do akshara and abhimanyu really have a traumatic childhood/past? - Page 9

Originally posted by: Indira1211

the rituals happened by the way…and it happened because this is itv and they are trying to show that the leads belong together..and when we say the abhimanyu must apologize to Arohi..we mean just that…he must sincerely say he’s sorry ...we don’t mean he should have married her…because obviously he should not as he is in love with her sister,,,Gosh..all I’m saying is that he could have been a better person by sincerely apologizing to a girl he went to and asked to marry.she did not chase him or force him..he proposed to her.. now this is my opinion..so please respect it and let it be ..🤷🏻‍♀️

I respect your POV...

Abhi at least said sorry in the temple..may be not the way you wanted him to be..

But he came to know all the lies Arohi is been weaving ...plus Arohi didn't even try once to understand her sister's sacrifice and love for her...she never was been grateful to her..instead at multiple occasion Arohi pushed forcefully AK to reject her feelings for Abhi..It was shown very clearly in the episodes that how merciless Arohi was to Akshu for not even understanding the emotions, feelings of love,sacrifice, family...Abhi understood Arohi's personality completely. He correctly pointed out I, me and my for Arohi. He wanted relationship with trust but Arohi lied and the way she treated Akshu that made Abhi very harsh to her.

if Arohi did not lie, Abhi would have been apologetic from his heart. So for Abhi it come out as Arohi through lies tried to get into marriage alliance.

Yes Abhi went to Goenkas with the proposal but after consulting Arohi that are you OK I will love your sister forever..tab bhi OK??? I will marry just because of my mother. Don't expect anything from me. She said OK, then Abhi went to Goenkas with proposal and that he clarified in the temple but instead Arohi started cursing everyone...she never accepted once it's her fault or ignorance.

Same is Arohi never apologized to Akshu for anything, anything since childhood

This is my POV...😊

Originally posted by: Indira1211

ok…did Arohi run away with her future husbands brother ? This is the big picture….abhimanyu ran away with his future wife’s sister…which is the ultimate disgrace. That’s why he should have apologized..nothing Arohi has said or done even compares to this. I don’t want to discuss this again as my opinion is not going to change…🤦🏻‍♀️

You can view as he ran way with her sister on marriage day or Akshu ran away with Abhi..

But for me, They did not run away..they were going back home to tell everyone but as usual Arohi became impatient and went to temple..Initially Abhi wanted to ran away and marry but Akshu made him understood. Akshu tried to talk to her but madam disconnected her call telling "Meri jaan logi kya"..Now who is at fault..your sister is giving you priority by calling you to tell everything what is happening but Arohi was so much into I, me and my...

Originally posted by: Thatgirl16

We can never judge trauma. Someone with lots pf finances can be broken n Someone with not even one time meal can be the happiest. Yes serials do exaggerate but traumas especially childhood ones are very real I can say that from my 5 years of psychology studies.

As adults what we see as minor might have scarred our innocent minds had we witnessed that as a kid.

So true..

Childhood trauma stays lifelong more often...

We are so tender, immature...no knowledge of outside world, we are so dependent..small fights at home, parent fighting, abusing leaves deep scar..we can't compare how much pain and suffering those kids go through every day and night..They grow with that fear, think no one is there to help, there is no way and when something becomes repetitive..our scars deepen more and more

Originally posted by: Indira1211

so witnessing your mother die is not as serious as seeing your father with another woman…children witness their parents fighting and getting divorced and remarrying other men and women …all the time…as divorce rate is extremely high…this is a very common occurrence nowadays..it’s not nice but it is a reality..but how many children see their mother die a traumatic death in front of their eyes..and it was arohis biological mom not aksharas mom…and the girls knew this when Sirat died in front of their eyes..

My opinion won't change either...I am not writing this to change your opinion ..its a general discussion going on. If divorces/ failed marriages /abuse is very common, it shouldn't lead to any trauma ? And death isn't as common may be. Death is a one time event , abuse is lifelong . Sirats death was an accident and arohi wasn't a little girl to not understand ..she had the support of her family post her biological mothers death ..there r millions of ways in which life turns upside down post the parents death but arohi was lucky . I will stop here .

Originally posted by: _charu_

My opinion won't change either...I am not writing this to change your opinion ..its a general discussion going on. If divorces/ failed marriages /abuse is very common, it shouldn't lead to any trauma ? And death isn't as common may be. Death is a one time event , abuse is lifelong . Sirats death was an accident and arohi wasn't a little girl to not understand ..she had the support of her family post her biological mothers death ..there r millions of ways in which life turns upside down post the parents death but arohi was lucky . I will stop here .

Spot on.

And what's with the biological mother thing that people talk about, I don't really understand. Sirat was as much Akshu's biological mother too, as she was Arohi's. Akshara grew up believing that Sirat was her biological mother. And then she had to face the double trauma of the truth that her actual mother had died as well as Sirat's death, who was no less than her biological mother as far as Akshara was concerned.