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Originally posted by: Simmi988

You are missing my point

let me say it again at the risk of sounding repetitive because I’ve said this at least 4-5 times since yesterday

when Sai shouted at Virat recently, everyone supported her saying she was going through a lot.. unable to understand her feelings. She doesn’t know what to do and how to channel her emotions etc etc

Shouting on someone nd what virat has done with sai is incomparable,, yes i agree words are equally hurtful if spoken in a bad way nd on anniversary day sai was really too much but got support coz there were lots of incidents behind her shouting where virat is failed as a guardian i will not say as husband as she doesn’t see virat as her husband yet but she really look up to him as her guardian who has taken place of her Abha,, her Abha would have never stand quiet if anyone outside or family members have taunted sai nd virat fail here highly,, he ignores his family members nd pakhi mistakes but point out sai’s ,,, and it was really tough for her to accept that virat sir has started to like her or love her as his family members has always compared her to pakhi nd pakhi was always praised compared to sai who was called as jungli mugli so she was unable to understand her feelings nd the shouting came as a result

Yes virat is human nd he is going through a lot now a days he can loose his anger he can shout back on sai or ignore sai if he feels not to answer or give cold shoulder but still he has no right to lock her in a room to decipline her, as it is rightly said by samrat it is a domestic violence, a human should not loose his mind nd act inhuman in the name of disturbance.. we go through a lot of problems in our life but that does not give us rights to behave inhuman/abusive with the person we have problems, so if there is questions of sai’s mistake nd virat’s action sai will get more support coz her act is not that bad or abusive as compare to virat

all I am trying to say is that the same goes for Virat. He loves Sai but is in a state of shock after the anniversary incident; then Samrat came in and blamed him for his disappearance; Pakhi proposed the unthinkable; he wanted to move out but Sai got his transfer canceled and actually got hailed for it.

No i didn’t supported sai for cancelling his transfer in the name of parivar ke sath festival celebrate karna or he is just recovering from his illness as it was his decisions he knew his fitness nd duty more than anyone else, nd she got praise from family members as they also wanted virat to attend the festival nd bcoz of sai they got this so obviously the family members supported her but we as a audience didn’t supported sai’s action nd in the forum this was discussed at that time,,,

He is going through a lot. It is new for him too. He is not making the best judgment just like Sai.

Not making best judgment ?? Locking someone nd ganging with ex to insult his wife is not right nd can not be justified by any excuse,,, Not talking to sai, showing her cold attitude, shouting at her whenever she crossed her limit like accusing him for two timing then it is ok, this can be justified but what is not ok is locking someone whatever the excuse but it is not acceptable nd no one is gonna support virat here

but everyone here sympathizes with her and bashes him.

if you will compare sai’s and virat’s behaviour then sai’s action can be termed as mistake but virat’s actions will be termed as crime/violence

Again I repeat, Virat is also human. I am not saying he is God

Not GOD but human nd human shuold not give his act of violence to any excuse ,, ignore, shout, avoid is still ok (that also sometimes give mental harassment to others if overdone) but what virat is doing not justified.. even if he was angry with sai nd wants to shout then do it no problem ask her why she went ott to cancel his transfer who has given her right to take decisions on his behalf, who is she to come in between his duty,, if her attendance is so important that she has to go to college every day without fail then his job his duty is equally important nd she can not just interfere in the name of goodness,, yes ask her scold her but don’t gang up with his ex nd insult your wife it is not acceptable,, if pakhi is again nd again poking her nose between husband nd wife nd instigating him against sai then first ask her to kepp quiet, ask pakhi to shut up when she was questioning sai about their sleeping arrangements just for once he can ask pakhi to mind her business but what we get instead virat siding with pakhi nd insulting her... NO for me this is not acceptable, I will not respect this human

can I ask you one question? Forget about Sai for a minute, do you think Virat is in a sad situation or is some kind of a mean individual who gets sadistic pleasure in torturing Sai?

Again I’m saying what ever bad or sad situation is no one has right to act violence nd abusive no amount of excuses will give justification to virat’s recent behaviour,,, Sadistic or not but one thing is for sure he doen not feel bad for sai when every other person from his family taunts or call her immature, jungli mulgi, always compare her to pakhi whose actual face he has seen,, he never stop pakhi from taunting sai. I can say virat is not a mean parson but a typical weak ML who stands mute when his wife gets insulted by his family members here his ex is also added on the list

Again being human nd going through a lot doesn’t give anyone rights to lock someone in a room doesn’t give right to beat a boy just by seeing him close to his wife if an IPS officer will loose his mind by `just going through a lot’ excuse then how general public will react if given in a same situation,

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

I think the problem was never Virat being angry.. The problem is Virat ganging up with an ex who has always been a problem between them..someone who understands insecurity against Sai.. Its not right... When Sai denied a Saree from his ex, he should have let it be, should not have brought the whole izzat nahi karti, khudgarz hai...He has never clarified in true sense what that relationship was to give such a huge vaada to both women.. Till date he allows his ex to enter the room without knocking, taunt his wife, call her names, she even got to call his wife Nurse and offer her money for taking care of her husband BTW...She gets to interfere in their personal matter, call out Sai for every little thing..Does not work like that.... Yes sometimes its good to keep quite, but one cannot endure the verbal abuse all the time.. that Pakhi and the family makes Sai go through...And we have seen when he wants to shut people, he shuts them, for instant dining table incident when they called them out and rightly so for discussing his transfer matter...

Again another problem that people see in Virat is how he treats her when he is angry..Recent incident locking her up in a room... And honestly if she did not escape she was probably locked for more than 4-5 hours and he was still not willing to open the door...Not just that when called out for it all being a domestic abuse, he said Sai forced him to lock her up... To teach her discipline he thinks its find to lock her inside, to deny her food, to throw her out...without zero ounce of guilt and regret...What is the point of apologising anyway when he gets to do the same thing... I am fine with hurtful words, but not violence...

Exactly my points why people are comparing sai’s mistakes with virat’s crime these two are different nd incomparable,,

You speak my mind,, again nd again i have tried to explain virat’s siding with pakhi is not acceptable, verbal abuse is not ok, pakhi’s unnecessary interfering into sai’s life is not healthy and virat as a guardian has to look after this he should stop nd not tolerate pakhi’s interfering nature but even after 300 ep virat is same, pakhi is same no changes at all

I really wonder if samrat can shut them up from talking ill about sai then why not virat, if samrat nd sai can see through pakhi’s fake happiness then why not virat... a day before pakhi was asking him to divorce his wife nd marry her then next day she is happily shopping with samrat,,, how on earth virat is not doubting pakhi’s fakeness

@ bold:- Exactly no amount of excuse can justify violence,, if virat is going through hell lot of problems still he has no right to lock her inside room