ABHI - Wonderful lover but failed husband

When he loved Ak, he fearlessly expressed. Even though, she said no still never took his word back. while agreeing for mrg with Ar he told her he loves Ak and lifelong he will love her only.

When she said no also, he always felt the love in her eyes and make her feel his love.

He is always concerned for her and he fought with his family for her.

After marriage, he changed the total equation. Failed to understand her feelings, failed in understanding her sacrifice, and failed to understand nature.

he gave her a place in life but didn't give place in his family.

Even after 6 years, he can feel her presence but fails to understand her feelings.

Even after seeing her life and he didn't make a connection how can she have a kid with somebody else?

It’s like they say marriage changes people! When 2 people are in a relationship they need to have trust and open like of communication. Both of them had the love.. but trust was missing and they did not communicate.. they just did what they wanted and then explained!

the Birla family is so toxic that we knew it was a train wreck! The moment they started to expressed they want a doc bahu to ak’s entry after marriage it was just a ticking time bomb. They look for a scapegoat and ak was the easiest to blame. Even after Neil’s truth came out, Abhimanyu clearly said that you don’t get it they blame you for the truth coming out, and I’m upset because people are blaming you.

Birla’s played equal part in ruining Abhira

Abhimanyu Birla is not a failed husband he is a failed human being. Yes his love AK is the one thing in which is successful. That's the only achivement or his quality that still not changed and won't change. It's not his quality it's actually his soul.

Abhira journey was too quick. Both loved eo in the first instance itself. Then without taking the next step to know eo other love eo enough ie, dating they both jumped to mrg. They never explored themselves. They new they love eo the soulmates but every relation need time they both failed to give that. When u r mrd there comes the responsibility with the tag hus and wife. Hus to take care of wife and wife to take care of not only hus but also his huge fam.

In Abhira case Abhi was accepted by the GV people but Birlas never accepted AK so it was a struggle to win their love for AK. Abhi advised her that ur goodness won't be addressed here or recognised here so please keep it to us. AK was a fam person so she never knew how to live in themselves. So she tried to be the way she was. And it back fired.

Before mrg it was single Abhi life so he never cared abt others lived in himself and mom and brother. After mrg he need to live in fam relationship after mrg we need to address every relation give respect to them. Then comes the responsibility vs love fight in Abhira.

AK the bahu failed every expectation of AB the husband. AB the son failed every expectation of AK the wife. Both were in such difficult position that they both failed in their roles. Nor as a husband or wife, son or bahu.

Abhi taught AK how to chose herself how to to be selfish but he never done that for himself. He never choses anything for himself. Everything was for others.

This time also he divorced AK. But have was not happy abt it. He thought AK will be in GV. He told her to take rest don't come down just stay in room. Becoz of the Rona dhona. Manju AR blame etc.

He was angry at her also. Here also he never her side story that is true but till that time AK was done was her manmarzi without caring anything so he got angry. And we all know Abhi's is extreme with AK with every emotion. Here his anger got over the over board and he did the stupidest thing. The moment he heard AK was not in GV he went there told his side it was not confession it was his pain his helplessness he shared there. There were none to hear his side or know him. BH was in chaos and sorrow. Crying pain blame etc. And all the responsibility came to Ab. If parth was a responsible person then Ab shouldn't have to face this much pressure. There was none to share his responsibility or pressure so he failed himself there. He failed his soul there.

He left GV with the news AK is safe and sound in pathankot with one of her friend. BP asked are u coming he declined.bita not becoz he never loved AK it was becoz he knew if he saw her he will be back to her. She will be back to this mess. And he doesn't want more pressure. He wanted atleast she should be ok. Then AK called he wanted to pick the call but mata ICU drama, mahi scolding everything put again frustration on him. It was like there was none to hold him so he released his frustration on her. Then 2nd call it was someone else on AK ph he gone mad and hammered the nail. Everything ended there. If that day he had chose himself what his heart told him to do it would have been another wonderful story. But The Abhi the manyu the Birla never learnt to live for himself, never learnt to prioritise himself with that he failed his love, his life. And sink in a deep sorrow ocean it is so much deep that even if he wish for a ray of light it won't reach there.

To reach the light first he need to see him, see where he failed then only he can win himself back then only he can win her back.

He was never a good lover either..that time I didn't realize but now everything falls in place..

If he truly loved her , he would understand her , give her space and respected her wish rather than pestering her to say yes , and instead said yes to marry her sister....he could have taken time , explain his psycho mata to delay the marriage decision, but for him, only what she wants is important. I'd like to ask what's his own personality ? What is Dr Birla?

As long as akshu kept mummy happy she was accepted in Birla family. I always said he would choose his mom over akshu ..unhealthy obsession with just one person spills onto all other relationships.

Everyone says he stood for akshu in front of his family post marriage , he advocated her career etc etc..who was he fighting with? His papa , who he always hated so he fought some more , big deal...mahima Anand parth shefali, who cares what they want..but when mummy blamed akshu for disclosing Neil's identity , he didn't listen to akshu. If mummy blamed kairav for anishas death , this divorce kaand would have happened then and there .

I may talk little different here. I feel he is not failed husband or lover but he is definitely has anger issues. His decisions taken during is anger state made him a bad human being and bad husband. There is a saying that when you love som one you tend to be more angry when they make any mistake.

For abhi the only person he truly loves is akshu as he can't take out his anger on manjari or any one else. He does not know how to speak in his anger state. He utters nonsense. He truly needs anger management therapy.

Sometimes i feel the decisions and assumption he make depends on ppl surrouding him especially manjari. Like neil death i am sure manjari must have done that. Even arohi saving abhi from fire also came from manjari. Most of his decisions are controlled by manjari. It's sad to say earlier i was against harsh birla. But now i wonder what if manjari is not abhi's real mom and using him to control hb. As she don't look that dumb as she was potrayed earlier.

As harsh wanted arohi to be his dil as arohi is chaalu and was able take away abhi from manjari's clutches

Abhimanyu was never a good lover either. His love was very conditional and almost controlling. In fact AbhiRa's whole relationship was on shaky ground from the very beginning. One was obsessed with pleasing her sister and other was obsessed with obeying his mother. Difference is, one of them grew out of that habit and started to see through the manipulations of her sister. But Abhimanyu could never see his mother's true nature. That, along with his anger issues is his failing. Neil's death was his acid test and he failed spectacularly in it. I don't understand this love without trust and respect. I always believe that if you truly love a person, you will respect them and understand them. And Abhimanyu failed in all this. I won't say it is completely his fault. He came from a broken household and needed proper therapy before beginning any relationship. Instead he jumped into a relationship with Akshu, never gave her or himself space and time to properly explore that relationship. Even now, he needs proper counselling and therapy before he get into any relationship.

Someone had mentioned how Naitik stood by Akshara OG and had left the house with her when she was wrongly blamed for someone's death in the house.
Why couldnt they show Abhimanyu doing the same ?

Originally posted by: Neethumaneet

Abhimanyu Birla is not a failed husband he is a failed human being. Yes his love AK is the one thing in which is successful. That's the only achivement or his quality that still not changed and won't change. It's not his quality it's actually his soul.

Abhira journey was too quick. Both loved eo in the first instance itself. Then without taking the next step to know eo other love eo enough ie, dating they both jumped to mrg. They never explored themselves. They new they love eo the soulmates but every relation need time they both failed to give that. When u r mrd there comes the responsibility with the tag hus and wife. Hus to take care of wife and wife to take care of not only hus but also his huge fam.

In Abhira case Abhi was accepted by the GV people but Birlas never accepted AK so it was a struggle to win their love for AK. Abhi advised her that ur goodness won't be addressed here or recognised here so please keep it to us. AK was a fam person so she never knew how to live in themselves. So she tried to be the way she was. And it back fired.

Before mrg it was single Abhi life so he never cared abt others lived in himself and mom and brother. After mrg he need to live in fam relationship after mrg we need to address every relation give respect to them. Then comes the responsibility vs love fight in Abhira.

AK the bahu failed every expectation of AB the husband. AB the son failed every expectation of AK the wife. Both were in such difficult position that they both failed in their roles. Nor as a husband or wife, son or bahu.

Abhi taught AK how to chose herself how to to be selfish but he never done that for himself. He never choses anything for himself. Everything was for others.

This time also he divorced AK. But have was not happy abt it. He thought AK will be in GV. He told her to take rest don't come down just stay in room. Becoz of the Rona dhona. Manju AR blame etc.

He was angry at her also. Here also he never her side story that is true but till that time AK was done was her manmarzi without caring anything so he got angry. And we all know Abhi's is extreme with AK with every emotion. Here his anger got over the over board and he did the stupidest thing. The moment he heard AK was not in GV he went there told his side it was not confession it was his pain his helplessness he shared there. There were none to hear his side or know him. BH was in chaos and sorrow. Crying pain blame etc. And all the responsibility came to Ab. If parth was a responsible person then Ab shouldn't have to face this much pressure. There was none to share his responsibility or pressure so he failed himself there. He failed his soul there.

He left GV with the news AK is safe and sound in pathankot with one of her friend. BP asked are u coming he declined.bita not becoz he never loved AK it was becoz he knew if he saw her he will be back to her. She will be back to this mess. And he doesn't want more pressure. He wanted atleast she should be ok. Then AK called he wanted to pick the call but mata ICU drama, mahi scolding everything put again frustration on him. It was like there was none to hold him so he released his frustration on her. Then 2nd call it was someone else on AK ph he gone mad and hammered the nail. Everything ended there. If that day he had chose himself what his heart told him to do it would have been another wonderful story. But The Abhi the manyu the Birla never learnt to live for himself, never learnt to prioritise himself with that he failed his love, his life. And sink in a deep sorrow ocean itneif is so much deep that even if he wish for a ray of light it won't reach there.

To reach the light first he need to see him, see where he failed then only he can win himself back then only he can win her back.

Beautifully written Neethu. slightly differ with you on Abhi as a failed human. He failed as a human that day and when Akshu called and for not realising how wrong he was, but otherwise I am not sure he has been inhuman. Yes rude but is that same as being inhuman?.

Originally posted by: sunshining

Beautifully written Neethu. slightly differ with you on Abhi is a failed human. He failed as a human that day and when Akshu called and for not realising how wrong he was, but otherwise I am not sure he has been inhuman. Yes rude but is that same as being inhuman?.

I never meant here as he failed his human nature. I mean he failed in his life. He is no more human it's just a dead body that breathes. He never considered himself so he failed himself. He never considered the human in himself. That's what I mean.

Ya I agree with u he was too much that day.😔

Originally posted by: Neethumaneet

I never meant here as he failed his human nature. I mean he failed in his life. He is no more human it's just a dead body that breathes. He never considered himself so he failed himself. He never considered the human in himself. That's what I mean.

Ya I agree with u he was too much that day.😔

ah that makes sense.100% agree. He has been dead man walking