Feeling very disheartened for Pallavi, DT Note pge 23 - Page 4

Originally posted by: PSharada

Thank you so much for this sane post. It is so sad to see victim shaming and bashing and that too by women nonetheless. Pallavi did not ask Mandar to help her out - He forced himself on her. He is pushing his boundaries and Pallavi is unable to fight him. She is trying to be in his good books as she needs to expose him but Mandar is taking her silence to be his right. I feel sad for Pallavi.

I really hope the creatives show that Mandar meets his end either at hands of Pallavi or Aayi since he hurt these 2 ladies to the maximum.

Thank you

Pall is extra careful with him, coz she needs to be, he is a very dangerous man, who killed her best friend, nearly killed her aayi and threatened to kill her husband..

She was shock, froze and trying to process how to stop this..

It was easy to shout on some unknown man the cook who trying to be friendly with her.. ..

This was Mandar, the murderer, the psych..

B- how I wish, he should be punished either by Aayi or pall or both

Thank you for this post!!

I get it what made you post this...some people are actually rejoicing and claiming that she deserves him only...anyways not going to ruin this

Just one day before he was standing like anything when Pallavi's saree caught fire and today he was all in showing rights mode...already she was aware of his psychotic behavior and now this

She was shocked the core about all this already and the particular scene gave her the full idea of till which extent this person can go and so is for Raghav (an eye-opener kinda)

They need to start working against him asap...they don't have time in hand

That's what it was all about

Blaming Pallavi in all this came out of nowhere...it's not she is asking for it or making advances or something...she was herself shocked on this and tried to stop the same as well

I might be repeating myself but I'm going to post on every topic that I see on this matter. I 100% agree with you. Pallu being stupid does not justify her being harassed. It's disheartening to see adult women argue otherwise because apparently RR deserves better. It's ironical that they can see RR's pain on his wife being touched by another man but not the pain of the very woman to whom the body belongs. Awful.

Originally posted by: Wilddreams

Thank you for making this post samreen 🤗🤗

Poor girl going through so much mental harassment and on top of that she is scared about her safety. I don't know why people can see this but are busy in making their on theories to victim blame her😭

We can't compare how she responded to SNS and how she did to Mandy.

Cvs are showing difference between how we treat insider vs outsider. SNS is outsider for Pallavi so it's easy for her to object him and family will trust her over SNS.

On the other hand Mandy is an insider. No one will believe her without proof because D family will trust Mandy over Pallavi.

In real life scenarios too its easy to fight strangers than predators from your own family.

That's why majority of sexual assaults against women are by close relatives family members in whole world. Its hard to raise your voice against your own family what them commit those horrible crimes

However people aren't understanding this but indulging in victim blaming. Which is very offputting. That's why so many women keep quiet about these kind if crimes in RL.

@bold

Exactly my thoughts !! I have mentioned this in other post too ..

Originally posted by: Owia

Absolutely agree to every word of yours!!. I have been in the forum for about 2 months and i am more of a silent reader. Started watching for RR but Pallavi also hooed me to the show. The condition of forum is like , " whatever happens ,start blaming Pallu". I know Pallu's character has been messed up like anything but for gods sake we all need to grow up.

For instance , in future if Pallu takes a bullet to save RR , the fandom/forum will be like - " yaar, why did she take the bullet to save RR , why is she causing stress and pain to RR and making him care for her". JUST KIDDING BUT HARROJ KA ATMOSPHERE DEKHKE YAHI LAGTA HAI.

Few weeks back , I read someones comment on IF or twitter that let Pallavi return to D house and do all the household chores only then she will realize how lavish the RR mansion is - where she doesnt have to work. And today they are questioning her character because she didnt resist Mandys touch. Common guys, just imagine yourself in her situation. Suppose , a guy stalks you everyday and in the past he has harmed people related to you because they opposed it. And if he tries to assault you again- for sure you wouldnt resist it even if you are uncomfortable because for you the safety of people related to you is more important.

If I am not wrong, the forum mostly consists of members who are 18+, so are we supposed to act so immature?. We start cribbing like children if we dont like the episode.

Dont just start blaming any character- RR or Pallu just because the epi didnt turn up as you wanted it to be.

Every day a new way to question her character, everytime a new reason..

Let me tell you this forum used to be so positive and wholesome..

But the polarization started ,it's ok I get you are bias to a character, but that doesn't mean you have to belittle every other character..

The words used for her, the terms and the comparatives ...

Today for a change I thought they all must be feeling sad for pall, but no here the victim blaming started..

B- yep you can leave anytime, you can't bear to watch nobody is forcing you to.. what's the point of ruining everything for others by spreading negetivity

Originally posted by: fria319

My biggest issue is that they did all this to Pallavi ONLY bc they wanted Raghav to be her savior and to witness first hand how gross Mandar is. Why can strong woman (which I consider Pallavi as) have to be shown as shocked or paralyzed with fear JUST so that they can have their s.o. come to their rescue? I'm so triggered by this narrative that women who fight back also don't need help of the ML, therefore we must not show women fight back at all so the ML can help her.

Pallavi has never been shown to come out of the bathroom with her saree undone, she doesn't even do this in her own home. Let alone a home where she knows Mandar creeps on her? Like c'mon CVs? How much more contrived writing can they do?

I get that she has to tolerate more than what any of us are willing to see so she can dupe Mandar and remain in his good graces, but the CVs cannot execute these scenes properly. Each and every time they fail.

Also I am so tired of everyone equating her shock & fear as consent or enjoyment. No people. She was scared.

The victim blaming has to stop. Criticize CVs for doing this to her to glorify ML, and think about what you would have wanted her to do, but don't blame her for what's happening to her.

Do I think she could have tried to pull her pleats back, or turn around? Yes.

Does that give me the pass to blame her for the lines MANDAR is crossing? NO. HE'S the one doing that TO her. None of this behavior is brought upon by Pallavi herself. She said no. He didn't listen. That's on HIM.

Everyone who thinks otherwise, or thinks that she has some part to play in her own harassment needs to take a course on consent.

I respectfully disagree that since pallavi is such a strong woman so she she can tackle a personal violation of her space argument.. however strong a woman is, Incidents or situations like these, every woman reacts differently even if faced with the same situation twice.. that moment.. when the mind freezes in fear.. its such an unprepared moment that u cannot school yourself.. esp when one is not expecting..

When raghav pinned her on a lonely deserted road to the pole, even then pallavi closed her eyes in fear and didnt react.. raghav couldve done anything there, the emphasis being on couldve.. Ofcourse he didnt,thats another thing.. and before people come at me saying am comparing raghav to mandaar.. no i am not.. i believe raghav in that scene intended to just scare her away and he didnt intend to do anything untoward to her atleast in that sense.. but for pallavi the character, she didnt know.. her fear was just as real as it was today..

Originally posted by: Haal-e-Dil

Mubarak ho assault hua hai 🥳👏😆 of course she deserved it. Her fault. Karma.

I have this huge rant in heart but fir kabhi... basically shiva/pals should not be in show. In fact none should be. Bas ML holding gun, walking slo mo, in full shirt and other scenes should be for 24mins. Sai to crorepati banega ek month mein👏👏👏❤️

Han khusi toh bahut hui hogi, after all we are proved right,

Jashn nahi manayenge kya ? Are Jashn hi toh ho raha hai.. .. .

As an admirer of Raghav Rao and Sai Ketan Rao I would like to say this they need to stop this, stop their biasness for Raghav...

They are making him a villain by always cribbing about him

Pls stop 🙏

I don't think the pleat scene was to show Raghav as a savior, rather it was to show him that he had to not get distracted and focus on the mission. His temper and hatred of Mandaar is hindering him from seeing the severity of issues. Case in point the scene where he almost fought with Mandaar in the room and failed to plant the mic. It was also to show Mandaar trying to intimidate her because he doubts that she burned Raghav's photo, and that he had lost points after failing to save her from the fire.

Regarding how strong women are portrayed, well no one is invincible and no one is at 100% strength the whole time. Remember what Raghav said about women when he found her lying on the road, that women were the backbone but sometimes they needed support when they were temporarily weakened? He didn't just leave her there, or should he have? Pallavi is not the damsel in distress type and can look after herself, fight her own battles etc. But as her husband, it is Raghav's duty to protect and support her when she is in trouble and needs additional assistance because of the vows he made to be her husband. Same thing, when he's in trouble and out of his depth. I wouldn't expect her to just stand by and do nothing by saying he's a tough guy, he can handle it.

This is why Sherlock and Watson are a pair, because they complement each other.

Being strong doesn't mean you won't falter at times or need backup. Sometimes things get beyond our control or catch us off guard. It helps if someone has your back. It's when you refuse an offer of help because you think you're superman or superwoman that your pride gets in the way. Pallavi has suffered because of this in the past but she's learning.

As the ML in another show rightly said:

Situation ko akele handle karne ki capability hona, yeh achhi baat hai. Lekin har situation ko akele handle karne ki zidd rakhna na, yeh achhi baat nahin hai.

Originally posted by: Sravala

They never showed pallavi as Gopi Babu

So that.s why bashing creative team for showing pallavi as helpless and dumb girl

I do not agree with ur statement that we are bashing pallavi being a woman and saying that it’s her fault

We are saying it’s creative dumbness

It's fine if you don't agree with me

You can move on from this post...

Pall is no gopi bahu and she can never be...

Maybe you are saying about the CVs and calling out on them, but majority are doing character bashing of Pallavi Raghav Rao

Originally posted by: Isamreen

Han khusi toh bahut hui hogi, after all we are proved right,

Jashn nahi manayenge kya ? Are Jashn hi toh ho raha hai.. .. .

As an admirer of Raghav Rao and Sai Ketan Rao I would like to say this they need to stop this, stop their biasness for Raghav...

They are making him a villain by always cribbing about him

Pls stop 🙏

They created Raghav rao someone who's 10000+ iq level, with 20 senses and 5 eyes all around his head. He's the god, or maybe bigger than god. By that logic no drama will happen in show and everyone else will pale to comparison. In all this pals/shiva getting the short end of stick as usual with all other FL of itv. No matter what she can't win. It's terrible.