Abhinav and Akshara did with Abhir? That's my point, instead of people giving in to Ruhi's demands, they should talk to her.

Ruhi is 6, she is not 18 even adults with drug addiction change in rehab, Ruhi doesn't have an irreversible condition

Originally posted by: NoraSM

So we understand that Ruhi's conduct is not correct and should be rectified by adults around her like Abhinav and Akshara did with Abhir? That's my point, instead of people giving in to Ruhi's demands, they should talk to her.

Ruhi is 6, she is not 18 even adults with drug addiction change in rehab, Ruhi doesn't have an irreversible condition

What Aarohi proposed today is the best solution. They should dissolve this marriage alliance and Aarohi should move out with her daughter.