Since I am seeing a lot of discussions going around Patralekha, I remember when she accepted the Vaada from Virat, I have mentioned that since she was very high emotionally, her parents should have guided her to take a right decision.
Now that she has actually spoiled her life, or rather still spoiling it and making it worse for Sai just out of her jealousy, I am trying to understand how can her parents help her in this situation. But for that, I want to first analyze her parents or the bond she shares with them.
From the initial episodes, we can see that she fell for Virat(kind of crush?) when she saw how he was so close to his family. Virat remembers even zodiac signs(I believe that's what the priest asked during the puja) of all his family members. It is her first impression about him. I wont talk much about the yoga love coz we have enough posts discussing about that.
Now that she is in love with him and her parents are keen about a proposal, she wanted to meet/contact Virat ASAP. Here, I think even her friend and parents played a role in making her feel like she has been cheated by the person she met at yoga camp. I guess she never faced any rejection in her life and this is where she couldn't handle her emotions.
There are lot of parents in India who are against love marriages. I think here, her mother, instead of understanding her daughter, was more keen about Samrat and Chavans proposal. Yes, maybe any mother would be happy for getting such a proposal for her daughter, especially when she is so worried about her wedding, but why is it so common for the parents to expect their children to be emotionally strong? especially when they go through heartbreaks.
Yes, we all know that she should have taken sometime to heel from this before considering any marriage proposal. Then why couldn't her mother see that? Pakhi's dad tried a lot to explain her but let her decide. I like him :)
Once they got to know that Virat is Samrat's cousin and she will be staying in the same house as Virat, Pakhi's dad didn't want to proceed with the match, but Pakhi insisted. Again, she did so because she wanted to meet Virat. However, once her parents got to know about the promise, why didn't they stop the wedding? Some of us blame Pakhi for ruining Samrat's life and some blame Virat for ruining Samrat's(and Pakhi's) life. But they both were so emotional at that point and had no control on the emotions(doesn't mean what they did is right).
Pakhi's parents are the only ones(elders) to know the truth. In this situation, I think, as parents, they should have cancelled the wedding by letting the family know the truth, or take sometime from them or do whatever they can to give pakhi some space to understand the circumstances. Pakhi's dad clearly told her that it's not possible for Virat to keep up the promise. I don't even want to talk about her mother coz she is more keen on getting her daughter married. Maybe she thought that things will get solved after marriage(?).
I think this is where a parent should step up and take the responsibility in his/her/their hands. He did tell her multiple times that he is with his daughter no matter what decision she takes. But I think she thought that she can make Virat jealous by being close to Samrat and thereby making Virat accept his feelings for her. Her dream of Virat holding that MS shows that she was actually not ready for the wedding with Samrat.
So why didn't her father take the decision on behalf of her and save her life? coz he clearly said that 'do naav pe chalna' dialogue to her.
Being an adult doesn't mean we don't need any guidance or support in our lives. Yes, parents should not be too much interfering in their children's life, but is it not their responsibility to help their children see where they are going wrong? I am not blaming anyone here. I am just trying to understand your perspective on parenting and your opinions on the way the situation was handled.
PS: I am not doing this to understand Pakhi/to talk anything about the yoga love/to discuss whose mistake it is or anything else. Please do not post any such things as my intent is to only understand a parent's perspective. Or, as a kid, what would you expect your parents to do if at all you are about to do a mistake that effects(maybe ruin) your life.
PPS: Tagging only those whom I have recently interacted with. Please feel free to share your views :)
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