Originally posted by: mango.falooda
re: sadaf and sufiyan and their 'love' for shehroze and ushna
so this isn't love in the typical definition. this is about possession, about a game, about winning.
I want to relate a story about when I was in university. me and my friend were yakking in the canteen when this classmate of mine popped over -- he had borrowed my notes as he had been sick. when he gave it back to me, he asked me why I had let him borrow. I was perplexed and couldn't understand. he said my notes were too good and what if he gets more marks than me. I was like "so????". he didn't understand that I was more interested in competing with myself.
he then commented about what me and my friend had been conversing when he joined the table -- my friend was telling me about her weekend where she hung out with her cousins and sister. he revealed that he had a difficult relationship with his brother and non-existent ones with his cousins because they were brought up competing with each other.
my friend then said, "how can you have a relationship if you are competing with everyone you meet?"
his response: "that is what my parents taught me. either they are competition or you put them under your feet so you can use them."
and my friend's response "if you cannot be happy for someone, you will never have a relationship with anyone."
his response: "I don't know how to stop"
I share the above story to explain sadaf and sufiyan. they were taught like this classmate -- that is why sadaf used to have meltdowns that ushna was doing better than her university. however, since sadaf doesn't have much interest in studies, her goal was to "win in life". maybe she figured that none of these girls are going to work anyway and so the life section was more important. how was that going to be achieved? to marry some rich bloke and show off. now, ushna got the guy sadaf set her sights on. so ushna won the game. that is what is upsetting sadaf. for the first time, she lost the game that was dear to her.
same with sufiyan -- he sees rejection from ushna as a check that he wasn't good enough. that is what is really bothering him. again, it boils down to competition. neither sadaf or sufiyan have brains to compete in life/work and so they were competing in romance (to get what and who they want) -- it was their way of making themselves feel superior. now that castle like a bad biscuit has crumpled to the ground.
there are life lessons here larger than the drama -- you have to be able to be happy for other people if you want to have relationships. you need to know boundaries to competition. you cannot compete with every person in your life unless your aim is to be isolated. you have to know that life will throw you curveballs. you need to have grace to accept when things don't go your way.
if we see raeesa, she still hasn't taken accountability. she doesn't see it as a result of her upbringing. instead, the starting point is zainab getting married and she thinks she made a mistake with that move.