Kuch Ankahi - Mira Sethi, Sajal Aly, Bilal Abbas K, Sheheryar Munawar - Page 74

Achaa Asfar kitna handsome lag raha thaaa uss blue stripe shirt mei….

Koi pls uske business ka problem samjhaaye….becos mai just uski looks mei koyi thi….aur phir usss blue furniture ko dekhke dimaag bhi kharab ho raha thaaa…in sab ke beech mei …dialogues were lost on me…

The car ride…uff yeh dono… I really felt like they need a hug…from each other..Vaise Bilal in his loose shirt would have gotten a hug from others too…

Salman’s love for her family esp when he said Aghaji, phupo and Tanya ….he really was speaking my language…it’s almost like we wanted him to add Aliya but she was too afraid to even ask..that smile they share….uff

Precap mei bhi Samiya ka vohi rona…I agree they have spent 10 episodes on this…unless this is going on for 30 episodes I am worried they won’t do justice to the other sisters’ stories,

I loved the dialogues of the chess scene too…

The show is good but damn it is slow and they have opened many plot points

Originally posted by: columbia

Is marriage really the end all for a girl? The mother seems to think girls like Aliya and Taniya who speak their mind will still manage but girls like Samiya who are simple minded…or have lower aspirations …won’t..

I wanted to know what others here think of this..l.would love to know more perspectives

Not interpreting mothers thoughts or the situation in the show, but understanding this perspective of a simple girl needing marriage - the reality of that, or whether we have to move above it.

Marriage is part of life, it is not a life. Such mothers and daughters need to understand that marriage is not everything. It will happen at right time. There is no need to get worry and take a regressive decision, which may have some serious consequences.

Originally posted by: NINALOGY

Marriage is part of life, it is not a life. Such mothers and daughters need to understand that marriage is not everything. It will happen at right time. There is no need to get worry and take a regressive decision, which may have some serious consequences.

Nahi yaar / I am asking something else. Is there merit in what the mother is saying - which is it is easier for those girls who are independent (in thought and otherwise) to lead a life with no marriage - because somewhere girls like Aliya and Tanya will also be financially independent. The fact is the older one isn’t, so where does she go later in life? How will she lead a life?
On one hand there is the whole regressive notion that marriage is the end all, but what about the practicality attached to marriage for girls who have lesser aspirations for themselves.
This is a reality that this show really made me think,.. every girl in my family works so I never thought of it at all… this show actually made me think of it. In fact I would have thought even this thought is regressive… but somewhere I was wondering …

Originally posted by: columbia

Nahi yaar / I am asking something else. Is there merit in what the mother is saying - which is it is easier for those girls who are independent (in thought and otherwise) to lead a life with no marriage - because somewhere girls like Aliya and Tanya will also be financially independent. The fact is the older one isn’t, so where does she go later in life? How will she lead a life?
On one hand there is the whole regressive notion that marriage is the end all, but what about the practicality attached to marriage for girls who have lesser aspirations for themselves.
This is a reality that this show really made me think,.. every girl in my family works so I never thought of it at all… this show actually made me think of it. In fact I would have thought even this thought is regressive… but somewhere I was wondering …

I got your point

Samiya's mother's thought process is not wrong but her way of processing that thoughts into reality is wrong.

Let's imagine if a girl like samiya will not get marry, what will be her fate? I guess samiya is an educated girl, she is shy but she is not a choyi moyi girl, if she wants she can do job or any work, once she steps out she will get confident and will able to face the world.

But chalein let's suppose, girl like samiya is not educated, then what will she do without marriage, maybe she will spend rest of her life at her father's house. Yes such girl has to face some difficulties, people may give their tapanis. Parents will get worry, but kehty hain unmarried daughter is still better than a divorcee one. We need to normalize the fact, agar kisi ladki ki shadi na ho toh uski zindagi khatam nhi hojati, in this case family's support matters the most. If family's support is there then well and good but if her family will consider her as a boooj then she may spend a miserable life, such girls need to take stand for themselves. We have seen those single mothers who just not take care of themselves but their kids too. So, a unmarried girl can do the same. She just needs to be strong.

Originally posted by: NINALOGY

I got your point

Samiya's mother's thought process is not wrong but her way of processing that thoughts into reality is wrong.

Let's imagine if a girl like samiya will not get marry, what will be her fate? I guess samiya is an educated girl, she is shy but she is not a choyi moyi girl, if she wants she can do job or any work, once she steps out she will get confident and will able to face the world.

But chalein let's suppose, girl like samiya is not educated, then what will she do without marriage, maybe she will spend rest of her life at her father's house. Yes such girl has to face some difficulties, people may give their tapanis. Parents will get worry, but kehty hain unmarried daughter is still better than a divorcee one. We need to normalize the fact, agar kisi ladki ki shadi na ho toh uski zindagi khatam nhi hojati, in this case family's support matters the most. If family's support is there then well and good but if her family will consider her as a boooj then she may spend a miserable life, such girls need to take stand for themselves. We have seen those single mothers who just not take care of themselves but their kids too. So, a unmarried girl can do the same. She just needs to be strong.

I think unmarried anyone is better than being married to the wrong person. In fact divorce is also better than staying married to the wrong person.

But that aside, while we normalize this, is this practical? See for example, the house they live in, they don’t know if it will stay their own, which means after they die, chances of Samiya actually being able to have a life is questionable, the fact is that the show is literally making us think that UNLESS there is financial agency, agency in itself is of no use at all. It’s a regressive thought that girls have no where to go unless they have jobs, frankly it’s not, it’s as modern a thought as any. Just as men have nowhere to go if they don’t have jobs, women also have no where to go if they don’t have jobs. Marriage then in the true sense is not the end all for anyone. For Samiya, marriage is the financial dependence more than the emotional companionship.

as usual I am overthinking this…but am glad this show is making me think

Originally posted by: columbia

Is marriage really the end all for a girl? The mother seems to think girls like Aliya and Taniya who speak their mind will still manage but girls like Samiya who are simple minded…or have lower aspirations …won’t..

I wanted to know what others here think of this..l.would love to know more perspectives

Not interpreting mothers thoughts or the situation in the show, but understanding this perspective of a simple girl needing marriage - the reality of that, or whether we have to move above it.

Well if a girl has to choose between getting married or not getting married then it is not that one option is heaven and the other is hell. Both have their own pros and cons and vary from person to person. In my family, I've seen girls whose lives become heaven after marriage and also girls whose lives become hell.

As for the option of NOT getting married: In this case, a girl should have two things. First, financial independence, and second, security. A girl can earn enough to live her life, though her standard of living will, of course, depend upon how much she can make. In my family, there are women who're doctors, engineers, teachers, computer programmers, etc. However, it is not that you actually need to be educated for earning money as even the sweeper woman of our house is not just financially independent but supporting her family as well. So, in my observation, financial independence is an easier task. The real problem is security. A woman living alone, especially a young woman living alone, is not a norm in our society. A woman living alone will face LOTS of problems and even if she's strong enough to fight with all the dangers, she still can't save herself from the labels people will put on her character just because she's living without a man. This is the main reason why mothers are so concerned about their daughters' marriage. Also, the market value of a girl decreases so quickly with each year added to her age that mothers want to get them married in their 20s or at most earlier 30s because after that, only the proposals for widowers or divorcees are left for them.

In a country like Pakistan not getting married isn't even an option a girl can consider....

It is a cultural thing marriage is essential... If if you are financially independent... Not even 1 percent woman stay unmarried I guess