Mandar, Deshmukhs and Aai - Page 2

Originally posted by: joliefemme

You ignored my request for an OS. Book likh daali, OS likhne main taqleef hai grrrrr

Woh book ka chapter yahan post Kiya toh mujhe Ander aane se pehle Bahar ka dikha diya jayega 🤪

I would love to write... but nothing struck yet. But I have to agree this forum has some very good writers.

Originally posted by: euphoric

Woh book ka chapter yahan post Kiya toh mujhe Ander aane se pehle Bahar ka dikha diya jayega 🤪

I would love to write... but nothing struck yet. But I have to agree this forum has some very good writers.

Soni you need to write plssss.. I'm still not over RA. This forum needs to see ur skills. Warna when u meet me I will kill you.

Sirf ek OS ki demand hai and you will get an inspiration ;) mere raghvi ke liye hi kardo ;)

Hi there,

You have brought out a very important aspect in terms of the way marriages in Indian society works. The groom no matter how or what he is, is generally given a free pass for, he'll come around once he is married. The wife is basically a rehabilitation center. In the process of doing this especially in arranged marriages, where marriages are a familial decision, innocent girl's life gets harmed. Here, in the case of the show the very fact that Mandar disappeared on the night of his wedding (now giving a stupid reason that he went to collect bangles in the middle of no where) raises red flags, which obviously was not pursued by the family. Obviously the son's flaws can't be hidden from the parents. They would have had an inkling for sure, but still managed to paint a saint like picture for Pallavi. Sharada would have known about his nature (I doubt if this angle will be explored in the show). This happens in real life too, where the man gets whitewashed no matter what he does & the woman is supposed to adjust in order to keep the family intact.

Mandar's sketch is not very diverse to comment a lot on as, within a few episodes he turned dark. But, coming to Vijay Deshmukh the man, is misogynistic to the core. He was supportive of Pallavi as long as she was his son's widow, but the minute he felt she was having an affair with Raghav he showed his true colors & threw her out. His tall claims of accepting her as a daughter fell flat, in front of his suspicion. How could he base his decisions on what a stranger painted in front of him? This also happens in real life, where daughters in law are put through trial by fire. Later on also he was unable to digest the fact that Pallavi has moved on & found love, his ego makes him taunt Raghav & Pallavi at every turn. How easily he told Raghav that now that Mandar is back, Pallavi is back to being his DIL. Pallavi's choice never mattered to him ever. Now, if Mandar has grown up watching such a toxic man, to whom his mother subjected herself too, then obviously he will have similar expectations from Pallavi too! This is what is anyways, happening in our society too. The wife is expected to behave & put up with the tantrums like how the husband's mother does.

Final thoughts, truth is stranger than fiction. This is a sad reality of our society we must accept. At the end of the day minusing the drama quotient Mandar & Vijay Deshmukh type of characters exist freely as a part of our patriarchal society, where they subject the women of their families to immense pain. The only way to break this chain, lies in bringing up sons who are sensitive & considerate and also parents calling out their sons whenever they commit a mistake.

Originally posted by: joliefemme

Soni you need to write plssss.. I'm still not over RA. This forum needs to see ur skills. Warna when u meet me I will kill you.

Sirf ek OS ki demand hai and you will get an inspiration ;) mere raghvi ke liye hi kardo ;)

No promises but I'll try 🤗

Originally posted by: euphoric

No promises but I'll try 🤗

Yes, you try when you get the time or rather make time for it.. My raghvi totally deserve atleast one OS from you.

Originally posted by: Shakti1604

Hi there,

You have brought out a very important aspect in terms of the way marriages in Indian society works. The groom no matter how or what he is, is generally given a free pass for, he'll come around once he is married. The wife is basically a rehabilitation center. In the process of doing this especially in arranged marriages, where marriages are a familial decision, innocent girl's life gets harmed. Here, in the case of the show the very fact that Mandar disappeared on the night of his wedding (now giving a stupid reason that he went to collect bangles in the middle of no where) raises red flags, which obviously was not pursued by the family. Obviously the son's flaws can't be hidden from the parents. They would have had an inkling for sure, but still managed to paint a saint like picture for Pallavi. Sharada would have known about his nature (I doubt if this angle will be explored in the show). This happens in real life too, where the man gets whitewashed no matter what he does & the woman is supposed to adjust in order to keep the family intact.

Mandar's sketch is not very diverse to comment a lot on as, within a few episodes he turned dark. But, coming to Vijay Deshmukh the man, is misogynistic to the core. He was supportive of Pallavi as long as she was his son's widow, but the minute he felt she was having an affair with Raghav he showed his true colors & threw her out. His tall claims of accepting her as a daughter fell flat, in front of his suspicion. How could he base his decisions on what a stranger painted in front of him? This also happens in real life, where daughters in law are put through trial by fire. Later on also he was unable to digest the fact that Pallavi has moved on & found love, his ego makes him taunt Raghav & Pallavi at every turn. How easily he told Raghav that now that Mandar is back, Pallavi is back to being his DIL. Pallavi's choice never mattered to him ever. Now, if Mandar has grown up watching such a toxic man, to whom his mother subjected herself too, then obviously he will have similar expectations from Pallavi too! This is what is anyways, happening in our society too. The wife is expected to behave & put up with the tantrums like how the husband's mother does.

Final thoughts, truth is stranger than fiction. This is a sad reality of our society we must accept. At the end of the day minusing the drama quotient Mandar & Vijay Deshmukh type of characters exist freely as a part of our patriarchal society, where they subject the women of their families to immense pain. The only way to break this chain, lies in bringing up sons who are sensitive & considerate and also parents calling out their sons whenever they commit a mistake.

So so so true... you have put it all up.

This whitewashing and underplaying business of a wayward male child is a very common tale in the Indian society. And as you mention, wives are sought for them as their personal rehab centers! And the best part, the ones who treat women as sacrificial lambs also find it very normal to expect from these bleeding tortured souls to resort and submit to a life long misery, in the name of thoda adjust Kar lo!

Vijay Deshmukh is a despicable and a thankless man! He threw Pallavi out! If he considered her his daughter, why did he not suggest the same for Amruta? Hypocrite!!! Truth is till Pallavi served his purpose as per his convenience, he sheltered her. But the moment someone hurled an abuse, he threw her out as if she never mattered. He was never around when she was crying in pain but wanted to drag her back when he realized she was happy with another man. When he said that she is to be back coz his son is back, he reduced her to an inanimate object whose opinion and feelings didn't matter. This man couldn't be loyal to his wife or his brother, what else would one expect from him.

Mandar is just an advanced version of his father. On Vat Savitri day, Vijay deshmukh faked illness to stop his wife from going to meet Pallavi. And on the award function day, Mandar hurt himself to stop Pallavi from reaching out to Raghav. They are both cast out of same mold!

Originally posted by: euphoric

So so so true... you have put it all up.

This whitewashing and underplaying business of a wayward male child is a very common tale in the Indian society. And as you mention, wives are sought for them as their personal rehab centers! And the best part, the ones who treat women as sacrificial lambs also find it very normal to expect from these bleeding tortured souls to resort and submit to a life long misery, in the name of thoda adjust Kar lo!

Vijay Deshmukh is a despicable and a thankless man! He threw Pallavi out! If he considered her his daughter, why did he not suggest the same for Amruta? Hypocrite!!! Truth is till Pallavi served his purpose as per his convenience, he sheltered her. But the moment someone hurled an abuse, he threw her out as if she never mattered. He was never around when she was crying in pain but wanted to drag her back when he realized she was happy with another man. When he said that she is to be back coz his son is back, he reduced her to an inanimate object whose opinion and feelings didn't matter. This man couldn't be loyal to his wife or his brother, what else would one expect from him.

Mandar is just an advanced version of his father. On Vat Savitri day, Vijay deshmukh faked illness to stop his wife from going to meet Pallavi. And on the award function day, Mandar hurt himself to stop Pallavi from reaching out to Raghav. They are both cast out of same mold!

Soni so true... The same punishment wasn't meted to Amrutha...The bias is so obvious that an allegation by a stranger made VD throw Pallavi out without a thought or chance of an explanation...

Even now wanting Pallavi back to his house serves three fold purpose - give his son his lolipop, hurt Raghav by separating him from Pallavi and get a maid for his house to cook him meals.

I was so pissed on Saturday when he said that cook ke haath ka khana nai khana. I was glad Sulochana told him off saying they won't cook and if he doesn't want to hire a cook, then he should cook himself.

I don't know why Pallavi is wanting to cook in the D house on her own volition. I loved seeing her give instructions like a boss to the staff at RR mansion to cook :)

And as you said, VD and Mandar are cut from the same cloth. The apple doesn't fall far from the tree na 😳