Originally posted by: 404_NotFound
Was just browsing the tweets and came across a interesting one where some feel holding Sai responsible for Virat straying is regressive thinking . Which is true but same people celebrate , cheer for characters like Mohit and Samrat when they sl*t shame Shruthi . They will bash Virat when he stood up against this sl*t shaming . I guess in their dictionary FL is the only women đ and Team Sai can question a womenâs character without even knowing her , can declare SIL is more important than wife and mom , fails to stand up for his wife but can declare he will die for his SIL if needed . ITV definition of women empowerment and progressive thinking
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My views on this line!
This one changes from person to person, marriage to marriage. This is not an easy thing to reach a conclusion just like that and hold blame of one person.
1. Imagine an idealistic scenario like SaiRat where they are born for each other or whatever narrative that ITV weaves around the TV couple. Here even if Sai doesnt give him conjugal bliss, he will be with her. However, I see only fights in their marriage if that happens. Thats why I said idealistic scenario.
2. Now real life example: A wife cannot provide the emotional or conjugal comfort owing to her health, husband loves her immensly but to stay sane (biological urges might not keep you sane), he will start an affair, with or without wife's consent is again another scenario. Or they can divorce and still the husband will be there for her emotionally. Here it will termed as a practical approach that we cant judge whether it is right or not. The wife and husband's pledge to each other through 'think and thin' and in 'health and illness' still holds good. isnt it? This happens most of time in US. A big health condition like cancer causes divorces. Not because there is no love, just because they can not handle the marriage and its conditions when health is put on the line. We should not judge such couple in my opinion.
3. The husband/wife is not in love with the other, and without the other's consent start an affair. Down right cheating. And irrespective of male or female, it is better to walk out. Even then, we are no one to judge a relationship. in a hypothetical ITV story, I will support the spouse to walk out.
So Virat straying because of Sai, is equivalent to Sai's gathering her insecurities/behaviour due to Virat not giving her full rights. We need to discuss both here. :) It is regressive to come to conclusion like this without knowing the actual reasons. I would say Sai maintained distance with Virat, because of his initial word that he cannot not be her husband. It is indeed a big statement! And she built her walls because of that. Later, she could not bring the walls down because Virat could not show his love in the way she was expecting, with a verbal declaration or show direct interest in proceeding to next step!. ( I mean to say we as audience know he loves her, but she was expecting some other clearer way to understand he wants her!) We should take all this into account when we support Sai or Virat. Mistake is with both of them, in my opinion. Thats why their story is beautiful. For me it makes no sense, as an audience to blame one. When you see both their vulnerabilities, you sympathize with them. Not doing that and seeing only one side is regressive or pseudo feminism in my opinion.
BUT BUT, the name calling of Sruthi is unacceptable in any scenario. She is not there to give her side of the story. No way one could demean her, especially when he said she is his friend's wife. I am OK with older generation because thats their mindset, but did not expect from younger generation. in that way, Virat is poles apart from these two! period. As a son, as a husband, brother and a human being..
I will say any day, Virat stands as a pillar of support to anyone. He was introduced like that in the story. He will not run away. That day he protected Sai because KJ was in death bed. Now also he is protecting for another dying man. The difference is the woman then has become his wife, this time he was protecting her under the disguise of wife. The path he chose could be wrong, but we have to see that both the times he did the best he could. Even now, he is breaking inside but holding it up for the two people who he vowed to protect. Samrat or others would have chosen the easy path, to run away or to surrender to the pressure.
I can write pages about how Virat tried to keep Pakhi away in their relationship. If not for Sai's insecurities and fear, if he had the control, he would not have let his personal details ever come in front of the family. Even his relationship with Pakhi would not have been discussed in the family, nor his marital status with Sai which everyone is ridiculing at their will. That man protected himself and his marriage for as long as he could. One should appreciate that! In the same line, I cant blame Sai either to bring his past relationship and their marriage to the forefront, into public. From her PoV, he is not giving clear answers and she is young and restless to get answers. She doesnt know how to live in a joint family, that some secrets have to be guarded and privacy needs to be protected. She knows only showing the truth, she doesnt know that truth need not come out always, if it could be managed.
Sorry for the long reply, But I want to say that people should not come to conclusions without seeing the whole picture.
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