Originally posted by: inlieu
It's because MLs in ITV almost always are expected to think and behave like heroes and be as close to perfection as possible.
I disagree. The amount of sexist, abusive a**holes who are ITV heroes are alarming. Cheating idk. FLs are the self-righteous ones
Because accepting that the ML can do this by "mistake" or under the influence, or hallucinating that they are doing it with their wife instead of someone else is the only acceptable option for viewers. ITV is not ready to see an ML cheat and still be treated as a hero. I'm not advocating for this, just making a point. Usually if the ML cheats they aren't forgiven and if there is a major redemption arc it's often him finding love again after atoning for his mistakes rather than being reunited with his first wife, especially when no children are involved. There have also been FLs who've forgiven their husbands and stayed married. Reuniting because of children is also used a lot on ITV.
I feel like ITV MLs don't cheat cheat often and if they do it depends on the pH about what they want to know.
Even Raghav, who was introduced more as an anti-hero than a typical hero, which is what made his character stand out from the rest, is expected to improve and change in order to meet certain social and behavioral standards. What if he doesn't change and sticks to his bad habits? Are viewers ready to see this from the start to end of the show? Some people yes, but the majority will always want or expect to see him to work towards achieving as close to that state of perfection as possible because only hero profiles are acceptable for MLs.
It isn't about hero profiles but rather growth. First one must try and accept their flaws .. as in ITV has to address the flaws and second show that one can make an effort to change it. I've seen so many people who believe their flaws are just who they are and don't want to change instead of going to therapy. Nobody is perfect, he just has to try,
Is it wrong to cheat on your spouse? Of course. Can a husband be redeemed after doing this? Well, he can repent but it won't undo the hurt and damage to the relationship. Should his wife leave him when she finds out? Is a moment of weakness excusable by the person doing it and their spouse? Most of us here might say absolutely not but the fact is that there are many women (and men) out there who are willing to forgive their spouse for a one-time thing vs. an actual affair. We may disagree with it but people out there actually do this in order to 'save' the marriage.
At the end of the day it's up to the couple involved to make this decision but personally I feel that a relationship is forever tainted when this kind of thing happens. You may forgive your spouse but can you forget? Will you not have even a 1% nagging doubt that they might repeat it? On the other hand, the one who cheated might always be on the back foot in the relationship, perhaps perpetually feeling guilty and overly cautious. This creates an imbalance in the relationship, which is no longer between equals. The above paragraphs apply to both men and women by the way. I'm not picking on men. Just used the example of husbands because we're talking about Raghav.
I personally wouldn't but some people do. Different people, different priorities.
In Raghav's case it will be even worse because of how his character was depicted during the Anjali track and how he has viewed betrayal in general on the show.
If indeed he does cross the line and Pallavi's decision is to leave him, break up, etc. then it's completely understandable and personally what I'd prefer too. However, if she chooses not to because she feels he did it under the influence and not in a sober state, or because she wants to 'save' the marriage then would we be able to accept and respect that decision even though it's so different from what many of us would have done in her place? Would we judge her for this?
It depends. The question is also how drunk? I was just thinking about it and you cannot give consent under the influence of such substances which makes it rape. So was the partner cheating or violated?[making a separate topic on this]
Whatever Esha's intentions may be, the point is what Raghav does will be the deciding factor so Esha being negative or positive is a secondary point. I frankly don't want Esha to be negative or to be conspiring against Raghav. It's been done to death on ITV and I'm fed up of those kinds of tracks. Also, this team is not good with executing such things As we were saying in the Mandar track, here too I want to see Raghav choose Pallavi despite knowing Esha is a good woman who left him to protect him. Raghav should choose Pallavi because he loves her and feels he belongs with her, not because Esha is evil or is proven to be a gold digger after all.
ITV third angles are verryyy rarely positive so I wouldn't expect anything
Sorry for the long response but I really enjoyed reading the questions you raised. š
Anupamaa
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