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But Vanku said that conversation will happen only after confession 🤔 I just hope the hyped Confession will not look misplaced and forced . Vanku ka koi bharosa nahin hain 🤔

Originally posted by: xfiles

But Vanku said that conversation will happen only after confession 🤔 I just hope the hyped Confession will not look misplaced and forced . Vanku ka koi bharosa nahin hain 🤔

Do you think V will listen to her concerns without confession?

First, she will have to assure him, then only he will listen... totally my guess.

V's pain point is Sai doesnt value him enough to be waited for or fought for.

Think from his perspective of a guy who is under self pity. He sacrificed his love to be just her friend, only to be misunderstood. Ofcourse he is not seeing Sai's PoV. From his PoV, he has done everything and ready to be her friend just to be tied to her in someway and she 'easily' gave him up.

He has seen her fight for every family member but could not wait or trust him. This is all what he is thinking. That he is dispensible to her. Because for him, she is not...like @xfiles mentioned.
If we just see his state of mind, it will be hurting. Whether he should think about Sai's feelings is a different topic.

Now imagine, his fear. The same fear Sai had for this whole year. If he stays with her without addressing his pain or acknowledging his true feelings, how long he can be around her holding it up. He will break and the cycle repeats. His words to sunny that may be he will have to stay with her bottled up his true emotions, not receiving the love he wanted can be excrutiating for him.

Sai also was struggling with the same fear entire last year. What if she succumbs to the marriage and become his wife out of obligation. How long will it sustain?

Today the last shot when he realized that he is still affected by her. He still craves her attention and love made him freak out. :(

I have one question to @xfiles and others. Is Sai sure of Virat's love for her? Are her doubts cleared. Because I dont want the going in circles again by her doubting his love again, because he is not reciprocating. Was there any indication that she understood his love?

Originally posted by: sadiltl

V's pain point is Sai doesnt value him enough to be waited for or fought for.

Think from his perspective of a guy who is under self pity. He sacrificed his love to be just her friend, only to be misunderstood. Ofcourse he is not seeing Sai's PoV. From his PoV, he has done everything and ready to be her friend just to be tied to her in someway and she 'easily' gave him up.

He has seen her fight for every family member but could not wait or trust him. This is all what he is thinking. That he is dispensible to her. Because for him, she is not...like @xfiles mentioned.
If we just see his state of mind, it will be hurting. Whether he should think about Sai's feelings is a different topic.

Now imagine, his fear. The same fear Sai had for this whole year. If he stays with her without addressing his pain or acknowledging his true feelings, how long he can be around her holding it up. He will break and the cycle repeats. His words to sunny that may be he will have to stay with her bottled up his true emotions, not receiving the love he wanted can be excrutiating for him.

Sai also was struggling with the same fear entire last year. What if she succumbs to the marriage and become his wife out of obligation. How long will it sustain?

Today the last shot when he realized that he is still affected by her. He still craves her attention and love made him freak out. :(

I have one question to @xfiles and others. Is Sai sure of Virat's love for her? Are her doubts cleared. Because I dont want the going in circles again by her doubting his love again, because he is not reciprocating. Was there any indication that she understood his love?

Tagging sherry, saw her online

She could see he is affected today. But as I said, she was in control so she didnt let it affect her as well. She obviously knows he was on Holi.

I feel the same for the 'fear' point you mentioned.

I think, Sai has realised how he must have felt all this time. Hence, she is so guilt ridden. because she too was blinded by the presence of Pakhi to not pay attention to all this even though she too was registering everything.

Emotionally both are at similar stages right now. If and when Vanku writes this conversation, it should be highly charged, otherwise it would make no sense.

Sai has very confidently told the Chavans that Virat is in love with her. While I thought that was in the heat of moment, there is actually no such scene to support her belief.

However, this time she is convinced that Virat loves her. A long shot would be all the instances earlier when sunny, Shivani and others tried to tell her that Virat loves her. Probably, she was warming up to the idea during Diwali

there was no such scene in particular

Originally posted by: Moor278

She could see he is affected today. But as I said, she was in control so she didnt let it affect her as well. She obviously knows he was on Holi.

I feel the same for the 'fear' point you mentioned.

I think, Sai has realised how he must have felt all this time. Hence, she is so guilt ridden. because she too was blinded by the presence of Pakhi to not pay attention to all this even though she too was registering everything.

Emotionally both are at similar stages right now. If and when Vanku writes this conversation, it should be highly charged, otherwise it would make no sense.

Yes they need to address so many MUs over understanding their affections, leave Pakhi and others. I hope they will discuss everything including why Sai had to behave the way she did during Sruthi track. How their year long distance and his jelebis made her think that he will never see her as his wife. And thats the reason she believed he had an affair.

@nethraa and I discussed this before, may be they will never address everything clearly and thats the conflict point in the story. For example, Virat might spill that Sruthi fell for him in his weak moment during their love banter!! Now imagine, sruthi coming back and Virat prioritizing her. Half the damage is already done..

Sorry to freak you guys out. But thats the possibility. 😲

PS: one thing is communication, and the other thing is over communication. 😵

Virat craving for her care and attention was well portrayed by Neil today.

I have the same fear....Sai will pour out her feelings & concerns...and jalebi chavan will give jalebis in return...that will leave a small window for Sai's insecurities.

Sai has always wanted verbal reassurance. Even in the janam janam song, she imagines herself asking about Pakhi...and how does she imagine Virat's answer? Pulling her close, holding her tightly and confidently asserting that she is the only one. That was very telling.

Right now, Sai is flushed, eagerly in love and riding on a high....so she is too enthusiastic...convinced that Virat loves her.

Yeah I just said that above and tagged you. Like we discussed several times, Sai will not get 'clear' answers. Virat cannot be changed overnight to tell everything clearly either. He might presume time to time, they are in love.. no more assurances needed. But is that enough for Sai?

Thats why I think KD is all about constant communication and prioritization in marriage. Looks simple but could be damaging in real.

Originally posted by: sadiltl

V's pain point is Sai doesnt value him enough to be waited for or fought for.

Think from his perspective of a guy who is under self pity. He sacrificed his love to be just her friend, only to be misunderstood. Ofcourse he is not seeing Sai's PoV. From his PoV, he has done everything and ready to be her friend just to be tied to her in someway and she 'easily' gave him up.

He has seen her fight for every family member but could not wait or trust him. This is all what he is thinking. That he is dispensible to her. Because for him, she is not...like @xfiles mentioned.
If we just see his state of mind, it will be hurting. Whether he should think about Sai's feelings is a different topic.

Now imagine, his fear. The same fear Sai had for this whole year. If he stays with her without addressing his pain or acknowledging his true feelings, how long he can be around her holding it up. He will break and the cycle repeats. His words to sunny that may be he will have to stay with her bottled up his true emotions, not receiving the love he wanted can be excrutiating for him.

Sai also was struggling with the same fear entire last year. What if she succumbs to the marriage and become his wife out of obligation. How long will it sustain?

Today the last shot when he realized that he is still affected by her. He still craves her attention and love made him freak out. :(

I have one question to @xfiles and others. Is Sai sure of Virat's love for her? Are her doubts cleared. Because I dont want the going in circles again by her doubting his love again, because he is not reciprocating. Was there any indication that she understood his love?

You are absolutely right. Now the tables have turned. The onus is now on Sai to prove not just her feelings but also to validate his feelings for her- to make him see that she is worth his love. Its actually double the responsibility on her now. She has just realized her love for him and she is also on that journey realizing how blind sided she was up till now regarding his feelings.

As a viewer, I am able to see her PoV because Sai is very clear once she reaches a conclusion in her head- Ambivalence is not her thing. But Virat is at the opposite pole. First of all he never verbalizes what he feels to Sai, he expects her to do guess work. This is the main issue between them as a couple - their communication. They always operate on this guessing game, which as a viewer is exhausting to watch.

I hope Vankar will somehow bring their confession and converge at this point of Mutual Communication as the main problem between them. I give benefit of the doubt here because up till now they havent really been a couple in its actual sense.

At least now, moving forward this issue should be resolved for good. Or else, as you mentioned, it will still go around in circles till eternity.

This is what I love about this show - its so raw and realistic. This is exactly what happens between real couples. Candyfloss and roses can wait- lets get to the real issues first and resolve them. Or else its like building a Taj Mahal with no foundation. It will crumple eventually, no matter how beautiful it looks.