Happy Pride to everyone! DelusionsOfNeha, thank you for your hard work on this thread, and congratulations on attending your first Pride Parade. I've marched in several, in different parts of the world, and at most of them, I've volunteered to collect signatures in support of diversity.
Without denying the history of the word "homosexual," I think this word should be reclaimed on equal footing with "heterosexual" and "bisexual/pansexual" and "asexual" because these are all comparable natural variations. The word "gay" originated in prostitution, and "queer" implies that minority sexualities are exotic behaviours, so it's good to have a scientific word that recognizes orientation, not behaviour. It shouldn't be more controversial than any other scientific terminology with Greek prefixes like homologous/heterologous, homozygote/heterozygote, homogametic/heterogametic, homothallic/heterothallic, homopolymer/heteropolymer, homogeneous/heterogeneous, homoscedastic/heteroscedastic etc. I use "homosexual" in my fan fiction without apology.
As for pronouns, I prefer to reserve "they" for plural, and since the neuter singular "it" may sound disrespectful, there should just be a unique singular pronoun (some use "xe") for everyone who feels excluded by "he/she/it." Not everyone speaks or will speak English, anyway. Someday, when we all have to speak Mandarin Chinese, the third person singular "tā" and plural "tāmēn" will sound the same for all genders.
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