Originally posted by: Nja91
Actually i think that Virat only says he loves her but i dont see it as "true love" just yet. It needs more time. Yes he cares for her well being, feels responsible for her education, her security. He has a crush on her because shes an attractive lady and hes a young hormomal guy. He feels possessive of her because he is used to being the center of her attention and sharing that attention with others makes him uncomfortable. Those are all definitely stepping stones to love. But hes not fully "in love". Hes on the way. But if he genuinely loved her - he would give her the benefit of doubt, he'd never put anything else- especially a stranger or a criminal above their relationship, he would see her insecurities and never allow pp to say anything between them, he'd probably have at least thought of moving out with her alone even if he didn't act on it.... He has convinced himself he loves Sai because thats acceptable- afterall shes his wife and she's a good person at her core.
He has a big soft corner for Sai and his relationship with her has a label- marriage. She is also his room mate. So she is the only woman he has seen at such intimate quarters on a daily basis and he sees her goodness , impressed by her strength, her fortitude and is habituated to her presence, her gussa, her stubbornness, their nok jhok, her mannerisms. They have found a sync in their general outlooks to life and he is also indebted to her for fixing things for his family or taking a stand for people in the family in a way that he wanted to but couldn't do because of conditioning, expectations and his non confrontational attitude.
But he also has a soft corner for pp, shruti.
I genuinely believe that if Sai didn't exist at all and Sam was missing , Virat would NOT have been able to hold back from being in a relationship with pp. He would have tried to- yes but he'd have failed and eventually given in. I say that because of the way the makers show the amount of pull/hold pp has on him. She knows exactly what to say to get a desired reaction out of him and he doesn't disappoint. Even when he knows she has no good intentions for him-Sai, he has given her a long rope, he has given her benefit of doubt, has several times allowed her to manipulate him or sided with her to project anger and frustration on Sai and its very recent that he has snapped himself out of falling for pp's manipulation because she had really crossed the line and there IS A Sai in his life. But if there was no Sai and Sam was MIA , in the 1 year I dont think Virat would have respected his boundaries with pp..
Similarly if there was no Sai but Sam was always around, he would definitely have stayed in his limits with pp. Because he does love his brother. And with Sam around theres less room for him to allow pp to manipulate him. Also without Sai, if it was just him with Sam-PP, he may have been too heartbroken seeing them together and just left taking a transfer or something.
And if Shruti had come into his life when there was no Sai but Sam-PP were married and Sada was thought to be dead, he'd have definitely got together with Shruti. He may have out of guilt gone ahead and married her to give her/her unborn child a good secure future instead of doing it just on paper and probably then gone on to feel more for her and eventually labelled it as "love".
The difference in his soft corner for Sai vs PP/Shruti is impacted largely by societal norms and acceptability and the way we perceive morals and ethics in a conservative indian society. He wont have a physical relationship with Shruti or PP because they are married to his brother and bff and because he himself is also married. But in the absence of their husbands he does allow himself to get emotionally close to them in a non-platonic way and struggles to maintain boundaries. But if he was not married to Sai at all and eithet of these two women were available without their husbands being physically around- i think he would have got together with them in due course of time. First emotionally and then physically.
So Virat says he loves Sai but he isnt quite there yet for real. Hes on the way to being in love but they still have some more growing to do in the relationship. It needs more time and work. Its only when he is able to prioritize her and their marriage over everything else- even when he is mad at her or upset at her, the day he becomes a better version of himself and Sai becomes a better version of herself- thats the day I'll believe they are truly in love.