Would you want Virat as a partner? - Page 7

I would have called the Police on mirchi kaand itself because the husband's stand hardly seemed a stand to me... Heck If I would have been Pakhi also I would have called the Police and gone back to my home...

Originally posted by: Devikadish

Answer to your question in title:

No, Never, Kabhi nahi, Bilkul nahi, Kadhich Naahi, Illa, Beda,Borchee.

Bass itne he languages aate hai.

Marrying a guy like Virat is like signing up for lifetime headache and torture. Can't afford that. Uske jalebiyan aur past baggages samajhne ka patience hai he nahi mujh meiin.

I don't think Virat loves Sai, he is smitten by her, but not love. He might have some serious crush on her, but love, they haven't reached to that level. They have got a long long way for love to happen. He definitely wants to continue his married life with Sai, as a normal husband and wife.

But him keeping didi in picture is the biggest mistake and hurdle. He needs to truly eliminate didi from his life and he needs to have some true redemptions for all the BS he has created between him and Sai and in Sai's life.

As you said, there are a lot of practical ways in which their relationship can be mended, but makers will never explore those ways, as that will mean getting creative and using brains.

I personally want a seperation to happen at this point of the story. Reunion after seperation, where we get a reformed Virat who has realised his mistakes and has made up for those mistakes wherever possible and a mature Sai who has achieved her goals without any further hurdle and has reached the age where she can actually manage relationships. Track like this will make sense, but makers ko KD se pyaar ishq mohabbat hai. And this reunion after seperation is such a typical ITV trope, they can go that way. Par Leena aunty bura maan jaayegi.

On a side note U know tulu and Kannada 🤗🧐 ..I am also from coastal Karnataka ..I can speak English , Kannada, hindi, Konkani, Tulu , basic marathi and understand tamil and malyalam

Even I feel there is more base attraction at play ...more so since they don't have basic respect and trust in each other .

The constant presence of his ex whom he listens to especially when mad at his partner , looses his temper ..it's for me border line emo cheating.. In the beginning it was full.

Plus in the precap he says will I loose my love again ?? So that means he loves pp ?? So maybe he does not realise he still has some leftover love and what he feels for sai is attraction. He still shows respect for pp so all this is complicated

I have been in a complicated relationship once so never ever ..rather be single

Originally posted by: tptwi

Hmm... sorry to ask you yet another question. Just trying to understand your POV. Leaving Shruthi aside, what about the constant presence of Pakhi in their relationship? What is most alarming to me is that he seems to understand Pakhi's pain so deeply, but he is unable to do the same for Sai. Even if he is acting soft towards Pakhi due to his own guilt in putting her in this position, where is that guilt when it comes to Sai? Where is that understanding?

Sure, he is acting harsh towards Sai right now because he is hurt and feels misunderstood. I can accept that and feel for him even. But, every time he is feeling this way, he is going to start supporting Pakhi against Sai? At least that is the pattern we have seen up until now, and I am almost positive it will continue. Pakhi can insult Sai all she wants, and he is generally mute leaving aside a few instances. But, he feels the need to protect Pakhi's self respect despite knowing her intentions...

Yaar Pooja, you wont let me be peaceful, would you?

I am tagging Lakshmi here because Virat's importance or non importance to Pakhi is one topic we had disagreement on couple of times before. So would like to hear her opinion also, although I know what she is going to say :P

One advice: read Sai's perspective first, so not to rile you up

@bold

From audience perspective:

I dont have any doubt that Virat is completely over Pakhi, even emotionally. His confrontation with her after coming back from GC during devkit wedding, then after Harini's birthday and recently after the accident. I believe and would not change my mind on his equation with Pakhi. He is over her. Now when I go back and see the old episodes, his progression is something that is captured very beautifully. He had some guilt in the beginning which I think faded away slowly. At the current moment, Pakhi is just his brother's wife and family member for him. He doesnt even have respect towards her as his SIL. She is the woman, his brother decided to stay married and a woman.

In cafe incident also he responded to her as a friend, there was no extra word or gesture that conveyed otherwise. But how do we expect him to behave? Talk profanities with her? Drag her to Zillat Arena and tell everyone every single thing she told him? If we come to reality for a bit, and knowing Virat's nature, I would not expect him to do that. He addressed her, pretty openly and bluntly when she crossed the line when they were alone. I dont expect him to act badly/rudely with her in front of people, knowing that it is such a sensitive topic where his image is also involved not only hers. Where his marriage is also involved which he was protecting till now with utmost care!! Also it takes a lot of courage and insensitivity to convey what Pakhi has told him in the cafe. I totally understand his reasons for not revealing her nature. Lakshmi's recent post aptly addressed this. He is not comfortable discussing it. period. Yes he may be protecting her, but just as a woman. nothing more.

Why does he openly put down Sai then? before answering this, we should also ask why did he openly supported Sai and gained the title of Jhoru ga ghulam? They are at a point where their issues are public, which he avoided addressing privately with his wife. Once they are public and if he doesnt agree with his wife, he is putting his words directly to her. I only see the ownership towards her. I see his emotional investment in her. I see that he wanted to set things right, this time from her side. He is pushing her yes. (For more, please read Lakshmi's post because she nicely captured his mindset). This is just a phase that he is going through.

@green

I have seen joint families yaar, read books where family dynamics are involved. The entire setting is regressive and compromised. People dont call upon SILs in front of everyone yaar. They keep quiet. Why do you think there will be lot of friction in joint families? Exactly this, the husband wont be able to speak on behalf of wife all the time. The only instance I felt he did a mistake is during ousting track, where he asked Sai not to speak to Pakhi in that tone! I did not like it, but it doesnt mean he cared more for Pakhi there. we all know, how much he felt betrayed in that track. There are umpteen instances where he put down pakhi, for the wrongs she did, again politely never crossing the line. His dealing with Pakhi, always showed the distance he maintained with her. This is where Lakshmi and I disagree. She says(I think ) that he should not support Pakhi in front of Sai because it effects her. But I would say, Virat doesnt even give consideration to the point that he is putting Pakhi ahead of Sai. Yes with Sai's mindset, it caused MUs in her mind, which I will discuss in the next section. But from audience point of view, I have no reason to believe he supports pakhi.

As audience, therefore I still ship them.

Sai's point of view

Sai has every reason to believe he is emotionally invested in Pakhi. period. Her situation when they got married and his words are etched in her mind...I sometimes think the words have become ingrained in her thoughts so much that I wonder will she ever come out of that doubt. Even if she doesnt come out of it, I still understand her. The words clipped the bud way too early. Virat nurtured her love with lot of patience but even after confession I dont think Sai can come to terms with the words he had spoken. She will somewhere in the corner of her heart, always have a tug that says she is not his first choice. It is a painful feeling. I would like to believe that she will not have those doubts after confession.

Sorry I digressed. From Sai's point of view, it is a keechad that she is in as she rightly pointed out. No woman can bear that her husband is emotionally invested in the other woman. Most times, a physical affair could be forgiven but not an emotional one. So yes, if I were Sai I would have gone through everything she is going through now. The seed of insecurity over his love for Pakhi will not leave me/Sai. It is really hard to overcome it and come to terms with the past. And the circumstances she is in now, where Virat is behaving rude I would have questioned even his earlier affections towards me. With hand holding not resolved, it would have driven me crazy/mad. So yes, I would have thought of separation for sure. Because I dont want to be in a marriage, where the husband is emotionally tied to his ex. Or at the max, I would have asked him to move out to separate house and experience his feelings first hand without any interference. If he had denied to move out with me at this point, I would have definitely separated.

PS: If you think I am regressive, it is totally okay. Please dont make this topic a war zone 😊 I formed my opinions based on my experiences with life and my observations. I am not saying these are correct. I just put my understanding of the story and characters. 👍🏼

Originally posted by: Rdigest

I think the precap shouldn't be taken seriously yaar. It has nothing to do with the story 🤣. He was just talking something to a imaginary friend (because I didn't see sunny anywhere ) and blunder hogaya bechare kye dialogue writer sye 🤣. He has so many dialogues which made no sense wrt to the story so 1 more added to the list 😆

I am tired of his yaar...Audience ko bhi yaar...Just because with that face he says yaar he expects people to understand him😵 I mean who is giving him these dialogues...Ek din Pakhi pyaar hai ek din wakti fitoor aur ek din kuch nahi..

In a joint family setting, husband doesn't take side of sil against his wife, that too, in their own room when he knows sil has hots for him unless he has ulterior motive.

Originally posted by: sadiltl

Yaar Pooja, you wont let me be peaceful, would you?

I am tagging Lakshmi here because Virat's importance or non importance to Pakhi is one topic we had disagreement on couple of times before. So would like to hear her opinion also, although I know what she is going to say :P

One advice: read Sai's perspective first, so not to rile you up

@bold

From audience perspective:

I dont have any doubt that Virat is completely over Pakhi, even emotionally. His confrontation with her after coming back from GC during devkit wedding, then after Harini's birthday and recently after the accident. I believe and would not change my mind on his equation with Pakhi. He is over her. Now when I go back and see the old episodes, his progression is something that is captured very beautifully. He had some guilt in the beginning which I think faded away slowly. At the current moment, Pakhi is just his brother's wife and family member for him. He doesnt even have respect towards her as his SIL. She is the woman, his brother decided to stay married and a woman.

In cafe incident also he responded to her as a friend, there was no extra word or gesture that conveyed otherwise. But how do we expect him to behave? Talk profanities with her? Drag her to Zillat Arena and tell everyone every single thing she told him? If we come to reality for a bit, and knowing Virat's nature, I would not expect him to do that. He addressed her, pretty openly and bluntly when she crossed the line when they were alone. I dont expect him to act badly/rudely with her in front of people, knowing that it is such a sensitive topic where his image is also involved not only hers. Where his marriage is also involved which he was protecting till now with utmost care!! Also it takes a lot of courage and insensitivity to convey what Pakhi has told him in the cafe. I totally understand his reasons for not revealing her nature. Lakshmi's recent post aptly addressed this. He is not comfortable discussing it. period. Yes he may be protecting her, but just as a woman. nothing more.

Why does he openly put down Sai then? before answering this, we should also ask why did he openly supported Sai and gained the title of Jhoru ga ghulam? They are at a point where their issues are public, which he avoided addressing privately with his wife. Once they are public and if he doesnt agree with his wife, he is putting his words directly to her. I only see the ownership towards her. I see his emotional investment in her. I see that he wanted to set things right, this time from her side. He is pushing her yes. (For more, please read Lakshmi's post because she nicely captured his mindset). This is just a phase that he is going through.

@green

I have seen joint families yaar, read books where family dynamics are involved. The entire setting is regressive and compromised. People dont call upon SILs in front of everyone yaar. They keep quiet. Why do you think there will be lot of friction in joint families? Exactly this, the husband wont be able to speak on behalf of wife all the time. The only instance I felt he did a mistake is during ousting track, where he asked Sai not to speak to Pakhi in that tone! I did not like it, but it doesnt mean he cared more for Pakhi there. we all know, how much he felt betrayed in that track. There are umpteen instances where he put down pakhi, for the wrongs she did, again politely never crossing the line. His dealing with Pakhi, always showed the distance he maintained with her. This is where Lakshmi and I disagree. She says(I think ) that he should not support Pakhi in front of Sai because it effects her. But I would say, Virat doesnt even give consideration to the point that he is putting Pakhi ahead of Sai. Yes with Sai's mindset, it caused MUs in her mind, which I will discuss in the next section. But from audience point of view, I have no reason to believe he supports pakhi.

As audience, therefore I still ship them.

Sai's point of view

Sai has every reason to believe he is emotionally invested in Pakhi. period. Her situation when they got married and his words are etched in her mind...I sometimes think the words have become ingrained in her thoughts so much that I wonder will she ever come out of that doubt. Even if she doesnt come out of it, I still understand her. The words clipped the bud way too early. Virat nurtured her love with lot of patience but even after confession I dont think Sai can come to terms with the words he had spoken. She will somewhere in the corner of her heart, always have a tug that says she is not his first choice. It is a painful feeling. I would like to believe that she will not have those doubts after confession.

Sorry I digressed. From Sai's point of view, it is a keechad that she is in as she rightly pointed out. No woman can bear that her husband is emotionally invested in the other woman. Most times, a physical affair could be forgiven but not an emotional one. So yes, if I were Sai I would have gone through everything she is going through now. The seed of insecurity over his love for Pakhi will not leave me/Sai. It is really hard to overcome it and come to terms with the past. And the circumstances she is in now, where Virat is behaving rude I would have questioned even his earlier affections towards me. With hand holding not resolved, it would have driven me crazy/mad. So yes, I would have thought of separation for sure. Because I dont want to be in a marriage, where the husband is emotionally tied to his ex. Or at the max, I would have asked him to move out to separate house and experience his feelings first hand without any interference. If he had denied to move out with me at this point, I would have definitely separated.

PS: If you think I am regressive, it is totally okay. Please dont make this topic a war zone 😊 I formed my opinions based on my experiences with life and my observations. I am not saying these are correct. I just put my understanding of the story and characters. 👍🏼

Sadhika , how do you think it works when Sai and Virat have confessed and they are a real couple.. And when they see ups and downs? With a friend and bhabhi always there to interfere and with the husband always wanting the respect to be maintained(when he has issues with Sai, when they are at loggerheads)while talking to his Bhabhi and not stopping Bhabhi when she crosses her limit?

Originally posted by: asmi_joya

I am tired of his yaar... I mean who is giving him these dialogues...Ek din Pakhi pyaar hai ek din wakti fitoor aur ek din kuch nahi..

I will still go with the wakti fitoor 😆. I don't believe it's intentional and its just a mistake on the writers part since the precap story narration is original and they couldn't handle the pressure of writing original stuff 🤣

In that case, I would give chances till a point, for the love for my husband but if it takes away my mental peace and if there is a child in this marriage, I would definitely walk out. Not worth it.

I answered the same, in the other reply to Virat's involvement later in the lives of shruthi and pakhi.

Originally posted by: sadiltl

In that case, I would give chances till a point, for the love for my husband but if it takes away my mental peace and if there is a child in this marriage, I would definitely walk out. Not worth it.

I answered the same, in the other reply to Virat's involvement later in the lives of shruthi and pakhi.

Because as a partner (male/female) its mentally torturous to see every time something going wrong, with the partner , partner and his/her ex jumping into to badmouth me..No love can make this kind of relationship work... Relationship is always tested in the bad times and not the good times...

Originally posted by: Rdigest

Any folks looking for partners - Find Janmo janmo kaa love in 2 hours, want to know how? Go to the Yoga camp where Virat and Pakhi met 🙏. Pre set atmosphere , camp fire with music and drums , enjoy and find a partner