Unpopular Opinion

There’s always a BACK STORY for a person’s Behaviour..

What Toshu DID is WRONG.. BUT

1. Its wrong of Anupama to disclose this to Kinjal when she just had ‘C’ section and is going through a sensitive phase..

2. It’s not easy to give birth and it’s Kinjal’s first baby.. why to ruin such a Beautiful Moment?

Why can’t she say it after 40 days? Why can’t she wait till she recuperates?

3. I Blame Vanraj, Anupama , Kinjal and Shah’s for Toshu’s Behavior..

When Vanraj’s affair got revealed, even he behaved as if he did nothing wrong..

Anupama at one point made Vanraj her FRIEND and also stayed at Shah’s house along with Kavya and Vanraj and looked after them..

What do you think the children of the house learnt?

4. Kinjal is more like married to Anupama over Toshu.. Kinjal is no good wife to start with.. She always kept Anupama as her priority over Toshu..

And this KINJAL TREATS “VANRAJ” with UTMOST RESPECT along with Anupama..

What msg is she giving to Toshu?

5. How do you expect a person to behave whose father had an affair and is normalised.. whose mother too brought a person as a friend like his father and married him wo bhi disclosing in the public “ I’ll marry you” .. And his wife supporting and respecting both his Father and Mother?

6. I’m with Rakhi on this.. Toshu should be given a second chance as he says he loves Kinjal and the Baby.. Baby needs both Mother and Father for healthy upbringing.. why not give a second chance and see?
Every person deserves a second chance to redeem themselves
I saw many couples whose bonding got better after the arrival of Baby..

7. The Reaction of Toshu when Rakhi confronted and infront of his Family is different because he clearly thinks his Family is not eligible to question him and took it on his EGO.. Where as when Rakhi confronted he did say Sorry and begged to give him a chance and stated he truly loves Kinjal and Baby and will not repeat it..

8. When Vanraj can be respected in the house, why is it so difficult to give Toshu a second chance?

9. Divorce isn’t a good thing and it shouldn’t be the ONLY OPTION for every problem.. Conscious Uncoupling and Judicial Separation are way better options for the couple who have kids..

Every Person Deserves a Second Chance to Redeem Themselves..

I disagree on many fronts.

Even if Kinjal got to know later she wouldn't have been able to recall this function any lovingly. And baby isn't grown enough to understand the celebration. Adults all are mature enough to handle the situation. ( about c section- sure in reality you are right about the physical stress but this is anupamaa serial. Remember how Anupamaa got to serving chai to all within couple of days of her cancer operation)

To give a second chance or not is always victim's decision and responsibility.

About Toshu's ego. he has a group of people who he respects includes Rakhi because she is rich and his father well because he has been his favorite kid.

Another group he disregards and disrespects includes Anu, Anuj and samar. Depending on situation it might include more people.

His ego was hurt because someone like Anupamaa dared question his almighty Toshu. When he thoroughly believes he hasn't done anything wrong.

Trust me I am usually annoyed by Anupamaa but still can't take side of such a sick b****##.

If he can't even accept his mistake, doesn't even have brains to process--- to what degree he has messed up then how can you even have hope for anything. You have to know what you have done wrong, to make it right.

His constant chant of I am a man so I have full right wasn't even helping much. Man and woman are equal, and patriarchal thinking is just morally wrong.

Sure, divorce are tough but growing up with two parents who doesn't trust, and respect each other- in my opinion is rather worst. Kinjal and her daughter should aim for better life and anywhere that doesn't have shah or Anupamaa would be automatically heavenly better.

Especially being Rakhi's daughter and grandchild, I doubt they will have any trouble finding a good match or rather just staying as single mom.

Even though I agree with your 3rd and 4th point but it doesn't mean kinjal has to forgive toshu. One mistake never justify another one. We are ought to learn from mistakes not justify by doing another one.

It's rather high time society should consider a woman as a individual rather than just daughter, mom and bahu.

Maybe sometimes ppl deserve a second chance,but that is only when the person first accepts that he was at fault & is ready to amend his ways.Does toshu feel he has done anything wrong?No.Does he feel guilty over it?No.Does he actually plan to stop having one night stands?Hell NO.So why on earth do u think he deserves a second chance?Ur unpopular opinion is actually really unpopular.

Today anupama rocks and Leela toshu vanraj sucks

And seriously baa jaisa ghatiya character to koi hai hi nahi she was saying ki mard to yeh sub karte rehte hai but wife ko family ke bare mein sochna chahiye .she was shouting at anupama why she disclose toshu affair to Kinjal

And as i told In other thread I am again real whole hearddly wishing bapuji bhi ema ar le I will truly support Bapuji on this

Toshu is a shit person from the word go.

Till date I'm surprised as to what kinjal saw in him to marry him.

Kinjal had her moments and she's not the brightest but definitely did not deserve to be cheated on.

Cheating is a choice and only cheater is responsible for it. No one else.

Are you for real? Which century do you belong to? Cheaters should never be given second chance even if they redeem. Just because AnupaMaa forgave V, Kinjal or any women does not need to forgive her cheating husband. Kinjal has her flaws but still she does not deserved to be cheated.

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

Are you for real? Which century do you belong to? Cheaters should never be given second chance even if they redeem. Just because AnupaMaa forgave V, Kinjal or any women does not need to forgive her cheating husband. Kinjal has her flaws but still she does not deserved to be cheated.

Dear,

When on earth, I said Kinjal deserves to be cheated..

Nobody deserves to be cheated and the same time, I stick to the point.. Everybody deserves a second chance to redeem themselves.

I’m not supporting Toshu acts..

Divorce shouldn’t be the only Solution for each and everything.. right?
Given the environment Toshu was brought up.. I can’t put complete blame on Toshu.. His family is equally responsible.
Its like Pot calling Kettle Black..
Just like EMA’s cannot be Normalised.. Divorce shouldn’t be the Only Solution..

Originally posted by: Param-Sundari

Toshu is a shit person from the word go.

Till date I'm surprised as to what kinjal saw in him to marry him.

Kinjal had her moments and she's not the brightest but definitely did not deserve to be cheated on.

Cheating is a choice and only cheater is responsible for it. No one else.

I agree Toshu is a Bad Person and am equally surprised like you why Kinjal married him..

Yes, I also agree cheater is responsible for everything

Punish him, Make him Regret for his doings..

Ignore him till he repents..

Divorce isn’t a solution and it won’t change the person for Better..

Originally posted by: vivacious

I agree Toshu is a Bad Person and am equally surprised like you why Kinjal married him..

Yes, I also agree cheater is responsible for everything

Punish him, Make him Regret for his doings..

Ignore him till he repents..

Divorce isn’t a solution and it won’t change the person for Better..

How?

See I'm not not following the show, so i ran across Anupama vs Toshu confrontation where he was just rolling his eyes and kinjal vs Toshu where he's not ready to forgive the cheating himself.

A person who doesn't even feel a bit of remorse and himself cannot pardon that mistake when made by his partner, on what basis does he expect his wife to forgive him and give him a chance?

Blaming others for someone's choice is diluting the crime and normalising it.

Asking for forgiveness for a crime that you will not forgive yourself when roles are reversed is entitlement and narcissism

If makers justify EMA then Anuj bhi kar sakta hai

Because he also good husband, father n above all a good human right

I m very disappointed if kinjal stay in SH really