Priya expected more & Ram let her down :(

I think something that came across very clearly tonight was that Priya expected a lot more from Ram with regards to what happened. She knowingly or unknowingly thought he would support her and stand up for what is right. By this point in time she knows Ram is a decent guy and always has good intentions, and somewhere she has started believing that he knows right from wrong and as her husband, he will be there for her, like most other husbands are. However, he let her down. Now to hide the disappointment and hurt she feels, she keeps coming back to this marriage did not happen with our consent/it is a deal etc time and again because its the only way to protect herself. If she keeps saying that she feels she has no reason to expect anything from Ram and so she won’t feel hurt when he lets her down, because there are ultimately no expectations so no reason to feel the pain. Priya just goes into self preservation mode each time she is hurt because that’s all she knows. She can rely on herself and no one else and that is how she’s lived her life. It makes sense and it is understandable.

What Priya unfortunately doesn’t realise is that Ram’s ability to stand up for what is right, specially against his family/friends/loved ones, is a lot weaker than hers. I think back when Mr Sood got arrested, Ram admired the fact that Priya could stand up for what is right regardless of her relationship with the other person, even if its family, however he questioned his own ability to do so. He has a history with Vedika and I don’t know if he has actually introspected on where he places Vedika in his life now given Priya is his wife. I really liked how he acknowledged that he did make a mistake, he wanted Priya to openly talk about what she felt and that this marriage was his present and also important to him. I just don’t think Ram realizes how much emotional pain Priya has suffered in her life and how this makes it so very hard for her to trust or open up to anyone. Ram has had a slightly more privileged life and so I don’t think he realizes how quickly Priya retreats when she can sense someone will let her down or has let her down. He acknowledged he made a mistake, but saying sorry won’t be enough to heal Priya’s hurt 💔

Even though Vedika is going to be annoying as hell when she comes into the Kapoor household, i do think it is a good chance for Ram to re examine where he is at with his past and whether he can now find closure. Unless he can put that to rest, I think it will always be a burden he carries. Ram needs to sort out in his head that Vedika is no longer the person that he pines for, and if he can do that, maybe it will be a lot more genuine when he does fall in love/realise he is in love with Priya.

Again, the writing of Ram and Priya’s scenes is really on point. I don’t really care about the other tracks or characters in terms of writing and logic, but with Ram and Priya and building the foundations of their relationship, the writing is really good with the dialogues and conversations they are having. This was an arranged marriage and no one jumps into falling in love in one day so the basis to them actually having a real relationship with ups and downs is a nice transition to them ultimately falling in love, knowing each other’s strengths and flaws ❤️

Originally posted by: DeepShadow

I think something that came across very clearly tonight was that Priya expected a lot more from Ram with regards to what happened. She knowing or unknowingly thought he would support her and stand up for what is right. By this point she knows Ram is a decent guy and always has good intentions, and somewhere she has started believing that he knows right from wrong and as her husband, he will be there, like most other husbands are. However, he let her down. Now to hide the disappointment and hurt she feels, she keeps coming back to this marriage did not happen with our consent/it is a deal etc time and again because its the only way to protect herself. If she keeps saying that she feels she has no reason to expect anything from Ram and so she won’t feel hurt because there are ultimately no expectations so no reason to feel the pain. Priya just goes into self preservation mode each time she is hurt because that’s all she knows. She can rely on herself and no one else and that is how she’s lived her life. It makes sense and it is understandable.

What Priya unfortunately doesn’t realise is that Ram’s ability to stand up for what is right, specially against his family/friends/loved ones, is a lot weaker than hers. I think back when Mr Sood got arrested, Ram admired the fact that Priya could stand up for what is right regardless of her relationship with the other person, even if its family, however he questioned his own ability to do so. He has a history with Vedika and I don’t know if he has actually introspected on where he places Vedika in his life now given Priya is his wife. I really liked how he acknowledged that he did make a mistake, he wanted Priya to openly talk about what she felt and that this marriage was his present and also important to him. I just don’t think Ran realizes how much emotional pain Priya has suffered in her life and how this makes it so very hard for her to trust or open up to anyone. Ram has had a slightly more privileged life and so I don’t think he realizes how quickly Priya retreats when can sense someone will let her down or has let her down. He acknowledged he made a mistake, but saying sorry won’t be enough to heal Priya’s hurt.

Even though Vedika is going to be annoying as hell when she comes into the Kapoor household, i do think it is a good chance for Ram to re examine where he is at with his past and whether he can now find closure. Unless he can put that to rest, I think it will always be a burden he carries. Ram needs to sort out in his head that Vedika is no longer the person that he pines for, and if he can do that, maybe it will be a lot more genuine when he does fall in love/realise he is in love with Priya.

Again, the writing of Ram and Priya’s scenes is really on point. I don’t really care about the other tracks or characters in terms of writing and logic, but with Ram and Priya and building the foundations of their relationship, the writing is really good with the dialogues and conversations they are having. This was an arranged marriage and no one jumps into falling in love in one day so the basis to them actually having a real relationship with ups and downs is a nice transition to them ultimately falling in love, knowing each other’s strengths and flaws ❤️

👏👏👏👏 everything I felt today while watching the episode and more.❤️❤️

And I agree the writing of these characters are very good. The way they have showed two different people having totally different reactions to similar situations and them coming together to make a marriage 👏. The stark difference showed between them when dealing with disappointment is very realistic and relatable to many people. Their journey together will be beautiful to watch

Ram is not given to know how much pain in Priya's soul. He had let her down very much. But the consolation is that he unconsciously and long ago accepted his wife as a part of himself. Both of them really feel bad about what happened. Ram didn’t want to let his wife down, he just doesn’t know how to be like her yet. Push back and defend when needed. Priya will teach him. And Ram is almost ready. He literally shouts: "Claim your rights to me, admit that you need me, admit that we need each other!" This does not happen if people do not understand each other, do not want to share pain, problems and their whole life.

PS This story makes me talk a lot, sorry. I'm torn from thoughts and feelings

Thankyou for this post👏

You have written everything that I thought after watching this episode. Ram really needs to introspect. Because in the end it's actions that matter more than words. Just saying that Priya is his wife won't be enough. He should prove it by standing by the right thing and pointing the wrong this be it against his own mother, bro, sis, ex lover etc.

And about the show writing of RaYa scenes, I completely agree. It's really nice. How actually arrange Marriages are, gradual progression of storiy with conflict of opinions. Not that they fell in love at first sight. Priya's emotions were very realistic today. Just loved the last scene. Bakery one. Both Raya's acting, dialogues, everything.

Just related with Priya more

This is such a beautiful perspective and very true. I loved yesterday's episode, it's like the real drama has just started now. It is like peeling onion and reaching the crux of the matter. They both are obviously different and would love to see how they try to keep their relationship. You are right, Priya is very hurt and she is playing defensive. It's like if I don't expect, I won't get hurt too. I also found it amazing how Ram tried to coax her out of it. 🥰

Loved your analysis ❤️

Another point I observed is when Ram was kind of intoxicated, he confessed to Priya how he was sacred of sharing his love after marriage. It should not make his family insecure.

I think Priya somewhere understands his dilemma of having to choose between old and new relations , therefore does not want to hold him accountable and make it difficult for both of them.

Priya's thinking yesterday was like, If Ram's problem is choosing between her and old relations, then let Ram hold on to his old relations , and let her go back to the acceptance of being alone in her lowest .

She took Ram's silence during the entire drama ,as him choosing old relations over her.

What she does not know is, Ram wanted to be on her side, but could not bring himself to speak against his people in such a short span of time.

To be able to do that, he requires support, a little push in the form of Priya getting angry on him, asking him explicitly to stand by her. Because if she asks, it would be easy for Ram to take that one difficult step.

But instead if Priya completely withdraws and goes into a shell and becomes indifferent , it would complicate their relationship.

This is what Ram was trying make Priya understand yesterday, but I don't think he conveyed it very effectively.

It felt more like he wanted Priya to accept that he was important enough for her to be hurt by him. Of course Priya will not be able to publicly accept this, after so much drama, disappointment and most importantly guilt.

I think either Ram should let Priya live her life independently the way she wants to or if he time and again insists that he cares for her, he wants to be there for her, and she is as important to him as his old relations then his actions should match his words.

(Because this is not the first time. He could not stop the prenup against his Mom's wishes even though his heart did not want it, during marriage he had left her midway because it was about Shubham. Same goes with annulment papers. His heart did not want it, but he could not go against mom. Every damage cannot be undone later , like the way he burnt Prenup papers )

Priya on her part, should work on her ability to pinpoint her disappointment to a specific issue instead of generalizing it to " All men are the same".

If she says this dialogue, after Ram-Vedika issue pops out dramatically, it would make sense. But yesterday she could have retreated till the point of " I am always alone. I will have to fight my battles alone" .

Till there it was relatable , but she retreated light years back to "All men are the same" which was quite unnecessary 😂

If so many backward steps for yesterday's incident, then I am scared what will happen of her when Ram-Vedika issue will be manipulated and blown out of proportion.

Originally posted by: vaidharbhi95

Loved your analysis ❤️

Another point I observed is when Ram was kind of intoxicated, he confessed to Priya how he was sacred of sharing his love after marriage. It should not make his family insecure.

I think Priya somewhere understands his dilemma of having to choose between old and new relations , therefore does not want to hold him accountable and make it difficult for both of them.

Priya's thinking yesterday was like, If Ram's problem is choosing between her and old relations, then let Ram hold on to his old relations , and let her go back to the acceptance of being alone in her lowest .

She took Ram's silence during the entire drama ,as him choosing old relations over her.

What she does not know is, Ram wanted to be on her side, but could not bring himself to speak against his people in such a short span of time.

To be able to do that, he requires support, a little push in the form of Priya getting angry on him, asking him explicitly to stand by her. Because if she asks, it would be easy for Ram to take that one difficult step.

But instead if Priya completely withdraws and goes into a shell and becomes indifferent , it would complicate their relationship.

This is what Ram was trying make Priya understand yesterday, but I don't think he conveyed it very effectively.

It felt more like he wanted Priya to accept that he was important enough for her to be hurt by him. Of course Priya will not be able to publicly accept this, after so much drama, disappointment and most importantly guilt.

I think either Ram should let Priya live her life independently the way she wants to or if he time and again insists that he cares for her, he wants to be there for her, and she is as important to him as his old relations then his actions should match his words.

(Because this is not the first time. He could not stop the prenup against his Mom's wishes even though his heart did not want it, during marriage he had left her midway because it was about Shubham. Same goes with annulment papers. His heart did not want it, but he could not go against mom. Every damage cannot be undone later , like the way he burnt Prenup papers )

Priya on her part, should work on her ability to pinpoint her disappointment to a specific issue instead of generalizing it to " All men are the same".

If she says this dialogue, after Ram-Vedika issue pops out dramatically, it would make sense. But yesterday she could have retreated till the point of " I am always alone. I will have to fight my battles alone" .

Till there it was relatable , but she retreated light years back to "All men are the same" which was quite unnecessary 😂

If so many backward steps for yesterday's incident, then I am scared what will happen of her when Ram-Vedika issue will be manipulated and blown out of proportion.

^ I second every word 100%. Ram really is looking for any hint from Priya that indicates she has accepted him as her husband and exerts her rights on him, but Priya is so scared to do that because she feels Ram's love for his family/friends is above and beyond anything, so she has no right to be chosen above them/enforce her rights as a wife. That comment about Ram needing a push from her to take a stand is very true, but then Priya's attitude of coming close at times and then distancing herself other times also leaves Ram confused. At the end of the day how can he stand up against people in his life he has known for years when the person he wants to do it for is not even willing to completely embrace him and their relationship? 😳

The funny thing is they BOTH are right and wrong in their own ways. And totally agreed on the fact that Ram needs to somewhat grow a spine for himself and not let other people make his life decisions. If he wants Priya to be his in the true sense, then he needs to take time to really understand her and her needs. Priya on other hand definitely should open up a bit more and give Ram and their relationship a chance. They both need to look inwards and understand where they are going wrong and if anything, this recent drama is good way to do that. There is obviously a lot of care and respect for each other, but to maybe move onto love, they both need to find ways to be vulnerable and be brave enough to take risks. Nothing will really change if they don't undo old patterns of behaviours.

Well lets see how long it takes! 🤔

I think the nub of the issue is that Ram is not behaving in the least like a 38 year old selfmade businessman, who has withstood the loss of both parents, an indifferent step family (he knows it!), a financial setback, rejection by the so-called love of his life, and all the challenges that come in building a business empire. All these life experiences would normally make a person mature, able to judge people & emotionally strong. Instead they seemed to have turned him into a naive gullible sentimental softie! That is the weakest part of the writing.

She definitely expected more from him, she had reasons too for that, not just as a wife but since she believes in his goodness a lot. For example when Sid shouted I love you to Sandy to distract them all, Ram got so angry with him and made him apologize to her. Without any word from Sandy, he trusted in her innocence completely. But such faith and assertion from Ram was lacking in this situation, when Akshay was as innocent, naive and as much family as Sandy is. So obviously Priya was disappointed, that Ram didn't say anything in support of Akshay, or condemn Vedhika for pulling a dirty stunt like this. Vedhika was showing off in an annoying manner that obviously made her question her importance in his life.

And when Priya gets to know about Ram's past love, she'll pull off from Ram further, to save herself from getting hurt. It's definitely gonna be a bumpy ride for PriRa especially Priya, in the upcoming episodes

Originally posted by: Sudharies

She definitely expected more from him, she had reasons too for that, not just as a wife but since she believes in his goodness a lot. For example when Sid shouted I love you to Sandy to distract them all, Ram got so angry with him and made him apologize to her. Without any word from Sandy, he trusted in her innocence completely. But such faith and assertion from Ram was lacking in this situation, when Akshay was as innocent, naive and as much family as Sandy is. So obviously Priya was disappointed, that Ram didn't say anything in support of Akshay, or condemn Vedhika for pulling a dirty stunt like this. Vedhika was showing off in an annoying manner that obviously made her question her importance in his life. 👏👏👏👏👏well said my friend

And when Priya gets to know about Ram's past love, she'll pull off from Ram further, to save herself from getting hurt. It's definitely gonna be a bumpy ride for PriRa especially Priya, in the upcoming episodes

See that's where I have a different opinion maybe I'm wrong but I think priya's reaction to their past will be not exactly aggressive. I think she will be upset even feel off too but she is very levelheaded and she herself didn't wanted to know about his past affairs so she will be collected at first and will talk it out with ram. But the problem will arise in the small matters when vedika will try to come off as a superior to Priya in Ram's matters like she did in cafe and hotel.

Before now priya always let it be thinking vedika is a close family friend they know each other better but after knowing that she's an ex 😈 that's a different ballgame altogether. Then she will let go of her cool and composed persona and her wifey avatar will come out. She will be jealous of vedika and angry at Ram. And I think all this will push her to realise that she has feeling for Ram as a wife and not only as a friend or companion.

But yes they will be stretching it a little more than necessary as nox is tested covid positive.

And also trp baits are a necessary input🤷