AB Sr's precondition:‘Definitely don’t want a wife who will work 9-5’ - Page 2

Is this his exact words? Because in showbiz working from 9 to 5 is the most convenient setup.

Those days men expect less ambitious girls as wife. AB though a representative of patriarchal society is slightly better if he conveyed his expectations before marriage.However I do not understand why actresses compromise thier self respect and give up their ambition as unlike ordinary girls they do not have the pressure to go according to the societal expectations. They are in entertainment industry which itself has questioned the confirmists.

No wonder Jaya behaves like a typical frustrated woman as knowingly or unknowingly she made many sacrifices and compromised her self respect by living with a man who have disrespected her multiple times. I am sure Kajol will be a similar version as I feel she overlook Ajay's cheating to maintain the marital relationship. She does everything to make the marriage work as she never want to end up like her parents.

It's misogyny definitely. In my parents generation almost everyone in the family were working. Stay at home moms/homemakers were an exception rather than rule in our family. My grandmothers were trained teachers but in their generation education was compulsory for both sexes and having job was not a compulsion. They worked when family needed extra income.

Having said that it was very nice day when my mom took off from work for a day and cooked lunch for us.It was really nice having her at home but working mom was a reality for us.

We can't ignore the biology also. A baby or an infant needs mother more than anyone else. It's not social conditioning but a biological need. It is advisable for a mother to stay at home until the child starts school/ pre school.

Or even better if crèches are made mandatory at work places so that women don't lose out on opportunities on professional front and at the same time get to stay close to their children.

Kids needs dads too that is why paternity leaves for new fathers have also started so they can bond with kids and also help wife manage as a new mother or assist her through post partum depression.

Most moms do take maternity leave or sabbatical in career when child is small, or take lots of days off or half day or take kid to work or choose freelance or WFH options to avoid leaving kid alone.

Whereas no one asks dads to balance at all and likes of Amitabh casually said they never knew what class kid studied in or Mithun once said he spends only 1 hour a YEAR with his newborn and that too when he gets time and not necessarily birthday or festival either.

It is not same as asking women to give up work or education or identity altogether. Or saying you want her to be there to serve you food whenever you come home. Amitabh certainly did not ask Jaya to not work only for sake of kids.

As for me, both parents worked but also took lot of time to be with us or took half day or full day leaves and it is they who cooked, packed food for us. And our grandparents were always with us too. So were uncles and aunts.

Even now it is same expectation put on women but women are defying, no?

Women are always made to deny own identity just to please men or their families or else threatened social isolation.

Jaya was not helpless. Rather in her own words, her dad wanted her to be independent, not marry and focus on career. If her family was also supportive and influential then how can there be pressure on her to marry or make marriage work no matter what and shortchange own dreams?

In that era too we have had Lata M and Asha Parekh who were single and successful or Asha Bhosle who walked out of an abusive marriage. Or Tanuja who got divorced. Or Hema who continued to work and perform on stage despite Dharam not wanting her to dance on stage or act.

I know it sounds difficult and tough but women always face pressure from childhood to revolve identity around pleasing others or landing a man and catering to his whims and are shamed or threatened if they question system or say they want to focus on own career or education or have no interest in marriage or kids or have interest in say, spirituality or social work or want to be nuns or celibate etc.

A lot of women in even urban areas still give up at young age due to social pressure or family pressure.

Problems were always there but you gotta take a stand somewhere even if it meand becoming a villain in eyes of others or others trying to isolate you or bitch about you or call you burden on parents etc.

Better a woman fights for what she wants to be, than yield and remain frustrated all life herself.

I thought Jaya b still works? As long as the husband can fulfill all her needs and wants, these is not a problem.. Problem is when she needs money to buy clothes and comes "why do you need another clothes for".. Work is fun but unfortunately you have to work with other human beings who most of the time cannot mind their own business .. 😵 if Jaya prefer to work anyhow then she shouldnt have married him..

Originally posted by: atominis

For all those who claim Amitabh never stopped Jaya from working https://indianexpress.com/article/entertainment/bollywood/amitabh-bachchan-had-a-condition-before-marrying-jaya-bachchan-navya-naveli-nanda-podcast-8236426/

This is in addition to Jaya's own past interview where she shared Amitabh told her he would like to see her around or serve him meals whenever he comes home.

It was not like only Jaya quit working due to kids.

Amitabh is very much a male chauvinist who made Jaya quit at peak of her career, insisted on marrying her though her dad was not keen that she marry him. While he himself casually spoke how he was so busy working that he never knew what class his kids studied in.

But the fact is she did do lot of movies in the initial years after marriage. Maybe she had signed them or started shooting for those movies before marriage....she reduced work after her 2 kids were born. Till 1975 she was doing more than 2 movies.

Amitabh asked her to reduce work but she didn't so he got her pregnant twice within the first 3 years of their marriage and she had to automatically reduce her work. 🙄

Was Big B a villain in the real life contrary to what he was on the screen ?

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Jaya has clearly stated he asked her he did not prefer a working wife before marriage itself.

If he was not even keen on a 9 to 5 job then how would he like acting which is way more than 9 to 5 fixed hours and does not even have fixed locations?

Pregnancy and kids are not the only reason for asking her to not work.

In an other interview, decades ago, Jaya had said he had stated he would like to see her when he comes home and have her serve him his drinks and meals and he did not want that she would not be there any time he comes home.

This was the 70s and the 80s..a working woman was deeply looked down upon back then..it was not considered to be a nice thing for a woman to go out and work and make her own money..heck it was like that even in the 90s..it’s only after the tech era boom that now women in workplace is considered to be a normal thing..

Originally posted by: atominis

Jaya has clearly stated he asked her he did not prefer a working wife before marriage itself.

If he was not even keen on a 9 to 5 job then how would he like acting which is way more than 9 to 5 fixed hours and does not even have fixed locations?

Pregnancy and kids are not the only reason for asking her to not work.

In an other interview, decades ago, Jaya had said he had stated he would like to see her when he comes home and have her serve him his drinks and meals and he did not want that she would not be there any time he comes home.

Most men were like this that time some 50 years ago, half a century.