Tere Bin (Yumna Zaidi- Wahaj Ali) DT#88 Zeher lag rahi ho - Page 12

Originally posted by: anjali9996

Does anyone know how many episodes will tere bin have??

Sawal 7 crore ka 🤣

Originally posted by: pickachu

Actually Murtasim masochist hai and he thinks ka iss ke ye feature genes mein hai iss liye he thought ka maryam bhi masochist hai 🤣.

Waise I think so ka problem ye hai ka murtasim has not seen it as forced marriage.He has seen it as an option between someone who loves you vs someone loved by you.He is going through 2nd option in his life so he wants his sister to get 1st option because he thinks being loved by someone else is right option to go with when u get married.

Aise tho he should get marry to haya because she also loves him 🥺

Originally posted by: pressu

First of all, here Mariyam is in a forced marriage. There is a difference between arranged marriage and forced marriage like someone said and that is consent.

@Bold: No. I don't agree with this. I have not heard of this that there is a narrative that arranged marriage is a forced marriage. And the difference is consent like someone said.

Here, if I am not wrong, we are not talking about whether elopement is right. We are talking about this particular instance of Mariyam eloping. We are trying to understand what made the character elope.

@Bold underlined: The family might have sacrificed and made adjustments for Mariyam but it does not justify them getting her married without her wish. Here the reason Mariyam eloped is because she got scared that she might have to get married to Naurez.

@Bold Italic: The choice and freedom need to be there for a person when it is about the decision of getting married. It is not a myth. A person has responsibilities does not mean that they should not have the choice and freedom. Like someone said marriage is a lifetime commitment. The decision will have life time impact on a person.

So the family can hurt Mariyam by getting her married forcefully to Naurez but she can not hurt the family. I feel that both the family and Mariyam are in the wrong. And I sympathize with Mariyam more.

Originally posted by: Kumuda-123

Aise tho he should get marry to haya because she also loves him 🥺

Lol ye love shav wale soch isse shadi ka baad aye hai not before marriage 😆.

Originally posted by: Moonks

I think the whole point is even though they are not good, they happens. It’s not an individual problem it’s a societal problem so it’s not good to blame a person for that, the moment we as a society starts accepting that arrange marriage or love marriages either are not bad is the moment we get rid of this elopement issue. Even if many of you don’t agree but the truth is for years we are being sold the narrative that arrange marriages are forced marriages which is not the truth, the idea of love marriages is fascinating but overrated in my opinion, love doesn’t guarantees the trust, respect and happiness instead it is trust and respect which guarantees love and happiness in marriage. No matter what you say elopement is not okay, the moment you do it you prove how shallow as person you are, elope when you have life and death situations but how in the world you can justifying choosing a man over your family who has made several sacrifices and adjustments for you. And the choice and freedom you all are talking about I am sorry to say that’s nothing but a myth cause when you have a family, you have responsibilities the only person who has the full freedom in life is the one who doesn’t have anyone by his/her side cause then he/she doesn’t need to think about what impact his decision will have on his/her people. Elopement is equal to irresponsibility for me, you can hurt your family because you can’t hurt the person who claims to love you, how does this logic make sense?? I am sorry but Mariam is more wrong in this, she chose a guy she knew for 8 months over her family forget about love, she could not even be loyal to those people who has supported her till now, force marriage is wrong but in no way elopement makes it right.

Colored Text. WOW ! WOW ! I am speechless after reading this . It’s Outstandingly spot on . Each and every word is on target . You have explained like no one can

Originally posted by: pickachu

Lol ye love shav wale soch isse shadi ka baad aye hai not before marriage 😆.

Abhi bhi time hai meerab is away, haya is available.

Originally posted by: Moonks

It’s okay if you haven’t heard about this narrative but it’s true only, just tell me one thing would this marriage be forced for Mariam if she had no one in her life, the answer is no. The reason behind Mariam’s No is different, I didn’t want to this angle. If Anas wasn’t in the picture I am sure she would have been happy with this proposal. I don’t know in which world do you guys live because I would really love to be part of that world. But the world where I live these things still happen, of all the girls I have seen getting married the arrange marriage was forced because it was their parents who chose the groom and not them, there was no other reason. But let’s A2D cause I can see that we won’t ever agree on this because of our environment.

@Bold: It depends on the situation. If we see it, the proposal came to Haya and then they cancelled it and send the proposal to Mariyam, so there are chances of Mariyam saying No because the proposal was supposed to be for Haya.

@Bold underlined: Even if Anas was not there in the picture and even if the proposal came for Mariyam, and if she was not interested to get married at that moment then she would have said No.

When the parents choose the groom and the girls give consent to the marriage with their own wish then it is an arranged marriage.

Originally posted by: pressu

First of all, here Mariyam is in a forced marriage. There is a difference between arranged marriage and forced marriage like someone said and that is consent.

@Bold: No. I don't agree with this. I have not heard of this that there is a narrative that arranged marriage is a forced marriage. And the difference is consent like someone said.

Here, if I am not wrong, we are not talking about whether elopement is right. We are talking about this particular instance of Mariyam eloping. We are trying to understand what made the character elope.

@Bold underlined: The family might have sacrificed and made adjustments for Mariyam but it does not justify them getting her married without her wish. Here the reason Mariyam eloped is because she got scared that she might have to get married to Naurez.

@Bold Italic: The choice and freedom need to be there for a person when it is about the decision of getting married. It is not a myth. A person has responsibilities does not mean that they should not have the choice and freedom. Like someone said marriage is a lifetime commitment. The decision will have life time impact on a person.

So the family can hurt Mariyam by getting her married forcefully to Naurez but she can not hurt the family. I feel that both the family and Mariyam are in the wrong. And I sympathize with Mariyam more.

Originally posted by: Kumuda-123

Abhi bhi time hai meerab is away, haya is available.

Originally posted by: Mari_a

Strict parenting is fine..arrange marriage is fine as well...but no parents should forget that their kids are human and not a domestic animal...the moment parents start behaving like their kids need to be slave of their decision and their wish i think that's where problem starts.

True for real life!

In TB , I have no issues with mariyam falling in love and planning to elope. This could have got multiple outcomes good and bad,

Ideal being she elopes, guy and family is good and she has happy life away from khans.

Bad being her tuned out to be abusive or con man or his family crazy she would have fallen in same pan!