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re: how can you love when you are not willing to trust your spouse or your trust only works when situation favours you?

orchid answered the question well - love is faltu! 😆 hahahah... I do agree with that view. I know that we think love is all wonderful and blah blah. but the truth is darker. as human beings we are flawed and this means our ability to love is also flawed. .

so shehroze loving and not trusting ushna shows that his love is at the flaky stage. she is his wife physically but she is not there a part of his life where he will rely on her and ask her for her thoughts and feedback. that only happens when you trust. in order for that to happen, you need to first accept that you too need help, you need someone's support. shehroze has not been in a position before where he relied on anyone other than his mom. that is why everyone else is seen with suspicion. in some ways, he is an easy target for naima's manipulation. she can do it half asleep.

Hand chemistry ☺️

Originally posted by: vibha28

I guess we can agree to disagree on this one. I am not even thinking Naima and her evilness I am talking from behaviour perspective.

I don’t think it’s common and certainly not from someone you claim to love. Then why not tell her to her face? So now Shehroz is a gossiping aunty too? But I am not surprised his whole family is so why would he be any different?

Saying that someone is careless is not that big of an allegation, it's not even an allegation and has nothing to do with loving that person. I love my mother a lot but i have no problem saying that she can be careless at times. Same with my father. I know in certain thinks he can be careless and if my mother gives him some responsibilities in that matter and he ends up being careless, i will tell my mother why did you asked him to do that when he is careless in that matter and viseversa. Even my parents say that I am careless with certain things. It has nothing to do with loving or trusting someone.

Originally posted by: Renee.Clare

Shehroz is too blinded by his mother's love that he loses all his senses when it comes to his mother. He has done the same with every damn person. Be it Zunaisha or Wahab. So his bejaviour with Zainab is not something new like Priya said. He does not want to listen to anyone when it comes to his mother. The fella gonna hit badly when he will see real face of her. He is gonna regret every behaviour of his with every damn person he hurt for his mother and then he will have a true change and growth in his life. It is gonna be a life changing experience for him. Let us see, how makers chose to show that.

This has always been the case. He and his mother have extremely unhealthy relationship and zunaisha the heroine she bailed and saved herself.

It’s such a dumb way though isn’t it? He will be broken totally and he deserves it but can we not have one show where they don’t butcher ML? I would cheer when he breaks as he deserves that and Ushna will be there for him which is the only good thing but it’s such a silly way to do it. I guess the sitam should have been the clue?

Originally posted by: Renee.Clare

Hand chemistry ☺️

Their hands match so well. Just like their faces

Originally posted by: Renee.Clare

Hand chemistry ☺️

Keeping aside Shehroz as mama's boy. I have a thing for such scenes. How he was working, she keeps her hand on his unconsciously, he smiles, he holds her hand tightly as if he will never let go off her from his life and will hold her tightly when she will need him.

Alas, the scene got ruined when i saw him doubting Ushna, nonetheless, i enjoyed it.

Originally posted by: CoffeeCake

They are all goody goody till they are virgin. Suhagraat is a root cause of every problem 😆

And we dont even get to see the root cause🤣

Originally posted by: vibha28

This has always been the case. He and his mother have extremely unhealthy relationship and zunaisha the heroine she bailed and saved herself.

It’s such a dumb way though isn’t it? He will be broken totally and he deserves it but can we not have one show where they don’t butcher ML? I would cheer when he breaks as he deserves that and Ushna will be there for him which is the only good thing but it’s such a silly way to do it. I guess the sitam should have been the clue?

I guess, here they havent butchered the male lead like they did with Hamza. Shehroz was always a mad man ,impulsive, possessive ,stubborn and a complete fool when it came to his mom. Yes he did show some development but they all were temporary only beacuse he had hardly fallen for Ushna and in any case he did not want her go. The guy never changed actually, whatever changes were there , only was for him wanting Ushna in his life. Now, he has gotten her ,so he is back to his original self.

Originally posted by: mango.falooda

re: how can you love when you are not willing to trust your spouse or your trust only works when situation favours you?

orchid answered the question well - love is faltu! 😆 hahahah... I do agree with that view. I know that we think love is all wonderful and blah blah. but the truth is darker. as human beings we are flawed and this means our ability to love is also flawed. .

so shehroze loving and not trusting ushna shows that his love is at the flaky stage. she is his wife physically but she is not there a part of his life where he will rely on her and ask her for her thoughts and feedback. that only happens when you trust. in order for that to happen, you need to first accept that you too need help, you need someone's support. shehroze has not been in a position before where he relied on anyone other than his mom. that is why everyone else is seen with suspicion. in some ways, he is an easy target for naima's manipulation. she can do it half asleep.

Thank you for your wonderful take on it 🙌

I agree that trust is not built completely yet and yes I agree as human we are flawed and we make mistakes but I also hope we are not rude and disrespectful. My mother always says never talk in anger, make promises when happy, and curse when sad. That’s how I have lived my life. We say very mean things when we are angry and even in my relationship I don’t engage when I am angry but when I have calmed down I then talk. I am lucky my hubs is not an angry man.

Again taking personal experience my father has instilled in all of us never talk behind anyones back what you cannot say to their face, because that person cannot defend themselves and that’s not fair. So for me to hear Shehroz going his wife is careless is very unusual. I know many men moan about their wives to their mother and sisters but it disrespects the women in your life.

Continuing along with personal analogy my SIL once told me that my MIL was upset about something she thought I did and told my hubby about it and he said are you complaining? She goes no I wanted to tell you and he goes what would that result in? So she replies I want you to talk to her, and he said why can’t you? He basically said she is my wife and if that has upset you this bad why don’t you take her for coffee and talk it out? I don’t want to talk about a matter which is related to you and her.

She did the next day and told me what he had said. Then my SIL told me as well. I asked him and he goes my input was not needed and you weren’t there to tell your side so why would I continue that conversation.

This is why I don’t like when Shehroz was talking about Ushna behind her back. I find that disrespectful and I can’t let that one go lol 😂 I have very high standards 😂😂

Originally posted by: Renee.Clare

I guess, here they havent butchered the male lead like they did with Hamza. Shehroz was always a mad man ,impulsive, possessive ,stubborn and a complete fool when it came to his mom. Yes he did show some development but they all were temporary only beacuse he had hardly fallen for Ushna and in any case he did not want her go. The guy never changed actually, whatever changes were there , only was for him wanting Ushna in his life. Now, he has gotten her ,so he is back to his original self.

Everyone got blinded by his lover boy image that we forgot how much of a pain in the ass he can be. 😆

A lot of his behaviour has always been on the extreme end. It was fun to watch him siding his car to keep the side hero on the side but if we were in that car with him we would have freaked out the same way ushna did. He literally took a loaded gun with him to see a guy for calling his wife. Under normal scenarios all this are very extreme behaviours. He clearly don't think twice before he acts.