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Guys can someone shower a few words of encouragement and love towards me 🥺

From past few days my manager is like hell bent on finding my mistakes that too small small. Which i understand i should not make in the first place but ho jaata hai. It's not like i am bad apne kaam mein, I am good if not the best.

I am not able to get what she is expecting from me or what exactly wrong I am doing but still ho rha and today she sent a mail raising concerns too and Monday detailed call. I am feeling so overwhelming atm

I have though decided k will discuss that the issue is not able to understand what she is expecting and will do better

The issue is right now I am feeling as a failure like personal life sucks- had a break up like 3 years ago and never understood what went wrong

Last year said yes to a guy for marriage arranged setup. After like 8 months he said no- even though i never connected with him, my family is so happy that this rishta got cancelled, i am happy too and not saying this out of spite but i am a much better human inside and outside than that guy- one example last month when he came to visit me at my place (he lives outside India and this was our third meeting) my mother got sick and that guy never asked unse how is she on the other hand his parents visited us at my father's tervi sanskar and even that day i made sure i spend my time with them.

When I met him he wore shoes with heels and in this meeting we got to know his real height which is 5.1 and i am 5.2

All these things and more though i am so glad he rejected the rishta coz i was not able to - i don't know why but mujhse hota nahi hai main bhi bht baat krti nahi thi waise.

Overall i am feeling like I am good for nothing na personal life mein kuch ho rha hai na professionally i ama successful and jo hai woh bhi complaint aarha.

Kuch smjh hi nahi aaraha and aese aur hi focus nahi ho rha kaam mein kya hi bolun manager ko bhi uske kuch points sahi bhi hai

Sorry for this post might delete later. But needed to share and had no one

I don't know your name but sending you hugs🤗 and out of curiosity, are you in domain you love? If so, don't worry about mistakes, you will learn how to work on those things! I love my job, but I don't like it when work environment is toxic or managers nit pick on things, micromanage work and all... So, I know how it feels to be at that place! And I always try to keep up with trends in my domain and grow which helps me ignore my bad work day and keep up the hope that I am on right path.

I am usually bad with discussing on topic like marriage and family ka woh front, but getting married is like toughest thing and boring too😆

U don't need to feel like a failure...u just need to give ur best....have a talk with your manager....ask him what expectations nd what he would suggest to improve...the market situation is dire...bad things r happening we need to keep faith do our best.... sending you love....be strong... everything will be fine ❤️❤️❤️

Originally posted by: shahsb_26

I don't know your name but sending you hugs🤗- Thank you i need it ❣️

and out of curiosity, are you in domain you love?- Yes and I am usually good too.

If so, don't worry about mistakes, you will learn how to work on those things! I love my job, but I don't like it when work environment is toxic or managers nit pick on things, micromanage work and all...

I am not getting it actually even during my interview told them that i don't perform best if micromanaged and it's kind of like that. Though i am thinking of the best way to tell my manager that mostly mistakes are happening coz i feel so under pressure to not make mistakes - just trying to think of the right words.

So, I know how it feels to be at that place! And I always try to keep up with trends in my domain and grow which helps me ignore my bad work day and keep up the hope that I am on right path. - i will work more on this, i think somewhere i am lacking too coz i feel so lethargic mentally from quite sometime now.

I am usually bad with discussing on topic like marriage and family ka woh front, but getting married is like toughest thing and boring too😆- It is the most difficult task honestly

Hugs to your way 🤗
Set a call with your manage and note down all the points which he/she says. If you are from IT profession, test your work as much as possible. Use asana to make notes of each and every point, set reminders in asana etc.

Regarding personal life, click hona/connect hona is very much needed when it comes to arrange marriage. You didn’t connected with the guy and it’s completely okay. You can search for more rishta a from Bharat matrimony etc. Height part I totally understand. I am 5’7” tall so mere sath bhi aisa hua tha ki 5’5” height ke ladke se mili thi lekin connect he nahi honsaki uss ladke se. Now I am married to 6’2” tall husband and totally in love with him 😆

Sab ho jayega dhire dhire ek ke baad ek , ap bas apni koshish mai persistent rehna chahe woh work profile ho ya matrimonial ho. And yes agar 1% bhi aisa lage ki click nahi ho raha hai yah iss ladke ke sath muje Buddha hone mai maza nahi ayega toh meeting ke baad samose khila ke bye bye kar do and zyada kabhi matt socho 😆

Don't worry you will come out of this soon. 🤗

I can relate to you. The best thing to do is look a for a new job. As that adds some freshness in your life and your work environment will change and you can start your journey with fresh mindset.

I was in similar situation now preparing myself for interviews as i am unable to deal with this anxiety and stress and the thought of logging in itself gives me anxiety sometimes.

But i have decided not to let that impact me and i have started looking for good opportunities outside. 😊

Not from IT background. But i will surely work on myself regarding the projects i have in hand.

Aj kaafi low feel ho rha tha so i penned my feelings here.

And yes last time I made that mistake only utna connect nahi tha but i felt ho jayega na said yes.

Thank you for your kind words. ❣️❣️

Though i thought i will switch after 6 months.

Will look for new opportunities too. Meanwhile, I know i have to and I can do better so will work on that too.

Just don't know how to get my manager to trust me on this so kaafi overwhelming feel hone lga and then overall thoughts so i came here.

Feeling so much good to get these postive response ❣️

Originally posted by: chaipaani

If Micromanagement is an issue then it needs to be raised or quit... I mean, I was in one of these big shot company and my manager used to setup calls for as long as 4 hours to 6 hours in a day and would end up working 11 hours a day (all this during Covid)... People still judge me for leaving that company for smaller one... But kya kare! Not that this company is perfect.. Like it has no pressure to an extent that no one really cares about what I do😆 which is little annoying too.

But yes, there my manager would review the work over call and give me grammar lectures 🤪 jab ki writing shouldn't even be in my portfolio - as I am not copy editor...! But khair, I slowly picked up on a few rules and all, it helped me grow a little but also motivated me to quit... But in general mostly I feel good after ranting about work with colleagues, scrolling Twitter and so on ... Sukoon milta hai... And it's very very normal... That doesn't make you less...