Originally posted by: twerping
Hey Ani...I am guessing you caught up with the episodes. 😆
there has been a lot of discussion on this issue here already, but still will just put in my 2 pence..
I don't think anyone will say what Ayesha did was right, but there is reason to why she attacked Basit the way she did. Ayesha since her marriage has found love from Sadia and seen just how much Sadia loved Basit. She had seen Sadia's torment, her grief and how Basit's behaviour hurt Sadia daily. Ayesha is no goddess who has some kind of way to know Basit inside and out, understand his pain and torment like it was her own. Sadia saw Basit's anger at her as him reacting out of his pain and grief, but Ayesha does not understand that.
In fact she has seen Basit's coldness, that he doesn't care about others. So she is blaming him for his behaviour towards Sadia. She herself is a daughter who has grown up forgiving her mother over and over again. She does not understand why Basit cannot forgive his mother. His words about how he wants personal space in their relationship, that he did not even care about the dinner Ayesha attended on her own, etc has made her believe Basit does not need anyone in his, doesn't care about anyone in his life. She doesn't know what Basit went through when he lost his father. She doesn't understand why Basit is so angry at his mother. Ayesha has a blinkered vision when it comes to Basit and she has a prejudice about him. That is why she is behaving the way she is because she thinks that he should finally accept the fact that his behaviour had hurt his mother.
What she does not see is that he did go to Sadia at the end. The morning he found her dead, Basit listening to Ayesha's advice had gone to speak to Sadia. Maybe he would have spoken to her finally and heard her point of view as well. But as he said to fahad, it was too late.
Fahad is Basit's childhood friend. Of course he will understand Basit better than Ayesha. Fahad tries to point Ayesha in the right direction. Even Qudsia tells Ayesha to not sprinkle salt on Basit's wounds. So Ayesha while she is behaving in an immature and judgmental way, is receiving good advice.
What I thought was really exciting was the fact that Basit was actually hurt by Ayesha's opinion of him. That she thought him to be insensitive and heartless, had actually hurt Basit. It really shows how much he cares what Ayesha thinks of him which points out what Ayesha's presence in his life means to him. He tried to explain to Ayesha why he had behaved the way he did. That conversation in some ways was a mirror to the car conversation earlier. The previous time Ayesha had opened her heart and Basit had been unable to understand her. This time Basit opened his heart and Ayesha was unable to understand him. Yet he trusted her and cared enough to open his heart to her. When he sees that she is unable to understand him you see Basit visibly retreat into a shell, his face hardens, he nods noncommittally. Next morning he is slightly pissed at her, doesn't open the door when she knocks. Taunts indirectly that she doesn't understand him. These are big changes happening in Basit. Ayesha is blind to the changes of course, but you see when she does behave wrongly, the show through other characters tell her that her behaviour is not right. Maybe next episode will have her finally understand Basit a bit, or maybe not.. I don't know...but all this sure adds to the angst!! Which I am LOVING!!!
Yeah more or less except for Ayesha’s family drama😆 Those are boring 😵😆
See, I understand she was closer to Sadia and so she understood her pain better and kept advocating for her side even tho Basit time and again asked not to. I’ve no issue with that.My main issue is that she’s wayyy to dismissive towards Basit’s feelings and tries really hard to project her feelings on him. Like she wants him to feel what she thinks is right regarding Sadia. I don’t think the nature of their marriage has any such impact in this case tbh. Personally, don’t think she even needs to be well aware or closer to Basit to understand or be a little more sympathetic towards his feelings given the trauma he has and when he explicitly told her about them. Maybe I had high expectations from her coz of the way she handled herself thus far so I feel disappointed with her now.😔
All I want from her is to let Basit grieve, give him some time to heal, not to be too dismissive towards his feelings and to stop projecting her feelings on him. Let him feel whatever he wants to. I know her intention is good but the way she’s going about it is not imho. She should take slow steps instead of dumping everything onto him at once or dictating what he should or should not feel.
As for Fahad, he maybe Basit’s bestie but he has a quite neutral stance from what I’ve seen. He has always called out Basit everytime he pulled shity moves on Ayesha. Similarly, I’m glad he called out her on her shity behaviour. Really like that man.
Rest, I really liked you drawing parallel between the two.😳
And in next epi, it seems Basit will misunderstand her for having an affair??🤔 Typical of every pak drama lol😆 kinda excited to see how this particular show handles it given so far they were really good👍🏼
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