Sai’s Mistakes

Before going ahead and reading this post let me make one thing clear. (Which is quite long but hopefully a interesting one 😆)

I started watching Ghum after I caught a random scene on TV. It was Ashwini and Sai In the kitchen after the Alta track Episode 103 to be exact. They both struck a chord with me. Different saas bahu who were more mother daughter than the itv serials cliched versions. Loved Sai and her moofat nature!

So I got hooked and ended up watching the previous episodes which is from the start including the yoga days love story! (Though now I rue that day for my decision to start watching ghum 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄😂)

At first I fell in love with Virat character. Who was a refreshing ML from ITV and thought he thinks more with his heart than mind. (Yeah yeah I fell for him like most of you here too no need to judge!🤪)

So coming to my post title I wanted to know what do you think are Sai mistakes. I read quite a few posts here and in Twitter over a period of time that says Sai has also made mistakes. And I agree 💯 about that.

See my point being we are all humans and we make mistakes and learn from it. Hopefully Sai does it too.

One of the mistakes I find in Sai is she uses really harsh words that will pierce the other person’s heart. She knows the words that will hurt. In that heat of the moment she does loose her composure. So that’s fine. Because most of us do. But my problem has been that she never apologises or realises that her words can hurt the other person too.

Acting without thinking through the consequences her famous or not so famous impulsiveness.

She keeps harping about deal wali marriage (is another annoying dialogue for me) because she is a straight shooter, she could always ask Virat on his face if he considers the marriage a real one? If so what’s the deal he talked about on their wedding day? And why does he give so much importance to Pakhi more than her? When he does that she doesn’t feel it’s a real marriage and it’s a deal one. (Please don’t bring KD or the cvs do read my signature about Ghum CV!)

Sai can tell Virat to clear his stand about Pakhi and then she would consider his proposal. That’s a different thing Virat serves jelebhis 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

I have listed my three points that’s annoying me about the way sai behaves. You might agree or disagree.

I would like to have a healthy discussion. Because tbh I miss the old ghum where we were able to discuss Sairat. Now FD has become major Sai supporters like me 🤭😂 or Sairat shippers or Staunch Virat stans 😊

Mostly these days I get to read Virat’s mistakes posts more (yeah yeah I know he is making them in dozens🙈🤦🏻‍♀️😂) I thought for a change we can talk about Sai’s mistakes as well! And moreover I am bored out of my skull 🙈😂 and I would like to have some fun!
Please don’t fight and follow the rules of the forum. I don’t want the thread to get closed.

Tagging few whose posts I read regularly.

Others feel free to join in the discussion 😊

I guess many have soft spot for Sai for her age and the things she had to face in short period of time and the biggest issue of her life is the 'P' factor. If P was not in picture, 80% of her life problems would have gone. She is the reason Sai is not accepted in the family, she instigates everyone and as seen with ninad, would question anyone openly if she sees them supporting Sai even minutely. If P was not there, Sai would have been easily accepted in the house by the members. Other thing is her constant interference in SaiRat relationship. On her birthday night, Sai and Virat had good Confrontation, one of the rare times when they talk... As far as I remember, when he asks her about the presence of Sinhagad kila between them, she talks about presence of whole human in between, we could have had a good conversation, maybe somethings cleared and what we get is Pakhi didi standing on their room's door and claiming her right on Sai's husband and how her khwaishein remain unfulfilled because of him and her husband doesn't seem to refute that with full vigor. This has happened way too many times. Similar was pool incident, why can't he tell her directly about his past and be less ambiguous, why does he want to know about what she heard...

There is a lot of ambiguity in their relationship. When they are in good place, they are pati patni, when not sai uses this deal word. She can't shoot directly about P because she herself consent for deal marriage and ummeed mat rakhna dialogues. She tries indirectly only to be served by jalebis. She also gave up her right to be his wife in the saree kand (still not sure if that's still true but haven't heard pati patni dialogues from her post that). However, she did ask in Ladakh fight and vaada confrontation in front of family. That seems more of Virat's responsibility to clear her misunderstandings regarding Pakhi because he was the one who brought her into their equation, like it was Sai's responsibility to clear off Virat's misunderstandings and insecurities regarding Aniket, Ajinkya.

About being impulsive, she is bratty since day 1, it was actually irritating in GC when she used to misbehave with Virat. However, after coming to CN that's like her defence mechanism. Sometimes she tried to tone down her responses and people actually tried to walk over her just like they do with Ashwini, be it Virat, Pakhi or other Chavans. She does have her shares of mistakes, she feels bad for it too but then Virat's mistakes overpower hers. Happened on lunch fiasco, when she was being bratty to not disclose professor's name, Virat lost control. Devi tai's marriage, she was guilty seeing his missed calls, was ready to explain herself when she comes back home, but he didn't listen and threw her, bigger mistake hurting her self respect. This time too, anniversary fiasco and the words she used for him were not good but what he does in return is verbally thrash her, locks her up, calls her names, misbehaves, manhandles, team up with his ex, increasing her insecurities. His actions always overpowering her impulsive words is the key of their relationship and Sai never apologizing since she is already kind of punished for her mistakes by the time she gets into the mode or position to apologise.

Originally posted by: nikita05

I guess many have soft spot for Sai for her age and the things she had to face in short period of time and the biggest issue of her life is the 'P' factor. If P was not in picture, 80% of her life problems would have gone. She is the reason Sai is not accepted in the family, she instigates everyone and as seen with ninad, would question anyone openly if she sees them supporting Sai even minutely. If P was not there, Sai would have been easily accepted in the house by the members. Other thing is her constant interference in SaiRat relationship. On her birthday night, Sai and Virat had good Confrontation, one of the rare times when they talk... As far as I remember, when he asks her about the present of Sinhagad kila between them, she talks about presence of whole human in between, we could have had a good conversation, maybe somethings cleared and what we get is Pakhi didi standing on their room's door and claiming her right on Sai's husband and how her khwaishein remain unfulfilled because of him and her husband doesn't seem to refute that with full vigor. This has happened way too many times. Similar was pool incident, why can't he tell her directly about his past and be less ambiguous, why does he want to know about what she heard...

There is a lot of ambiguity in their relationship. When they are in good place, they are pati patni, when not sai uses this deal word. She can't shoot directly about P because she herself consent for deal marriage and ummeed mat rakhna dialogues. She tries indirectly only to be served by jalebis. She also gave up her right to be his wife in the saree kand (still not sure if that's still true but haven't heard pati patni dialogues from her post that). However, she did ask in Ladakh fight and vaada confrontation in front of family. That seems more of Virat's responsibility to clear her misunderstandings regarding Pakhi because he was the one who brought her into their equation, like it was Sai's responsibility to clear off Virat's misunderstandings and insecurities regarding Aniket, Ajinkya.

About being impulsive, she is bratty since day 1, it was actually irritating in GC when she used to misbehave with Virat. However, after coming to CN that's like her defence mechanism. Sometimes she tried to tone down her responses and people actually tried to walk over her just like they do with Ashwini, be it Virat, Pakhi or other Chavans. She does have her shares of mistakes, she feels bad for it too but then Virat's mistakes overpower hers. Happened on lunch fiasco, when she was being bratty to not disclose professor's name, Virat lost control. Devi tai's marriage, she was guilty seeing his missed calls, was ready to explain herself when she comes back home, but he didn't listen and threw her, bigger mistake hurting her self respect. This time too, anniversary fiasco and the words she used for him were not good but what he does in return is verbally thrash her, locks her up, calls her names, misbehaves, manhandles, team up with his ex, increasing her insecurities. His actions always overpowering her impulsive words is the key of their relationship and Sai never apologizing since she is already kind of punished for her mistakes by the time she gets into the mode or position to apologise.

I agree with you on all your points.

If Sai is not Sai with her attitude I think the CN family would eat her alive and she won’t be able survive I feel. I mean to listen to that kind of taunts on a daily basis will drain a person emotionally if the person is not a strong one like Sai.

Like everyone says Sai’s deeds are mistakes and Virat’s are gunaah. So the apology never comes. I wanted the apology part from Sai not for Virat or for Sairat relationship. I want it for Sai herself. I want her to grow into a better human and realise her mistakes too. Unless she realises it she won’t change right?

Impulsiveness of hers kind of puts her in danger as well. Like today’s precap just running out of the car. She needs to tone that down. But I guess it will come with age I guess.

Regarding the deal wali baath she brings it up all the time. She can tell him point blank look you have taken me up as responsibility if the equation has changed I want it in clear cut words not the jelebhis you serve. And put your bf out of our bedroom and keep her in one arm distance 🤭😂

Tbh the jelebhi they make Virat serve are so annoying it makes my head go 🤪

One thing I don’t understand is if Virat is not interested in Pakhi as he says why is it difficult for him to tell the same thing clearly to Sai. My truth and Pakhi’s truth are different. Who says that?

Started a thread for Sai’s mistakes and I am pointing out Virat’s🙈😂

I think both the characters are so connected we can’t talk without bringing the other.

Originally posted by: KBBofRCIBC

I agree with you on all your points.

If Sai is not Sai with her attitude I think the CN family would eat her alive and she won’t be able survive I feel. I mean to listen to that kind of taunts on a daily basis will drain a person emotionally if the person is not a strong one like Sai.

Like everyone says Sai’s deeds are mistakes and Virat’s are gunaah. So the apology never comes. I wanted the apology part from Sai not for Virat or for Sairat relationship. I want it for Sai herself. I want her to grow into a better human and realise her mistakes too. Unless she realises it she won’t change right?

Impulsiveness of hers kind of puts her in danger as well. Like today’s precap just running out of the car. She needs to tone that down. But I guess it will come with age I guess.

Regarding the deal wali baath she brings it up all the time. She can tell him point blank look you have taken me up as responsibility if the equation has changed I want it in clear cut words not the jelebhis you serve. And put your bf out of our bedroom and keep her in one arm distance 🤭😂

Tbh the jelebhi they make Virat serve are so annoying it makes my head go 🤪

One thing I don’t understand is if Virat is not interested in Pakhi as he says why is it difficult for him to tell the same thing clearly to Sai. My truth and Pakhi’s truth are different. Who says that?

Started a thread for Sai’s mistakes and I am pointing out Virat’s🙈😂

I think both the characters are so connected we can’t talk without bringing the other.

Sai without attitude= Ashwini...

They are gonna just stretch the show and this stupid Love triangle by serving these never ending jalebis till the time they have TRPs 🤷...

I think she has made her issues about pp very clear to virat and to everyone except Virat her insecurities are clearly visible. I feel like Virat by what he said in the beginning about deal marriage n pp being pyaari cheez and asking her why shes affected by pp wtc- has made Sai feel like she has no haq to question him as a wife. So that's why unlike a normal wife she cant really say- i dont like you talking to pp. But despite that as a straight talking person she has always made her displeasure obvious but Virat is too dense to see it or he sees it but brushes it away as Sai being stubborn/immature. By virtue of him being the older one, the one who set the terms for their marriage and being the "provider" in their relationship, their dynamic is not one where she can tell him- why do you give pp more importance than me etc...

She is flawed but her intent and motivations are always clear and something I can empathize with unlike virat where sometimes I can, but sometimes I just dont understand his reasoning.

Plus her age, her circumstances and core personality are all more reasons for her behavior.

Shes been nice to those that have been nice to her. She shows that she can be patient n understanding. For example with devi she shows just how compassionate she is, even Virat messed up recently but Sai has always dealt with devi beautifully.

Sai definitely needs to curb her temper and sometimes just walk away instead of wasting her breath but that will come with maturity. Right now shes the person that thinks walking away makes her weak or cowardly but with time she'll realize that she needs to pick her battles n not everything/everyone is worth the bandwith.

I feel like from earlier to now, she has softened her stance considerably....

Sai's biggest flaw is her impulsive nature.. She never thinks before acting ..She would just like jump into any conclusions without giving second thoughts ..And also she is extremely idealist.. Otherwise I don't see anything else to point out..😆

If she wasn't harsh or brash otherwise she will end up like typical submissive woman and it can be very hard to survive in cn household..

Even I get irritated how she always harping in deal marriage at every opportunity she gets.. But then again P*s unwarranted interference in their lives make her say all those things.. No wife would like to hear from another woman calling her husband betrayer or a cheat... No wife would tolerate her husband giving explanations to his ex for celebrating her birthday..

I can really understand her state of mind.. She is mostly like any other normal modern teen who loves to get things done in her own way.. Being the single child and raised by a single parent she hadn't seen the world as grey.. It's always black or white..Thats why the poor girl often gets into trouble.

She wants transparency in her relationships with Virat and she is right at her place ..

Sai's nature in impulsive and straightforwardness... and here her age and the way she brought up plays major role.... she is mufat as kaku says...

Sai and Virat charectors are so interlinked that we have bring other person somewhere or the other while talking about one.

She is broughtup by single parent and also have no relatives. She has independence to talk or do anything as she wishes. But she is brought with very good ethics and moral values. Practically, it doesn't matter how correct we are, there way to talk and behave in joint families. Children are not given much freedom of speech there. They have to follow some rules and behave in a particular way. They can't talk as they wish like in nuclear families where children can express their opinions and feelings freely. This is how Virat brought up. Never go against elders and always follow rules in general. When Sai entered the house, she faced rejection. She has to listen so many taunts and insults. So to overcome all those and survive in such environment where you are suppressed in each and everything, you have raise voice for yourself (all joint families will not be like that) which she did and also have to do. She did gave answers back and also she was rude when they were rude to her. She always has to interfere in each and everything and jumps into everything without thinking the danger involved in it( like amay scenario or running from vehicle like in precap) or repercussions of it like forcing her abha's senior to give his retirement without his father's knowledge or cancelling Virat's transfer... her intentions are always good but they can backfire also and can lead to big damage... for example if person in Virat place is not good person.... as once Virat said she can be jailed also.... or DIG sir also can do samething.... she was lucky here.. both were good and supportive to her....

Even though other person is rude and or not listening to her... she has use such words or say in certain way so that her saying stands out and other person will shut up instead of being rude... she doesn't need to give back always... sometimes she need to backoff instead of answering.... there is no use to say something to someone who is not even ready to listen to us.... she needs to put her battles wisely.... this is what Virat was telling her in early days of marriage.. she needs to change her way of speaking to Chavan's.... she is changed now compared to earlier days... she is tired down and dealing Chavan's wisely for example the scenes after her college function... Green dress...

When it comes to Virat..she can question him regarding his stance towards marriage and regarding Pakhi but sometimes in her anger and to hurt him... she speaks too much and insults his charector... like after amay scenario, she told he nothing when compared to her abha's toe nail, or him showing partiality in his duty, or recently also she demeaned him by telling he nothing infront of abha or something like that... I don't remember properly.... Virat might have behaved harshly sometimes and hurt her.... in all those times he treated her as his wife or partner and not as his responsibility which he taken because of his promise given to her father.... but as a person he is man of ethics and values and doesn't cross limits...... such words she used or wrong and she did not apologise till now... and also she has Said so many harsh words and cursed him during her father's death thinking he is reason.... she also did not apologise for that....

As many said... Sai also do mistake and use harsh words to hurt him but Virat does bigger mistakes where her Mistakes seen small..... so everyone neglects her mistake infront of his.... but she has to apologise for her mistakes even though bigger mistake is committed by other.... we don't even whether she realised her mistakes or not till now ot she neglected them... but I guess as she grows she will become better person ans learn from others...

If we observe, from compared to earlier days of marriage... Sai has toned down and Virat has started speaking or being firm when compared to earlier. They are on the way to bring balance between them.... He always spoke whatever may be when the situation comes that he may lose Sai or major thing regarding Sai... like her admission, ladakh track, ousting track, stopping Sai from leaving (here, he shut up up entire Chavan clan with single ✋).... from here Chavan's are always careful are doesn't taunt Sai infront of Virat... Ruby pendant and Saree scenario, Pakhi parents anniversary etc., he gave them back and took upon him and cleared his stance.... on Sai’s birthday he even tauned Pakhi infront of Chavan's. When he is normal and when it comes to Sai he will not back off. But as soon as he is hurt and angry... he doesn’t concentrate on anyone ot anything... only on his pain and hurt and acknowledged only words which are in his support at that time..... ofcourse Pakhi always uses this as her advantage to instigate everyone more.... he would gave reacted same way in all those instances even though it is not Pakhi and some other person using same words..... pakhi doesn't make any difference to him... but only and only Sai matters to him and his reactions will be based only on her actions.... like Sai's reactions will be based mostly Virat's actions.....

Regarding Vaada.... during that vaada track, when Virat is ready to speak she was not ready to listen and when she was ready to listen he was not ready to talk.... and as Vaada being USP of show..they will not clear it that easily or never clear completely 9n order to use in future to create new track......😆.. here Sai being mufat never asked him bluntly about Vaada and about his past... she should not let go of it when he is serving jilebis.. she should ask him to clarify clearly..... when comes to Virat, he is fearing that Sai will hurt more or misunderstand him more if he says everything clearly like in cafe incident, je doesn't want to hurt Sai by saying that Pakhi is still obsessed oh him.. it will be very uncomfortable to her to know that thing and he not even sure how she will react... he is fearing that the situation will become more worse... but what he is not realising is that the damage is already done....

Sorry I started with Sai and also went to Virat....

Sai bhi koi galti kar sakti aisa sochna bhi paap hai .

Originally posted by: KBBofRCIBC

Before going ahead and reading this post let me make one thing clear. (Which is quite long but hopefully a interesting one 😆)

I started watching Ghum after I caught a random scene on TV. It was Ashwini and Sai In the kitchen after the Alta track Episode 103 to be exact. They both struck a chord with me. Different saas bahu who were more mother daughter than the itv serials cliched versions. Loved Sai and her moofat nature!

So I got hooked and ended up watching the previous episodes which is from the start including the yoga days love story! (Though now I rue that day for my decision to start watching ghum 🤦🏻‍♀️🙄😂)

At first I fell in love with Virat character. Who was a refreshing ML from ITV and thought he thinks more with his heart than mind. (Yeah yeah I fell for him like most of you here too no need to judge!🤪)

So coming to my post title I wanted to know what do you think are Sai mistakes. I read quite a few posts here and in Twitter over a period of time that says Sai has also made mistakes. And I agree 💯 about that.

See my point being we are all humans and we make mistakes and learn from it. Hopefully Sai does it too.

One of the mistakes I find in Sai is she uses really harsh words that will pierce the other person’s heart. She knows the words that will hurt. In that heat of the moment she does loose her composure. So that’s fine. Because most of us do. But my problem has been that she never apologises or realises that her words can hurt the other person too.

Acting without thinking through the consequences her famous or not so famous impulsiveness.

She keeps harping about deal wali marriage (is another annoying dialogue for me) because she is a straight shooter, she could always ask Virat on his face if he considers the marriage a real one? If so what’s the deal he talked about on their wedding day? And why does he give so much importance to Pakhi more than her? When he does that she doesn’t feel it’s a real marriage and it’s a deal one. (Please don’t bring KD or the cvs do read my signature about Ghum CV!)

Sai can tell Virat to clear his stand about Pakhi and then she would consider his proposal. That’s a different thing Virat serves jelebhis 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

I have listed my three points that’s annoying me about the way sai behaves. You might agree or disagree.

I would like to have a healthy discussion. Because tbh I miss the old ghum where we were able to discuss Sairat. Now FD has become major Sai supporters like me 🤭😂 or Sairat shippers or Staunch Virat stans 😊

Mostly these days I get to read Virat’s mistakes posts more (yeah yeah I know he is making them in dozens🙈🤦🏻‍♀️😂) I thought for a change we can talk about Sai’s mistakes as well! And moreover I am bored out of my skull 🙈😂 and I would like to have some fun!
Please don’t fight and follow the rules of the forum. I don’t want the thread to get closed.

Tagging few whose posts I read regularly.

Others feel free to join in the discussion 😊

I agree with your points

Sai is barely nineteen and she hasn’t clue of interpersonal relationships at any front .. she talks of her father but her father is her life giver .. his blood ran in her veins .. your parents will adjust to you no matter what ..

Isn’t ashwini doing the same with virat ..

Sai has not seen husband wife relationships .. the amount of compromise it has to go through .. she has no idea what her husband needs from her in the marriage..

Has it ever occurred to her what will virat get at the prime of his youth to agree to a celibate life for 5 years to make her a doctor ., is it right on her part to give back nothing to virat .. after she leaves him .. she’s still 23 -24 .. but virat will be in his thirties .. and why should the family agree to a celibate life for their young son

Don’t ninad , ashwini deserve grandkids . So by repeatedly saying contract marriage she makes things unpleasant and unpalatable for all ..

Originally posted by: msin

I agree with your points

Sai is barely nineteen and she hasn’t clue of interpersonal relationships at any front .. she talks of her father but her father is her life giver .. his blood ran in her veins .. your parents will adjust to you no matter what ..

Isn’t ashwini doing the same with virat ..

Sai has not seen husband wife relationships .. the amount of compromise it has to go through .. she has no idea what her husband needs from her in the marriage..

Has it ever occurred to her what will virat get at the prime of his youth to agree to a celibate life for 5 years to make her a doctor ., is it right on her part to give back nothing to virat .. after she leaves him .. she’s still 23 -24 .. but virat will be in his thirties .. and why should the family agree to a celibate life for their young son

Don’t ninad , ashwini deserve grandkids . So by repeatedly saying contract marriage she makes things unpleasant and unpalatable for all ..

@bold1: why would Sai think that when she already knows that he has taken an oath of celibacy for Pakhi.

@bold2: having kids or not is a couple's personal decision. There are many couples who don't want kids that doesn't mean their parents didn't deserve to be grandparents.