NiNi melodrama starts!

So as expected we got some drama as an eye opener for bk gang about their behavior towards Ashwini.

The rude behavior was a plan n shivani-mohit were included.

Its so sad to see how Ashwini has literally been relegated to a wall flower in this household.

And bk today when asked the tough questions has tried to wash her hands off saying ask Ninad not me! 🙄

And ninad has no answers so he's just giving glares n growls.

Pp as usual is a waste of space but we got 3 occasions of some shade to pp by virat, Shivani n samrat. Virat told pp to focus on samrat rather than him, shivani was like shut up b**ch and samrat says- sai has won over everyone with the actual unsaid subtext being - you are a self centered pompous psycho.

But ninad has today stated that he does not feel anything for Ashwini and doesn't wish to ever remember his anniversary. He is basically stating that he doesn't value Ashwini or his marriage in the slightest.

I shudder to think how broken Ashwini feels.

In precap virat is getting really senti n saying why did you bring me in the world...well if i have to say it crudely- unfortunately theres unplanned mistakes all the time ACP saab 🙈

But on a less dark and more empathetic note, I really dont see why they should be forced to nibhao a dead relationship. Until ninad said what he did, it was ok to probe n raise the questions that have been sidelined for years. The questions needed to be asked. But if ninads response is that he doesn't care, hes simply fulfilling an obligation unwillingly, then they should just divorce each other n be happy rather than be forced to celebrate an anniversary and rekindle something thats dead!

Ashwini deserves better. She has tolerated enough. Enough to the point that now people are eventually going to be blaming her for not saying anything n voicing her displeasure. So its about time to live the rest of her life with dignity.

Sai and Virat have made emotional pleas but ultimately even if one of the 2 people concerned is completely shutting the door by saying that he cares 2 hoots, he feels nothing then thats it. Itd be a greater disservice to Ashwini to emotionally manipulate him into living a lie with her and faking pity love/ pity respect.

I know the eventual narrative is gonna go back to being- oh he does love Ashwini but its buried under years of habit of treating her badly. But thats just ridiculous. Because the makers never gave us even a single legit tender moment in between the squabbles n the bitterness. The only side hug Ashwini-Ninad shared was also pretense, staged by ninad n his vahini.

The vibe of ninad bhawani is really not of devar-vahini. Yes he is like a subordinate. But they also have this weird incestuous type relationship where all ninad can think about is vahini and bk also picks ninad first. Omi is a vahini bhakt too but as we have seen in a few scenes, he holds his wife on a pedestal. Sar aakhon pe bitha rakha hai baiko ko.

CN people have obviously held back from mentioning the incest type dynamic because it makes everyone uncomfortable and cringe because the subtext of a more than BIL-SIL equation is very disturbing n kinda taboo too. Obviously neither itv nor society in general is progressive enough to ask ninad bhavani if they ever had a fling i.e. "physical relationship" too or if its just emotional infidelity. But none of this will be addressed on the show. They will just brush it away as "respect" and blind devotion to his SIL.

We will get sudden hruday parivartan of Ninad and magical happily ever after for NiNi because they will shove the idea that there was love there, it just needed to be "rekindled". Its not easy to look past 30 + years of bitterness.

I'm just sad that a great potential parallel track of Ashwini becoming something more than just a wallflower n somebody's mother or wife has been completely wasted.

P.s. if they are married for 37 years, for Virat to be like 25-26 years of age Virat had to have been conceived only after 9-10 years of marriage. If not, then Virat is like somewhere around 35-36 years old which then makes his equation with an 18 yo girl a little bit creepy. I'm conservative like that. What to do. As long as their MAX age difference was 10 years i was ok- even thats a lot. In my head their age difference was 6 years.

And if virat is 35, Samrat, shivani are all ancient. 🙈 Dear lord.

Do makers never watch their show or listen to their own dialogues.

You covered all the points🤩

This episode was an eye opener for us too that this is ghum , Zillat rules and no one can remain too sweet for a long time 🤣

Ashwinis condition in that house is nothing more than a free servant . Was glad Virat accepted that even though he saw his mom being mistreated he never spoke up👍🏼

Precap seemed silly. Hopefully the episode comes out differently. Why celebrate something when Ninand doesn't even want to acknowledge his marriage. What are Virat and Sai going to achieve by celebrating the anniversary using emotional blackmail🤔. Hope they back off and let them resolve their issues since it's finally raised infront of everyone.

Edited my post to add a P.S. too.

I dunno why but too much of an age difference kinda bothers me. It seems just weird to me. Honestly to be fair pyaar hai toh hai, but I'm really not mature enough to understand that kinda love. 8-10 years tak thik hai but 18-20 years is a whole different generation.

Originally posted by: Nja91

Edited my post to add a P.S. too.

I dunno why but too much of an age difference kinda bothers me. It seems just weird to me. Honestly to be fair pyaar hai toh hai, but I'm really not mature enough to understand that kinda love. 8-10 years tak thik hai but 18-20 years is a whole different generation.

I don't think they had virat just the year after marriage 😆..may be some years later 😆..age gap is not an issue always.. Depends If both share a deep level of love and understanding for each other...lets see how sairat overcome their age barriers..

But I don't get it what could be the actual reason for Ninad's hatred towards Ashwini 🤔..yes I really think she should walk out of this marriage pursue her dream..Her son is almost settled in his life.. Why she is stuck here..

I actually liked the pre cap. Children of troubled marriages often end up feeling like they are the reason. In their own dumb way, they bring up these issues. Celebrating one anniversary is not going to help their marriage it's too simplistic. We keep talking about Virat's patriachical influence, this addresses it.

However, however.😈...if Virat continues to listen to Pakhi ..how different is he? I hope he remembers these bhaari bharkam dialogues when Sai and he have a disagreement.

Originally posted by: scarlett22

I actually liked the pre cap. Children of troubled marriages often end up feeling like they are the reason. In their own dumb way, they bring up these issues. Celebrating one anniversary is not going to help their marriage it's too simplistic. We keep talking about Virat's patriachical influence, this addresses it.

However, however.😈...if Virat continues to listen to Pakhi ..how different is he? I hope he remembers these bhaari bharkam dialogues when Sai and he have a disagreement.

He wont. Makers wont let him. Its all lip service. When its his turn - he will always get provoked. Its the tragic reality.

Originally posted by: Nja91

So as expected we got some drama as an eye opener for bk gang about their behavior towards Ashwini.

The rude behavior was a plan n shivani-mohit were included.

Its so sad to see how Ashwini has literally been relegated to a wall flower in this household.

And bk today when asked the tough questions has tried to wash her hands off saying ask Ninad not me! 🙄

And ninad has no answers so he's just giving glares n growls.

Pp as usual is a waste of space but we got 3 occasions of some shade to pp by virat, Shivani n samrat. Virat told pp to focus on samrat rather than him, shivani was like shut up b**ch and samrat says- sai has won over everyone with the actual unsaid subtext being - you are a self centered pompous psycho.

But ninad has today stated that he does not feel anything for Ashwini and doesn't wish to ever remember his anniversary. He is basically stating that he doesn't value Ashwini or his marriage in the slightest.

I shudder to think how broken Ashwini feels.

In precap virat is getting really senti n saying why did you bring me in the world...well if i have to say it crudely- unfortunately theres unplanned mistakes all the time ACP saab 🙈

But on a less dark and more empathetic note, I really dont see why they should be forced to nibhao a dead relationship. Until ninad said what he did, it was ok to probe n raise the questions that have been sidelined for years. The questions needed to be asked. But if ninads response is that he doesn't care, hes simply fulfilling an obligation unwillingly, then they should just divorce each other n be happy rather than be forced to celebrate an anniversary and rekindle something thats dead!

Ashwini deserves better. She has tolerated enough. Enough to the point that now people are eventually going to be blaming her for not saying anything n voicing her displeasure. So its about time to live the rest of her life with dignity.

Sai and Virat have made emotional pleas but ultimately even if one of the 2 people concerned is completely shutting the door by saying that he cares 2 hoots, he feels nothing then thats it. Itd be a greater disservice to Ashwini to emotionally manipulate him into living a lie with her and faking pity love/ pity respect.

I know the eventual narrative is gonna go back to being- oh he does love Ashwini but its buried under years of habit of treating her badly. But thats just ridiculous. Because the makers never gave us even a single legit tender moment in between the squabbles n the bitterness. The only side hug Ashwini-Ninad shared was also pretense, staged by ninad n his vahini.

The vibe of ninad bhawani is really not of devar-vahini. Yes he is like a subordinate. But they also have this weird incestuous type relationship where all ninad can think about is vahini and bk also picks ninad first. Omi is a vahini bhakt too but as we have seen in a few scenes, he holds his wife on a pedestal. Sar aakhon pe bitha rakha hai baiko ko.

CN people have obviously held back from mentioning the incest type dynamic because it makes everyone uncomfortable and cringe because the subtext of a more than BIL-SIL equation is very disturbing n kinda taboo too. Obviously neither itv nor society in general is progressive enough to ask ninad bhavani if they ever had a fling i.e. "physical relationship" too or if its just emotional infidelity. But none of this will be addressed on the show. They will just brush it away as "respect" and blind devotion to his SIL.

We will get sudden hruday parivartan of Ninad and magical happily ever after for NiNi because they will shove the idea that there was love there, it just needed to be "rekindled". Its not easy to look past 30 + years of bitterness.

I'm just sad that a great potential parallel track of Ashwini becoming something more than just a wallflower n somebody's mother or wife has been completely wasted.

P.s. if they are married for 37 years, for Virat to be like 25-26 years of age Virat had to have been conceived only after 9-10 years of marriage. If not, then Virat is like somewhere around 35-36 years old which then makes his equation with an 18 yo girl a little bit creepy. I'm conservative like that. What to do. As long as their MAX age difference was 10 years i was ok- even thats a lot. In my head their age difference was 6 years.

And if virat is 35, Samrat, shivani are all ancient. 🙈 Dear lord.

Do makers never watch their show or listen to their own dialogues.

I felt the 37 years is too much .. itna bhi KD ko copy nahi karna tha … but virat can be born like 6-7 years of marriage so he’s 30 now .. Rono did look 36 ..

Virat has said many times you are not that younger than me to sai .. also he clearing Ips training last year and GC first posting .. makes him 28 -29 in 2020 ..

Unfortunately samrat ko 37 plus Kar Diya .. did sai see devi tai in photo

there are deep issues in this track .. I hope cvs deal with this sensibly .. and Sai pussy foots it nicely .. till sai makes a deeper inroad in ninad’s heart .. she cannot go so Seo and tell him to mend relationship with wife ..

sometime issues are incompatibility.. and also lack of respect , love and attraction

I personally did not feel the affair Wala vibe in ninad n Kaku ..

It’s more control as a powerful female ..

maybe because patralekha is so on her face with her desire and longing for virat .. Kaku ka secret love dikha nahi in comparison

Kaku ka nahi but ninad ka "secret love" jaisa laga ....he has had moments where his tone/expression seems more tender than respectful.

Originally posted by: Nja91

Edited my post to add a P.S. too.

I dunno why but too much of an age difference kinda bothers me. It seems just weird to me. Honestly to be fair pyaar hai toh hai, but I'm really not mature enough to understand that kinda love. 8-10 years tak thik hai but 18-20 years is a whole different generation.

I think it's one of the many things where writers forgot what they wrote and what it actually means 🤣. Let's continue with Virat as 27-28😆

How did they come up with 37?! I thought its more natural to go for a more round number like 30 or a milestone number like 25. But these guys decided on 37!