No excitement for wedding - Page 3

In realistic most of domestic violence case face by women. Men hardly face domestic violence. Most of taunt face by women in home in comparison to men in home

Even women go through torture because of dowry generally men are financial independent if women do domestic violence on husband. Then it is easy for men to divorce his wife and easy to marry other women. But for a woman it is not easy because there are woman also who are not financial indepent and if they have children tub unki doosri shaadi aur divorce lena बहुत mushki hota hai kyonki un wife ne divorce le liya to unse koi jaldi ko doosri shaadi nahi karega isliye woh divorce le nahi paati aur upar se woh khud bache nahi paal paati isliye wife apne bachoon ke liye husband ki har गलत बात को manna, padta hai because those women are not financial independent

That is why serial highlight wife parts

If women is financial independent she can take divorce and live separatly

But what about those woman who cannot study further and has to marry at young age because of financial crisis

They don't have choice of even saying a word to husband leave divorce

So this serial is basically focus on those women who are not financial indepent

Yeh to serial is anupama ka divorce dikha diya aur use anuj jaise husband mi gaya but it in realistic it is very difficult to take divorce from husband when women is not financial indepent and when none of children is financial settled realistic meiin har women ko. Anuj kapdaia jaisa insaan nahi milega

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Suna hai Anuj ke 1-2 naye relatives aanewale hai so ho sakta hai ki woh anupama ki aisi class lagaye ki anupama ka jina mushkil ho jaye aur baa ki bakri naye sasuralwalo ki wajah se purane sasural ja he na paye 😆😆

Waiting for anupama’s new sasural relative ki entry😳

Lol anupama naye sasural and purane sasural ke bich dharmsankat mai fasegi I am so excited to watch her dilemma 🤪

Then she will work double shift as Slave oops sorry as maid and in return as compensation she will get her favorite set - combination of insults and name calling. Matlab Anu ki toh maze he maze ho gye. Aur cherry on the top - two additional people to give bhasan while being hypocrite. Itni khushi 🤪

Being financially independent doesn't make divorce any easier for women.

I think that's a pretty wrong judgment to make.

Divorcing,especially for a woman is still looked down upon.

Society's crude remarks,lurking eyes of men who think that just because you are divorced,you are available, incase your husband and your share mutual friends,then loosing friends as well, and if kids are involved,the matter becomes even more difficult, fearing to spend your life all alone with no love or emotional support from a partner.I think this part was also rightly highlighted through kavya's case in the serial when she had divorced Anirudh.

Divorce is emotionally and legally a very exhausting thing...yes,in case of housewives it must be even more because of the added financial burden.

I know men also sacrifice a lot,there are a lot of stereotypes and prejudices that men also have to face in their day to day life, but maybe being a woman and our society being a patriarchal society from ages with women being given not much respect,we all sympathize more with the struggles of women.

Things are changing for the better,but there is still a long way to go.

And I don't know,just my opinion,I have seen many a times women think that they will get the desired respect or make an identity only if they work...otherwise they will be looked down by feminists if missing out on the opportunity to work or there is undue pressure put on women by praising them that they can handle both office and household work, making those women feeling inferior who aren't able to create a good balance between the two😆

I think it's very important that if a women chooses to be a housewife or a working women or both, it should be completely their choice, and none of their choices should be looked down upon.

Originally posted by: Moongdal

I am not much excited for the wedding. Because post wedding too Anupamaaa will be back to Shah ghosla, to take care of bapuji, ofcourse Kinjal is pregnant and has to take care of her as well. She has to give glass of water to Vanraj.

Only thing would be interesting, will Anuj join her in Shah house too ? Will both of them serve, baa ,bapuji , Vanraj, Kinjal.

The story is still stuck since accident. I don't understand why can't they introduce new character independent of Shah house and Vanraj. They got in Mukku but mixed her with Vanraj.

So bored ya, it was such a fun show after Anuj entry kya raita faila diya hai.

Yaar sabse pehle toh....kyu ye abhi se sochna ki wedding ke baad kya hoga.. abhi to maan ki wedding enjoy karo.

Jaise bhi dikha rahe hain ab . Maan ki shadi hai...we all are attached to them in some manner or another and its beautiful to see it finally culminating into marriage otherwise kitne speculation the ki makers shadi hone bhi denge ya nahi.

Ab jab ho rahi hai so enjoy it. Aage kya storyline hogi...filhaal dont concentrate on it...kahi na kahi hum sab jante hain ki shah house amd characters kahi nahi ja rahe . Wo hamesha se show mein rahenge aur foucs bhi rahega unpar....so lets accept it...jyada ho gaya to us par trolling baad mein lar lenge😆

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

You have company. 🤗I have no interest in the events either. I find them rather silly/OTT. However, I am curious to know what's in store after that.

- Does she build an identity(astitva) of her own? Or will she remain what she is now, mother to her kids, and someone's wife?

- How does she work out parenting while being married to another man, who is not her kids' father ?

- How will she balance priorities after her 2nd marriage?

According to makers,

anu already made her astitva by opening dance academy and occasionally doing business with anuj.

She will workout parenting by tagging anuj along with her to shah house🤣

She will not balance priorities...she dont have to...even after lots of gyan on second marriage from almost everyone, her one and only priority will be shah housewasi and their tantrums🤣

Originally posted by: myviewprem

We all are in same boat

I am watching wedding only for maan

Otherwise this shah toxicity is too much nowaddays

anupama gives 10 mins bashaan on ma every episode

crazy woman as if we did not have mothers

They went to work and we would be alone at home after school in LKG only

We ate snacks and lunch etc on own our moms were not feeding us in LKG too at home they would be at office

are we complaining like kinjal that our mom not home after we grow up?

This show is disgracing working mothers like anything

Whta great work anupama does at home? I have seen women (in 90s and 2000s) going to work 8 to 9 hours travelling another 2 hours taking care of aged father in law grand father in law plus 5-6 brother in laws 2 brothers who are in school or college and hubby and 3 kids alone only woman in house for decades no one doing drama and preaching like anupama doing(in big metro city not small city or villages). I mean imagine cooking for 13 people by waking up at 3am both break fast and lunch carriers than going to office 8 hours plus 2 hours travel plus again preparing snacks and dinner at night very back breaking work for 20-25 years non stop. Sleep only 3 to 4 hours at night (from 3am to mid night only back breaking work of office plus house). That is real work not what anupama does with maid help and mom in law bahu to help. This is hardly 20% work what woman do going to office plus house work(in cities not village they must be doing even farm work also with cooking for 15 people at home) but bragging 500 times more that i work. I have seen truly empowered woman n 90s and 2000s who worked in offices plus took care of in law-s full family plus their own siblings and parents everyday non stop doing all work. No one said i sleep only 3 to 4 hours a day and do back breaking house work plus take care of father in law grand father in law etc than that too for 2 decades or more. Only after 2005 or 2010 its become fashion to brag about doing house work plus working in office.

Even mom going to office and leaving kids alone at home after school we all grew up in 90s and 2000s same way. No one cooked or fed kids after coming from school even in LKG/UKG we ate ourself some snacks or packed from hotel or bakery. Are we all not alive are we thinking bad of our moms compared to an anupama. Not really i think our moms who worked in office and house are 10 times more respected than an anupama because they did it to give better life to kids and husband and in laws. And why not they were qualified and educated so why not work because they studied 21 years in school or college. But they also were as traditional as anupama and did saas sasur seva and brother in laws and sister in laws seva and their own family seva without shedding tears and victim drama like anupama. May be they did not want to do all that house work or take care of in laws etc but they did still as duty as responsibility. And in 90s and 2000s men never did any house work unlike now where they help something atleast. Imagine situation of women than. Nor there was zomato and pizza to deliver even if you are unwell you have to cook at any cost 24/7 365 days every day of year for decades.

Why are anupama kids acting like 3 years olds at 27 and 16 years etc they need hand holding etc and mom for everything except when they should have shown guts when their mom was being abused by hubby and his parents. Or when vanraj was having affair with kavya and mukku they act blind and no braveness to question father or grandparents. But bec anupama is softer and silent always they can misbehave at her or her classmate cum future hubby?

Even anupam acats like lkg kid she needs lot of pushing and hand holding to break free or make any small decision of life. At 45 years who acts like anupama? Like a small kid needing prodding from samar, devika, kinjal or anuj for everything.

I understand the sentiment behind the post but i would just like to add here that every mother, every housemaker is equally important. I have seen all the kinds, the one like you mentioned, like getting up at 3 am and working till late night, going to office, managing everything on their own and also the regular one just staying at home, having maid's help, and also the purely working, not doing a thing at all at house...my point is that there should be no comparison among them about who is more great. They all are mothers and they all built their home irrespective of the fact that they are doing household chores by themselves or not. A mother's position and respect in the house, in eyes of her children and in society shoulnt be based on the amount of work she does for them. Yes some do more work and some not depending on lots of factors like social, economical, family issues etc but they all contribute towards their house and children's well being. One woman can't be put over other. If we do that we are just simply failing the whole sentiment behind your post, that is, respecting women and not judging them based on their working status.

My post is not about what society think whether working women take divorce or housewives take divorce

My post is about that it is easier for working women to take divorce because after divorce it is easy for them manage to take care of themselves and for basic needs they can manage own their own as they are financial independent

Originally posted by: shubhK2308

I don't know about you,but I am very excited for my MaAn ka wedding,and I gonna enjoy it,will not let the Shah drama also spoil it🤪

Honestly i am also very happy that Maan ki shaadi ho rahi hai. 8 months ho gaye ab to shaadi honi hi thi. Credit goes to audience also unhi ke pyaar ki wajay se ye shaadi ho rahi hai varna nahi hoti agar makers ko lagta audience accept nahi kar rahi to shaadi nahi hoti par ho rahi hai as MaAn is loved too by audience😊

Originally posted by: Bechain_Bulbul

I understand the sentiment behind the post but i would just like to add here that every mother, every housemaker is equally important. I have seen all the kinds, the one like you mentioned, like getting up at 3 am and working till late night, going to office, managing everything on their own and also the regular one just staying at home, having maid's help, and also the purely working, not doing a thing at all at house...my point is that there should be no comparison among them about who is more great. They all are mothers and they all built their home irrespective of the fact that they are doing household chores by themselves or not. A mother's position and respect in the house, in eyes of her children and in society shoulnt be based on the amount of work she does for them. Yes some do more work and some not depending on lots of factors like social, economical, family issues etc but they all contribute towards their house and children's well being. One woman can't be put over other. If we do that we are just simply failing the whole sentiment behind your post, that it, respecting women and not judging them based on their working status.

All i have issue is they are exaggerating the work anuupama does at her home

Our moms have done more home work than anupama than gone to work 9 hours plus taken care of in laws hubby kids etc

In 1990s and early 2000s you could not pay bill online or banking online or order from amazon grofers you had to do everything on own

So imagine going to work 9 hours travel 2 hours plus do grocery shopping on way back go to bank etc in between week pay bills after work on weekend etc plyus do house work without any maid help

It was back breaking work compared to anything anupama did ever

Yet they super praise her like anything while putting down a rakhi or devika or mukku as vampish women over a anupama whose seedi sadhi as they go to work are divorced or not having kids or doing much house work like anupama

Yes i have problem with how anupama is being devi worshipped by all while in reality our moms did 4 times more work than her but never were praised by anyone

Indeed this serial is demonizing people who work and do house work both

Devika is vamp as shes divorced has no kids and no filters while talking

Mukku is another vamp as she talks straight forward whatever is in mind and does not do house work is unmarried at 30 plus years and wears modern dresses etc

Kavya is biggest vamp for marrying vanraj after divorce and working has no kids does not do house work

Rakhi forget her she speaks truth bombs and keeps insulting shahs so is biggest vamp of show (shes frustrated kinjal hero worships anupama over her and removes frustration on anupama and shahs i think, any mother or father get angry if own child call others as mother or father after everything they did to bring them up for 23 years aka vanraj)

They are trying to demonize educated and working women and those who have no kids women

Why cannot audience see what CVs are doing silently

They are trying to push message that educated working woman who do not take nonsense from in laws or family are bad are vamps are not marraige worthy be it mukku, kavya or devika

But anupama is marraige worthy second chance by anuj as shes homely bends to all

What sort of message is this to next gen boys especially?

Already patriachial society has badnaam working women as vamp and bad in popular culture now anupama just confirms this

Because they will not take shit from in laws and hubby and bend like anupama or do house work like anupama or take any muck thrown on them and hence unfit to be mothers or bahus

Now anuj instead of putting sense into anupama has joined her in this abuser worship and send wrong messages to society

They are indirectly mocking educated working woman who talk for their rights and take stand

Even pakhi a 16 year old is demonized as she talks without filters and does not do house work

Pakhi and rakhi talk sometimes rude but mostly they are right. Pakhi is kid imagine all shit we spoke as 13 or 16 years to parents or siblings everyone do that. Rakhi may talk humiliating but shes also equally humiliated called nagin etc

Before nandini was demonized and humiliated by shahs for talking about kavyas rights

The CVs aredemonizing modern educated working women who stand up for themselves when bullied thru anupama character

But Baa whose truly more toxic than a rakhi is mother and worshipped - great messaging for next gen

I have problems with all this messaging

As far as anupama being great mother doing house work is not great mother install good values is a great mmother making kids responsible is mother all three kids of an are not responsible do not have jobs need anuj kapadia or malvika or rakhi to get them jobs. Toshu and pakhi are toxic like vanraj and play games etc I do not believe anupama or vannraj are great parents they failed utterly. Just giving birth and doing house work for family is not great mother you have to teach them values and lessons etc thats more impt that anupama failed completely for toshu and pakhi and for samar too (not financially independent no drive to achieve etc)

I think rakhi is great mother or parenting how kinjal turned out

GK is very good parent how anuj and Mukku turned out (anuj has spoilt after contact with anu and shahs but atleast 45 years he behaved normal and decent)

Dolly is great mom as liitle daughter turned our great

I am worried how anuj and anus kids will turn out given their parents characters of hero worshipping toxic people. They may become anupama part2 or toshu part2 types because their both parents only are busy pleasing toxic people who are not related to them too than their real well wishers. They may not be normal mature individual adults like devika or dolly or even a samar

Originally posted by: Bechain_Bulbul

Yaar sabse pehle toh....kyu ye abhi se sochna ki wedding ke baad kya hoga.. abhi to maan ki wedding enjoy karo.

Jaise bhi dikha rahe hain ab . Maan ki shadi hai...we all are attached to them in some manner or another and its beautiful to see it finally culminating into marriage otherwise kitne speculation the ki makers shadi hone bhi denge ya nahi.

Ab jab ho rahi hai so enjoy it. Aage kya storyline hogi...filhaal dont concentrate on it...kahi na kahi hum sab jante hain ki shah house amd characters kahi nahi ja rahe . Wo hamesha se show mein rahenge aur foucs bhi rahega unpar....so lets accept it...jyada ho gaya to us par trolling baad mein lar lenge😆

haaaha

Bulbul, one thing for sure, shaadi toh yeh makers kya RS bhi nahi rok paayega.

ab chahe bapuji gir jaaye ya baa ka baduaa naatak shuru ho.. haan baarish ho jaaye toh aur baat hai

yaar set par itna paisa kharch hua hai; bus khana aur dikha dete toh thoda aur shaadi waala environment lagta.