Originally posted by: idkwhattoput
When you get over an ex and really, move on without any other emotion in your heart left for that person and then fall in love with someone else, you don’t have any soft corner for them, you might show humanity towards them but they’re just like any other stranger in the world for you. But many people (Virat) fall in love with another person (they assume it’s love) to get over their old love (Pakhi) while still harbouring some kinda emotion in their heart for that ex and that’s why whenever Pakhi is in his presence, those buried emotions re-surface, hence he is forced to take a stand for her (like a lover would) when anyone (sunny/aai/sai/devi) insults her, says demeaning things about her, he believes only he has the right to reprimand her because of the “haq” involved which is why when they’re on bad terms, he resorts to scolding her but he won’t let anyone else do the same. He’s protective of her.
Thus, it is recommended to not get involved with another person / relationship to heal the wound you get from previous relationship, when you are going through a heartbreak, give yourself ample time to heal and to move on. Then you can go ahead and fall in love again, not carrying any baggage from your past and the new person won’t be a rebound for you, otherwise, it’s unfair for the other person as well (Sai).
I don't know if Sai is a rebound or was an easier way to help him move on emotionally. Interesting thought process though. Never thought of it in that way, she surely was very attractive and magnetic for him. They may bond on various aspects but they seem to be emotionally incompatible till now due to maybe each of their inherent natures.
Emotionally, Virat is just not able to let go of Pakhi maybe because of guilty consciousness but the affection he has for her & his overall attitude of forgiving all her wrongs is very uncomfortable territory. For a man who holds words very dear to himself, it goes absolutely against his character to not sit and ponder over whatever happened in the Cafe Karnama. It was disturbing, he should have been disturbed with her words and actions for himself & Samrat. All he's shown is consideration for her since then and add to it joining her in bullying Sai and her emotions, abusing Sai and being totally nonchalant and non accepting about it. All these factors are very disturbing, I don't know if he realises that he gives Pakhi hope in some twisted ways with whatever he's done.
Even if you are friend's with your ex, there are some boundaries and there are zero boundaries between Virat and Pakhi except the physical lines. I think in their heads physical cheating is the only form of cheating. Which is why they overreact whenever anyone points fingers at them. For highly educated people they sure show very little understanding of the human mind and emotions. They may have high IQ but their EQ is very selective and outright dumb at places. These two cross the lines of friendship too often by being too emotionally dependent on each other. You cannot be best friends with an ex and not communicate equally or more with your own wife if you are invested in your own marriage. I'm not even counting the Samrakhi marriage as an marriage because it's a sham mainly through Paakhi.
I will not say that being each other's confidants is wrong but these confidences if they stand related to generic and public life they can still be understood if their respective spouses are ok with it but here that is not the case. A lot of exes remain good friends for lives and their partners can live with it but who in the world would put that friendship over their love over and over again. It's not like Paakhi has sacrificed her life for Virat's friendship, her intentions were immoral from the word go.
It is very unfair on Sai that she has to understand the subtle indications from Virat, any spouse in her space would want verbal assurances with actions and an unwavering belief. You are right, Virat should have rechecked his own emotions and feelings when he started to look at Sai as a partner. He still heavily needs to do it. Here lies the biggest flaw in Sairat's relationship and Virat is more morally obligated to resolve it because he's the one carrying the unwarranted past into present by giving her too much space in his marriage in the nane of friendship. Patralekha on her part has made it amply clear, he is more than a friend for her and he just has shut his mind to this fact and goes on and on with his own belief that if he is correct and can face himself in the mirror w.r.t his love for Sai he's not answerable to anyone else beyond a point & everyone who raises a finger at him is being unreasonable in their faith to him. If he steps away from making everything about him then maybe he might start to see the truth visible to other's through their eyes specially Sai.
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