Some one needs to talk to Virat and Sai. A neutral person in their life.
PS: This is so long..I was contemplating whether I want to do this for this show or not. But then probably I thought I might let it out, because of what I have seen in my life and around. So for the very last time I decide to go for this kind of analysis....This is so long that you guys wont want to read it... But for the last time I go for it...because I want to talk about it...
Khair I get back to the point.. Yes they look good with each other...yes they make you happy seeing them happy... Yes in their good days they are couple goals...But the rational part of our brain knows, Virat fans or Sai fans or the Sairat fans, all our minds know that in the bad time of their relationship they are not meant to be together...They are not good for each other..
Virat needs to be told that what he has for Sai is not love...He feels all the feelings that a man feels for his woman, but that is not love, not the love he thinks he has for Sai in his mind...Not the love that will diminish his existence...He knows that Sai is his wife and involuntarily after setting the boundaries of the marriage himself , he could not help but break them bit by bit at every footing of his married life... He started seeing her as an attractive woman when he saw her being capable of flirting....he saw her as a good and confident woman when she fought for his Bua with the entire society, his own family, for her status as a daughter for her respect as a woman..He saw her as a woman who can attract any other man with her innocent seduction..he was saw her as a wife when he saw her lying with red alta on her feet on his bed , the alta that was put for his well being, in spite of the danger it posed to her...There were strings that were hit in his heart, in his body as well....He saw her as selfless woman when she was ready to give her jewelleries to his sister , the one that were given to her by his Aaba, his last remnants ..just because his family was not ready to support their own daugher in her life, in her dreams...It was her nature, her virtues that can attarct any man...Everyone had their own flaws , but her flaws were overpowered by her goodness. So there was nothing wrong in seeing her as wife...He started seeing her as a wife...For him he has seen relationships to be that way.. Good or bad they sustain and they survive....There is no getting out of it...He is in his own way conservative and would not go back to taking back Pakhi...He saw almost everything that a woman can have in Sai and also the fact that she was his wife, strengthen his believe in the relationship.. For him , from the way he has been brought up and conditioned, it was all that was needed in a marriage. He anyway was much better husband than the ones in the house were.. In his mind he also appreciates her independence and her sense of freedom, but probably he does not realise it that he does not like it when it threatens his believes, his decisions, his values, his orders...When all these feelings were overwhelming, he like any man wanted to touch Sai, be close to her and have a marriage in real terms...The real terms again varies for people...for him it is what he has seen in his house, just a tad bit better version of it.. However he was not able to place his expectations in the right box, since he was blocked by the man who gave a vaada to another woman considering that as love in a fit of moment... He could not name those feelings considering he sees himself a very righteous man. Mind it he 'sees' himself that way.. Here Sunny came to his help and called it love...The word suited his situation, his life , his envision of a married life and he grabbed with both hands... In his mind now it was love.. Virat is a man who weighs some emotions way much than they actually are...He went on to give a vaada for the love that was a premature baby...He went on to call his feelings for Sai ..his undying love and without which he is 'bewajood'.. His words make you believe that he probably would stay in a marriage where he can love Sai irrevocably. And in the process , he does everything materialistic , that he thinks can make her happy.. However there is also a hope that someday...may be someday it would be returned, it would be reciprocated by Sai.. But when he is rejected...when he is told that , that is not a possibility in any life, he goes on to do exactly what his righteous self said , he wont..
His words to Pakhi , about always loving her, about not expecting anything from her , not insulting her... because she is a selfless woman, turn out to be only words, the moment you say Mujhe kya mila..forgetting he saw a different version of himself when he was with her... But then thats again classic Virat for you, who might envison a lot of things when he is talking about an emotion, a situation, and when that situation comes, doing exactly opposite of that...
So he needs to be told, that this cannot work, atleast not work for him.. Sai might be in love with him, but would break bit by bit, seeing the relationship he shares with the other woman, seeing the respect he has for her, seeing the emotional connect they have, seeing them sharing exactly same viewpoint in every matter, seeing them coming together to hurt her, accuse her, every time she makes a mistake that angers him...That would not let her be the Sai he promised to take the responsibility of.. I am sure he is not the man who would want to see that, he does want Sai to change, but he would want her to be happy and accepting with that change and not kill her real self in the process... His liabilities, his loyalties as far as physical aspects of the relationship is concerned would always lie with Sai, but they would always lie with Pakhi for some reason , that is known to none as far as emotional aspects are concerned... It makes him not a good man to think that Sai should suffer, feel lonely, feel the brunt of not having anyone , feel the lack of family since he has chosen to stay away from him...This was petty, lowest of low for Virat..very low...He knows in a way she lost her father, her family, she is lonely probably because of him...ofcourse he was not responsible, but then the guilt remains.. A soldier who was saved by his colleague always feels bad, every time he sees their family...So it was low of him to wish that for Sai, in his anger, which is already a part of her life. His rational brain would no, his honest part would know, she has not been treated well and equally by him or his family in this house.. And when he gets to know that woman, when she left, wanted happiness for him, goodness in his life, prayed the lord for it..the good part in him , the man who is not Ninad's son would be guilty and shameful, for having wished those things for Sai..because she left him..When he knows she chose to give him the freedom, selling her dreams, selling her achievement, selling away her hard work to reach where she was, the good man in him would feel extremely shameful.. So he needs to let go her understanding the requirements. The expectations he has from his wife, would never be met by Sai and if she meets it, it would be at the expense of the Sai Joshi raised by her father Mr. Kamal Joshi.. And his mentor would not want that.... He needs to let her go in real terms and not just step away because of some transfer...
And surely there would be women who would be there to understand his set of emotions... probably would also not mind his emotional equation with Pakhi, the more mature women who would understand it, probably would give him what he wants from his wife, would give his family what they deserve as per him....would be the good wife and good bahu to him and his family respectively...he needs to understand Sai does not fit his needs, his belief system as far as marriage is concerned...
Haan bahut kuch hua hai tum dono ke beech Virat...pichle ek saal mei...use bas wahi rehne do...Wo bahut saare jazbaat the, bahut majboot jazbaat the, par pyaar nahi.........💔
Sai needs to be told that she would be killing the Sai Joshi in her, if she still goes on to fall in love with Virat..She needs to understand that she does not fit the bill, the expectations that he and his family has from her. She would never be able to fill it. She is her own self, very brash, very impulsive and very very rude at times.. She needs honesty in a relationship, she needs equality in the family, she needs individuality in a family and she would never get it...She would have to see the repercussions of her own actions, but that is for her to see..She would never be the priority for Virat , she would always come second..She needs to know that the relationship would be unhealthy and specially to her...She has not seen relationships anyway in her life..She got attached to a man , an opposite sec for the first time in life...with no love around she took hold of whatever she got and whatever it was accompanied by...She also needs to know that she has compromised herself, her beliefs her self respect everything in order to fit the house.. She will have to crumple her self respect to be accepted in this family and for Virat this family is important, his Bhabhi is important, her respect , whatever little or big she does for the family and him is important...She needs to know, her flaws would always be highlighted and good always be forgotten the moment she opens her motor mouth...She needs to understand that she will always always be inferior to Patralekha as a bahu and also probably as a wife... She needs to know that the more attached she gets to this man, the more used to , she would become to his actions of anger, she would accept getting domestically abused. Because she would always forgive him, the moment he cries and repents, in words....Because its not just about reciprocation...its about the bad times in a relationship...Every time she crosses her limits, he would want to discipline her in ways that sounds normal in his head and is/was a crime in hers..And she would keep getting used to that..Also in all this whenever she breaks she would hurt the man with her words and sometimes with her actions. Every time she would not get 'controlled' by him he would hurt and he would in turn hurt her more.. The cycle will go on... She would get used to the love that comes after extreme hurt, the tenderness that comes after that and in the process becoming the victim of Stockholm Syndrome. In all this there is also a chance of her not being able to convince him that the third woman is interfering in their lives, every time she comes into talk something that he feels. And that would hurt her.. And also she would have to respect that woman, whatever she does, wrong or right for the family, for her or for Virat, she would have to be respected and that again would make her compromise her being. Also anyone who tries to bring up her side , would be insulted and disrespected by Virat and other members of the family and she would not be able to see that...She needs to know that there are men and family (I would not say better because thats subjective) that would not crumple her beliefs , that would let her be...SHe would have to compromise yes, but not her core believes...She needs to understand that she would never understand the emotional equation between Virat and Pakhi...never understand him...She can never bring that maturity in herself......She needs to know that her love would never be reciprocated in the way she envisons...in the way she sees love..She needs to know once there is a child in this relationship, she would not be able to find herself, like many other women out there...
Haan Sai kuch to tha tum dono k beech, lekin use bas wahi rehne do...use pyaar mat mei badalne do...💔
And with this I let go off Sairat... I am reminded how I started liking them...I saw a clip on Instagram long back that made me want to watch this show, the clip had Virat crying for loosing Patralekha while they share a teary eye lock and there the car encounters a jerk and his first instinct was not to protect the one he was shedding his tears for , but for the child woman beside him. That struck a chord in my heart.. That gave me the premise of the story and that made me want to see the story. That small scene, that chemistry, the background score everything was so so perfect...so so beautiful..Those five seconds mesmerized me.. That Virat astonished me.....It looked like even though this man has romantic feelings for other woman, what precedes all that is, his care for this woman beside him, his protectiveness for this woman , that unknown emotions for this woman. I myself was going through a very low phase in life , but then somehow got hooked to the show with the story, this story becoming my respite...It became my dopamine.. However things looks reversed now...The two women and their positions in his life has changed...That distant memory is now a sham...stands bogus... And its as heart breaking as it could be to realise that.. Yeah just a show, but you get attached to certain things at times...At that point I thought, since they are so close emotionally, physical aspect cant come any time, when the two are ready.... At this point I cant envision them coming together physically, even though they are ready, considering they can never come together emotionally...💔💔
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