Extreme reactions from us viewers/fans?????

For the past 2 weeks I ve been reading the posts & discussions in the forum reg this ONS track. 1st I see the word emotional cheating being bandied around. People are like how can he ve drinks with his ex. How can he let her hug him. How can he bring her to his house etc etc. In real life no matter the # of yrs, a person doesn't exactly forget his 1st love. Hell I still remember the likes & dislikes of my school crush & it was not even love. Here Raghav had just come to know that Esha is being abused badly by her ex husband. He actually saw it with his own eyes so the impact is more. She is in trauma. On top of that he learns that she broke up with him only due to the threat by her father which means she is no longer the gold digger that he had imagined & not guilty in his eyes. She is a victim 1st at the hands of her father then her abusive husband. In such a situation any decent person will sympathize with her & try to help her. Pallavi herself helped Esha by making her stay in their house. So questioning why Raghav was soft towards Esha is really silly. This was a woman he once loved truly & wanted 2 marry. When she hugged him or wanted to ve drinks Raghav or any person in that situation will agree. If you dont view it via the lens of ex lover all his actions are in line with a guy who feels sorry for a woman & is trying to help her deal with PTSD.

Reg the actual act of sex, Raghav still doesn't remember what happened that night. All he remembers is blanking out & waking up the next day naked. He doesn't remember hugging or kissing Esha. Which makes me believe that nothing actually happened & Esha simply undressed him & tried to initiate sex but Raghav was passed out & did not respond. All of Raghav's actions of guilt, self-revulsion etc is based on his assumption that he had sex though he actually cannot remember anything.

Coming to gaslighting Pallavi, if he had allowed her to get closer fans would ve still abused him. How dare he romances with Pallavi as if nothing happened. How could he! So its clearly a case of damned if he does & damned if he doesn't.

Mind u he is definitely not innocent. There are many instances where he was wrong. 1st he hid from Pallavi that Esha was his ex. That is a huge red flag. If he hates her why did he hide it from Pallavi. He had confided about his past & father's death to Pallavi then why not this. Next mistake was hiding the ILU text from Esha. That itself should ve been a warning to Raghav that Esha still loves him. So he should ve maintained a distance from her. Even in Warangal Esha confessed that she still loves him. Again this should ve warned Raghav to be careful with her. He knows Esha in & out. He knows she is very bold & goes for what she wants. So while he joined her for drinks, he should ve kept it to minimum, then made her sleep on the bed & himself sleep on a chair or couch. Here he cannot justify his actions.

I can actually understand him not confessing the truth to Pallavi coz this is what 90% of the people do in real life. After that all his actions ve been literally digging himself into a hole. 1st he should ve found a safe accommodation for Esha & move her out of RR mansion. 2nd he is rich & powerful. He could ve easily chucked Sumit in jail ensuring Esha's safety. End of story. This should ve solved most of the issues. Instead CVs showed him being extremely stupid & thus antagonizing the viewers towards him.

Where I am absolutely frustrated with Raghav & want to hit him on the head is his behavior post Pallavi's exit from RR. Hounding her all the time, not giving her space & time to think, stalking her, doing emotional blackmail by sleeping outside her house. Now this whole coal walk. Through all these actions he is behaving more like a kid whose favorite toy has been taken away & hence throwing tantrums to get it back.

What I would ve liked is for Raghav to whole-heartedly apologize to Pallavi. Next without telling the dirty truth imply indirectly to her family that he really broke her trust & request them not to interfere. And help Pallavi with her ambitions indirectly through the Deshmukhs & Jaya amma. If he had done this I would ve believed that he really loves Pallavi & wants her to be happy. Instead all we got the past 3 days is OTT drama & crying from Raghav 🤔

Regarding not wanting Pallavi to get back with Raghav. Who are we to judge. People do crazy things out of love. In real life there are are couples who give a 2nd chance. Assuming that it was only once & not intentional its ok for Pallavi to forgive Raghav. Its her choice & she should not be judged as being weak or doormat. Believe me it takes more strength to forgive than to hold grudge. It might take a long time for R to win back P's trust but it might eventually happen. I am equally ok if Pallavi chooses not to forgive R & move on without him. Again its fine as long as she achieves her dreams & is happy.

At the end of the day its not a Profit & Loss account where u credit & debit what each person did. In love there is no right or wrong choice. As long as you are not cheating anyone, not hurting or harming anyone, as long as you are honest to urself & ur partner & u are happy that's what really matters.

There are many things which I wish the CVs had done instead of this 70s melodrama which they are shoving down our throats but then subtlety & Indian TV are oxymorons. Twain shall never meet 😒 I just hope they dont butcher Raghav's character further & show Pallavi following her dreams. That is the least minimum that I ve a right to expect as a fan!

Well said.. i too was not happy with emotional cheating term... i never felt wrong when both of them stayed together and pouring their heart out. First love cant be forgotten (whether the person is good or bad)... as u said i too remember many things abt my ex... and still fresh in my memory..eventhough he was not a good person..

Hi thanks for the objective post. And I agree with most of the things you have mentioned in your post. Will just add a couple of things...

Raghav needs to give Pallavi a little space but knowing his character, I can still see why he's not able to do that. He is stupid to take things to extreme. But he did this even earlier when he was worried for his business... "Gaav jaana padega". He's an emotional mess.

Besides it's not if he tries to placate or not... He will anyways be blamed.

I also don't think his character is being butchered. He's always someone who played on defenses and escapism. So even though he was absolutely wrong in hiding Esha's ILU and his conflicting reactions, it was the stubborn him who was trying to deflect from an unsettling confrontation between him and Pallavi. A very unheard habit which eventually would have formed a dent between him and Pallavi. So whatever is happening now, would have eventually happened maybe in another situation. Bottom line is he needs to learn to respect her faith and instill trust in his relationship.

I am mostly certain that nothing happened but if it did, it was abuse and I hope it's addressed.

Originally posted by: Sunaina612

Well said.. i too was not happy with emotional cheating term... i never felt wrong when both of them stayed together and pouring their heart out. First love cant be forgotten (whether the person is good or bad)... as u said i too remember many things abt my ex... and still fresh in my memory..eventhough he was not a good person..

When it comes to ex, its always a slippery slope. Its better to never ve any contact with ur ex. It always leads to a mess. A clean break is the ideal solution. In Raghav's case its very tricky where u ve to work with ur ex. I ve known friends & colleagues who were in similar situation. In each case they requested & moved to another project/location or in some extreme cases even resign & join another company. You just cant completely erase all the feelings & emotions. Believe me, even in cases where the other person broke up I ve seen people still ve lingering feelings for him/her. That's why they say "Out of sight Out of Mind". Raghav was initially correct in cancelling the deal. That would ve been best for everyone!

Originally posted by: euphoric

Hi thanks for the objective post. And I agree with most of the things you have mentioned in your post. Will just add a couple of things...

Raghav needs to give Pallavi a little space but knowing his character, I can still see why he's not able to do that. He is stupid to take things to extreme. But he did this even earlier when he was worried for his business... "Gaav jaana padega". He's an emotional mess.

Besides it's not if he tries to placate or not... He will anyways be blamed.

I also don't think his character is being butchered. He's always someone who played on defenses and escapism. So even though he was absolutely wrong in hiding Esha's ILU and his conflicting reactions, it was the stubborn him who was trying to deflect from an unsettling confrontation between him and Pallavi. A very unheard habit which eventually would have formed a dent between him and Pallavi. So whatever is happening now, would have eventually happened maybe in another situation. Bottom line is he needs to learn to respect her faith and instill trust in his relationship.

I am mostly certain that nothing happened but if it did, it was abuse and I hope it's addressed.

I guess his extreme reactions stem from his fear of abandonment. Also I would blame his mom for his emotional imbalance. Yes I understand her anger but by always blaming Raghav for every single wrong doing without even listening to his side of the story she has made him a complete emotional wreck who invariably hits the panic button everytime there is an issue in his personal life. While he is shown to be mostly calm in his professional life, he never thinks or waits during a crisis in his personal life. He never shows patience or maturity while handling such situations. Farhad pointed this out many times during his fight with Pallavi. Pallavi was the only stable influence in his life who balanced out his impulsiveness & self destructive actions. Sadly with her now on the other side Raghav has become completed unbalanced & psychotic 😒

Originally posted by: Angels11

I guess his extreme reactions stem from his fear of abandonment. Also I would blame his mom for his emotional imbalance. Yes I understand her anger but by always blaming Raghav for every single wrong doing without even listening to his side of the story she has made him a complete emotional wreck who invariably hits the panic button everytime there is an issue in his personal life. While he is shown to be mostly calm in his professional life, he never thinks or waits during a crisis in his personal life. He never shows patience or maturity while handling such situations. Farhad pointed this out many times during his fight with Pallavi. Pallavi was the only stable influence in his life who balanced out his impulsiveness & self destructive actions. Sadly with her now on the other side Raghav has become completed unbalanced & psychotic 😒

Isn't it why he donned up the Don persona? To ensure no one crosses his business ambitions and take advantage of his vulnerabilities he reigned with the leash of terror. That way he kept things under his thumb. No one dared to cross his path, disobey him or slight him. People called him a beast and he put on a facade of the devil, threatening doom for anyone who challenged his authority.

His abandonment by his mother at 17 forced the young adult to become the man overnight. Shouldering the burden of twin murders no one acknowledged the death of the child inside him. His scars bleed with slightest abrasion.

However, he's well aware that this strategy can't work with personal equations. So he tries too hard which comes across as pushy and pestering. The more he tries, the more blunders he creates.

In all this emotional mess, Pallavi is the only one who can leash the beast in him. She was the first one to trust and accept him. She's his anchor, just like he's her shore.

Originally posted by: euphoric

Isn't it why he donned up the Don persona? To ensure no one crosses his business ambitions and take advantage of his vulnerabilities he reigned with the leash of terror. That way he kept things under his thumb. No one dared to cross his path, disobey him or slight him. People called him a beast and he put on a facade of the devil, threatening doom for anyone who challenged his authority.

His abandonment by his mother at 17 forced the young adult to become the man overnight. Shouldering the burden of twin murders no one acknowledged the death of the child inside him. His scars bleed with slightest abrasion.

However, he's well aware that this strategy can't work with personal equations. So he tries too hard which comes across as pushy and pestering. The more he tries, the more blunders he creates.

In all this emotional mess, Pallavi is the only one who can leash the beast in him. She was the first one to trust and accept him. She's his anchor, just like he's her shore.

I wish Raghav had a friend u know some1 u can vent out to, rant at. Somehow who will pat your shoulders or kick ur ass. It just highlights how truly lonely Raghav is. Pallavi at least has Krishna, kaka, Aayi. Raghav has none to advise or guide him.