In real life Abhishek is a far better human being than his father ever was or ever will be. He has way bigger and better character than his dad who could have been behind bars for his role in Bofors, Panama, Paradise leaks and inciting violence against Sikhs in 1984. Abhishek has never made sexist statements the way his dad did nor has he restricted his wife or cut her wings the way his regressive dad did to his mom.
So NO. Abhishek is not a disgrace.
Yes he has not succeeded like his dad onscreen and has no popularity, stardom, charisma, acting chops, screen presence as his dad. His professional failure does not make him a disgrace.
Sons of Raj Kapoor never came close to his stardom and iconic status but it does not mean they were disgrace.
Hema's daughter never attained 0.1% of her success nor has her looks, but it does not make her disgrace.
Bobby has not achieved stardom of his father and brother but it does not mean he is disgrace to Deol legacy.
Twinkle and Rinke are not a disgrace to legacy of Rajesh Khanna and Dimple Kapadia just because their films failed.
Disgrace is too harsh a word to use.
Looks, personality or professional success are not in anyone's hands.
Character matters. How you manage your life despite all odds, matters.
Abhishek has not committed crimes nor is he into drugs nor has bad manners. He has impeccable manners, etiquette in real life.
The only ones who can be called disgrace to legacy of their parents are criminals like Sanjay Dutt and Salman Khan. Their professional success or hits do not make up for what they did in real life. Sanjay especially tarnished name of Nargis and Sunil Dutt with his drugs, underworld links, illegal weapons, womanizing ways and open threat to kill journalist on national TV. Kapoot in real sense.
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