Anuj, Vanraj..who?? Anupamaa is the real HERO of the show🙌 - Page 3

First of all hugs to you dear sunshine from a fellow depression survivor! 🤗🤗🤗

I second you regarding the producers treatment of Anuj. Firstly I don't know how old is Mukku. The siblings did not meet each other for 10 years which means Mukku was married off rather early. Anuj does not seem to be the kind of guy who would marry off his sister early or just because she chose the wrong guy as her boyfriend (Akshay). May be I'm being too judgemental at this point of time. But I don't know..I don't like them guilt tripping Anuj. Waise hi bande ki life me kam trauma hai kya jo ek aur cheez ka guilt bhi de diya uske sir pe. Like Reetika mentioned parents ko arranged marriage set up me jab pata chalta hai ki the guy was abusive they tend to blame themselves for choosing the wrong guy. Yahaan par parents nahi hain toh Anuj ka guilt aur zyada badh gaya hai. To show anupama healing Anuj they could have tapped into his panic attacks too. The scenes between him and GK. She could have healed him from his survivor guilt. Ek aur cheez ka blame kyun dal diya uske sir pe! I am thankful yeh pura incident shah family ke saamne nahi hua. And I'm hoping against hope ki Vanraj iska fayda uthakar Mukku ko Anuj ke against manipulate na kar de.

Hats off to Aneri, GK and Rupali! Tomorrow's episode will be very very tough to watch.

When Anu talks about how we keep replaying the moment of grief again and again and how we sometimes refuse to let it go hits a spot in Anuj too. The way he looks at her with tears is not just his empathy for Anu but also a realization that he has been doing the same thing to himself reliving the moment he lost his parents and blaming himself for the accident and snatching Mukku's childhood.

I have realized over years the grief goes away. The memory in itself loses its power but our attachment to it is what causes more pain and suffering. We latch on to the memory so much that it becomes a part of us like a crutch we hold on to and sometimes having to let go of that crutch and stand on your own feet is scary but needed. 💫💜

A lot of guilt also accompanies when you decide to finally let go. To make yourself believe that you deserve happiness too is an uphill task. I now get why Anuj is extra humble and is hesitant to assert his right on his loved ones. He believes the only way there can be any redemption for him from his pain is to keep giving and not ask for anything in return. If Mukku is hurting so is Anuj. Infact he has made that pain almost his nest. Its going to be draining yet fulfilling for us to watch him heal and bring light into heart.

If Mukku is on meds like they show in precap, I want makers to normalize seeking professional help. PTSD cannot be cured with just love. It needs restructuring and reprogramming of mind and only a professional can do that.

As Mukku heals and truly forgives Anuj, we will witness a mirroring of healing taking place. Anu will be their safe place and eventually their home. I feel we are going to have intense emotional drama in the upcoming episodes.

Oh btw a lot of them on twitter shipping Mukku and Samar and feel they make a better pair. I am not sure if makers already have this seed in their mind or not.

Originally posted by: sunshine36

When Anu talks about how we keep replaying the moment of grief again and again and how we sometimes refuse to let it go hits a spot in Anuj too. The way he looks at her with tears is not just his empathy for Anu but also a realization that he has been doing the same thing to himself reliving the moment he lost his parents and blaming himself for the accident and snatching Mukku's childhood.

I have realized over years the grief goes away. The memory in itself loses its power but our attachment to it is what causes more pain and suffering. We latch on to the memory so much that it becomes a part of us like a crutch we hold on to and sometimes having to let go of that crutch and stand on your own feet is scary but needed. 💫💜

A lot of guilt also accompanies when you decide to finally let go. To make yourself believe that you deserve happiness too is an uphill task. I now get why Anuj is extra humble and is hesitant to assert his right on his loved ones. He believes the only way there can be any redemption for him from his pain is to keep giving and not ask for anything in return. If Mukku is hurting so is Anuj. Infact he has made that pain almost his nest. Its going to be draining yet fulfilling for us to watch him heal and bring light into heart.

If Mukku is on meds like they show in precap, I want makers to normalize seeking professional help. PTSD cannot be cured with just love. It needs restructuring and reprogramming of mind and only a professional can do that.

As Mukku heals and truly forgives Anuj, we will witness a mirroring of healing taking place. Anu will be their safe place and eventually their home. I feel we are going to have intense emotional drama in the upcoming episodes.

Oh btw a lot of them on twitter shipping Mukku and Samar and feel they make a better pair. I am not sure if makers already have this seed in their mind or not.

exactly, Anuj is holding on to the moment and reliving it again and again. Hence guilt has been mounded high enough that makes him feel unworthy of any happiness that may come his way.

They all are safe heaven for each other. They all will love and support each other unconditionally.

About Samar and Mukku, I don’t want them to be a pair. I don’t want any relationship between V and Anuj especially samdhi types… no way

Originally posted by: arya212002

Makers are hell bent on making Anuj 70’s ki heroine. Saare dukh dard sab iske sar phot diya😢
Again, they had to give reasons for estrangement na.. toh kuch na kuch ghamasan to karna hoga warna kaise justify karte😒

DKP uncle market se wholesale ke bhaav mein dukh kharid kar laye ho kya anuj ko dene ke liye🤣

something like that

aaj tumhara post dekhkar wo post yaad aa gaya yr😆

Originally posted by: arya212002

About Samar and Mukku, I don’t want them to be a pair. I don’t want any relationship between V and Anuj especially samdhi types… no way

Ditto, Arya, sahi kaha.

Infact I don't want anymore Shah connection.

I like today episode.

Regarding anuj it's fine every one do mistakes every has there bad phases problem writers ki bhi nahi hain it's viewers or us who has considered perfect guy in anuj for me he is still perfect atleast he accept his mistakes he takes the responsibility mukku is running from it I hope now anupma will make them face it and have great relationship.

Chalo trp thoda drop ka kuch acha asar hua they are focussing on right issues 🤗

Originally posted by: tanu90

First of all hugs to you dear sunshine from a fellow depression survivor! 🤗🤗🤗

I second you regarding the producers treatment of Anuj. Firstly I don't know how old is Mukku. The siblings did not meet each other for 10 years which means Mukku was married off rather early. Anuj does not seem to be the kind of guy who would marry off his sister early or just because she chose the wrong guy as her boyfriend (Akshay). May be I'm being too judgemental at this point of time. But I don't know..I don't like them guilt tripping Anuj. Waise hi bande ki life me kam trauma hai kya jo ek aur cheez ka guilt bhi de diya uske sir pe. Like Reetika mentioned parents ko arranged marriage set up me jab pata chalta hai ki the guy was abusive they tend to blame themselves for choosing the wrong guy. Yahaan par parents nahi hain toh Anuj ka guilt aur zyada badh gaya hai. To show anupama healing Anuj they could have tapped into his panic attacks too. The scenes between him and GK. She could have healed him from his survivor guilt. Ek aur cheez ka blame kyun dal diya uske sir pe! I am thankful yeh pura incident shah family ke saamne nahi hua. And I'm hoping against hope ki Vanraj iska fayda uthakar Mukku ko Anuj ke against manipulate na kar de.

Hats off to Aneri, GK and Rupali! Tomorrow's episode will be very very tough to watch.

in fact now it's making sense kyu wo mukku par jyada jor nahi dal pata

because according to him pehle parents chale gaye uske karan (but reality is like anu said insaan sirf zariya hota h baki jo hona hota h phr hokar rehta h)

phr akshay matter yaha bhi mukku ko dard mila(jabki yaha bhi wo apni jagah sahi tha yr koi bhi bhai yehi karega)

then wrong choice mukku ke husband ke liye( yaha bhi galti kabhi bhi kisi ki nahi hoti arranged marriage aur love marriage ki bhi problem yehi h)

to itna guilt jab koi lekar chalega to na to wo insaan saamne wale ko samjha payega aur apne hi guilt mein doobta chala jayega

aaj ye bhi samajh aaya ki mukku kyu pancake wali baat par itna gussa ho gayi because use anu se dikkat nahi h but use koi chahiye jo sirf uska ho properly

aur aaj gk ki us baat ka mtlb bhi proper samajh aaya ki anuj ki puri life ek guilt trip h😭

about healing issue in teeno ko healing ki need h yr jo inhe ek dusre se hi milegi

but mukku ko professional help ki bhi need h aur anuj ko bhi kafi had tak

and about shah family ke saamne nahi hua uske liye to main makers ko jitna shukriya karu kam h yr

thank god ye baat sirf kapadia's ke beech h

Thanks for the tag you guys. Will join you guys this afternoon today. I want to rant alot today but be right back with time. Cya

One thing is tomorrow will be the blast of emotions to swallow

Originally posted by: Kras1

yes noorie because parents nahi h issiliye uska guilt jyada ho gaya

in fact now it's making sense kyu wo mukku par jyada jor nahi dal pata

because according to him pehle parents chale gaye uske karan (but reality is like anu said insaan sirf zariya hota h baki jo hona hota h phr hokar rehta h)

phr akshay matter yaha bhi mukku ko dard mila(jabki yaha bhi wo apni jagah sahi tha yr koi bhi bhai yehi karega)

then wrong choice mukku ke husband ke liye( yaha bhi galti kabhi bhi kisi ki nahi hoti arranged marriage aur love marriage ki bhi problem yehi h)

to itna guilt jab koi lekar chalega to na to wo insaan saamne wale ko samjha payega aur apne hi guilt mein doobta chala jayega

aaj ye bhi samajh aaya ki mukku kyu pancake wali baat par itna gussa ho gayi because use anu se dikkat nahi h but use koi chahiye jo sirf uska ho properly

aur aaj gk ki us baat ka mtlb bhi proper samajh aaya ki anuj ki puri life ek guilt trip h😭

about healing issue in teeno ko healing ki need h yr jo inhe ek dusre se hi milegi

but mukku ko professional help ki bhi need h aur anuj ko bhi kafi had tak

and about shah family ke saamne nahi hua uske liye to main makers ko jitna shukriya karu kam h yr

thank god ye baat sirf kapadia's ke beech h

I agree Reetika. Healing ki zaroorat teeno ko hai. What I meant was ek aur cheez ka guilt nahi dalna tha Anuj pe. Healing ki zaroorat pehle bhi thi usko. Yeh abuse wala part bahut tricky hoga. Hope producers are able to do justice to it and they don't dramatize it unnecessarily. I'm somehow not happy with the way they have dealt with past issues, bahot sare loopholes waise hi chhod rakhe hain. Upar se anupama ke haathon Vanraj ko jab dekho tab glorify karte rehte hain. They have time and again pushed the mental abuse and verbal torture of 26 years under the carpet. Anupama khud usko achcha Insaan kehti rehti hai which hurts. No offense but Us actor ko zyada screen space mile isiliye MaAn ki office me bhi ghusa diya. Now I just hope they have not introduced the physical abuse part just to show him manipulating Mukku or something on those lines to bring the equation to Mukku plus Vanraj on one side and MaAn on the other side. And secondly with this track the focus again shifts away from MaAn. Woh bhi mujhe achcha nahi laga. I mean give them some time away from kands to bask in their love. Par nahi! Sorry for the rant!

Originally posted by: tanu90

I agree Reetika. Healing ki zaroorat teeno ko hai. What I meant was ek aur cheez ka guilt nahi dalna tha Anuj pe. Healing ki zaroorat pehle bhi thi usko. Yeh abuse wala part bahut tricky hoga. Hope producers are able to do justice to it and they don't dramatize it unnecessarily. I'm somehow not happy with the way they have dealt with past issues, bahot sare loopholes waise hi chhod rakhe hain. Upar se anupama ke haathon Vanraj ko jab dekho tab glorify karte rehte hain. They have time and again pushed the mental abuse and verbal torture of 26 years under the carpet. Anupama khud usko achcha Insaan kehti rehti hai which hurts. No offense but Us actor ko zyada screen space mile isiliye MaAn ki office me bhi ghusa diya. Now I just hope they have not introduced the physical abuse part just to show him manipulating Mukku or something on those lines to bring the equation to Mukku plus Vanraj on one side and MaAn on the other side. And secondly with this track the focus again shifts away from MaAn. Woh bhi mujhe achcha nahi laga. I mean give them some time away from kands to bask in their love. Par nahi! Sorry for the rant!

but ye show makers ka h let's see wo kya karte h

aur show ke mukable yaha phr bhi sahi h but let's see kya hota h