Herman's Happy Herb Hawkers CC#4 **Invited members ONLY** - Page 91

Originally posted by: Intoxicator

This is an arranged marriage? Do you think the future Mrs. Visions is also having such thoughts?

Yes bhag jao - it could be a win-win scenario! 🤣

Haan bhai arranged marriage hi hai.

Don't know if she is also having such thoughts, aa bhi rahe honge to mujjhe nahi batayengi wo...

Originally posted by: sidnilove

I think it's okay to be single and old..and it's also okay to be young and married. There could be issues in your marriage when you're 23 or even 33.

Many of my cousins got married at 24 or 25 and they give me gyaan about how difficult it would be for me if I didn't marry at the "right" age..I will have problems adjusting..I'll have problems conceiving etc. But I would never want to get married only because I'm getting older..or it's the right time to have babies or everyone around me is getting married.

My brother got married at 33 to a girl who was also 33 and they had a baby 7 years later and they're happy. They took their time and didn't let the pressure get to them.

Everyone is different and it's not necessary that everyone should get married in their 20s, have babies by late 20s or early 30s and then retire by 60.

Or even die alone happily at an old age. No worries about children's education and old age. Can travel all around the world with all that savings. And even have savings to get admitted into a really nice old age care. Then won't have to expect anything from children or be disappointed when they abandon you in your old age. 😆

Originally posted by: Intoxicator

My God, what a bleak outlook 😲 I mean, that age is like what after 50? 60?

And if it's true, in that case better to be single - kam zimmedari rahegi...

Bhai 30 ke baad bura waqt shuru..

Absolutely - no point undertaking something so serious and potentially binding for a lifetime out of fear or insecurity. Some things will happen if they're meant to happen, I guess.

But I can afford to say all this as I'm not being pressured by anyone externally at this point. I feel terrible for people who have to get married and I admire anyone who makes the best of their circumstances.

Maybe too much freedom is disorienting...

Guys - please don't be offended if I have said something too mooh-phat on this topic. I will humbly admit most of the time I have no idea what I'm spouting off about when it comes to adult relationships...
(This is why Eka thinks I'm barely an adult🤣)

Originally posted by: sidnilove

I think it's okay to be single and old..and it's also okay to be young and married. There could be issues in your marriage when you're 23 or even 33.

Many of my cousins got married at 24 or 25 and they give me gyaan about how difficult it would be for me if I didn't marry at the "right" age..I will have problems adjusting..I'll have problems conceiving etc. But I would never want to get married only because I'm getting older..or it's the right time to have babies or everyone around me is getting married.

My brother got married at 33 to a girl who was also 33 and they had a baby 7 years later and they're happy. They took their time and didn't let the pressure get to them.

Everyone is different and it's not necessary that everyone should get married in their 20s, have babies by late 20s or early 30s and then retire by 60.

Originally posted by: ViSions

Bhai 30 ke baad bura waqt shuru..

Aren't 30s supposed to be the new 20s. Lol. I was looking forward to my 30s. Now you are making me scared. 🤣

Originally posted by: Intoxicator

Absolutely - no point undertaking something so serious and potentially binding for a lifetime out of fear or insecurity. Some things will happen if they're meant to happen, I guess.

But I can afford to say all this as I'm not being pressured by anyone externally at this point. I feel terrible for people who have to get married and I admire anyone who makes the best of their circumstances.

Maybe too much freedom is disorienting...

Guys - please don't be offended if I have said something too mooh-phat on this topic. I will humbly admit most of the time I have no idea what I'm spouting off about when it comes to adult relationships...
(This is why Eka thinks I'm barely an adult🤣)

Whaaat!

Whaaaaaat 😱

I was thinking you are way mature for a 22 year old. 😆

Originally posted by: ViSions

Bhai 30 ke baad bura waqt shuru..

Aise mat bolo yaar..if we live till 80 then 50 years of bura waqt 😲

I think life starts in your late 20s and early 30s. You figure out what you actually want from life at this point and start living to achieve that. Till then, you're mostly listening to others and trying to blend.

Sorry Visions, yaar - we shouldn't get on your case so much... if it's an arranged marriage, then probably you are not being given a lot of say and neither is your lady. On the plus side, arranged marriages tend to have higher success rates than love marriages if both people are committed to making it work.

Just say the word and we, your forum buddies, will celebrate dhoom dhaam se when the happy occasion takes place - and hey, we'll even add her to the chat club!

Originally posted by: ViSions

Haan bhai arranged marriage hi hai.

Don't know if she is also having such thoughts, aa bhi rahe honge to mujjhe nahi batayengi wo...

Originally posted by: sidnilove

Aise mat bolo yaar..if we live till 80 then 50 years of bura waqt 😲

I think life starts in your late 20s and early 30s. You figure out what you actually want from life at this point and start living to achieve that. Till then, you're mostly listening to others and trying to blend.

Pata nahi, zindagi se kuch chahna kitna theek hai..😓